Do you think most people in their 40s are unhappy?

[Anonymous]

Dh and I are in our mid 40s, been married for almost 15 years, have 3 kids and financially secure. We should be happy and satisfied but we just aren’t.

Every single person that I know well is having relationship problems. Some are divorced or divorcing. Others just unhappily married.

Is is a midlife crisis? I don’t know.

[Anonymous]

Did one of you settle with the other after breaking off a very long relationship?

[Anonymous]

Sadly, it happens a lot

[Anonymous]

I am very happy but I did not have kids. Everything i read about satif

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am very happy but I did not have kids. Everything i read about satif

Argh! Everything i have read about satisfaction at this age is that it gets better for folks after they get out of the thick of the kid years.

https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Curve-Life-Better-After/dp/1250078806

[Anonymous]

I am pretty happy, but I feel like my early thirties were the extremely hard on me, and my mid thirties were a fight to get back to a good place, and now I’ve got it all and I appreciate it. I just worry that it’s all fleeting.

[Anonymous]

I was unhappy in my 30s. I was in a bad marriage from the start. At age 40, I decided to divorce. I am 44. I am much happier than I was.

[Anonymous]

I had more fun in my 40s than I ever could have imagined. I divorced at 42, my kids were grown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had more fun in my 40s than I ever could have imagined. I divorced at 42, my kids were grown.

Grown kids at 42? You must be country not from dc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was unhappy in my 30s. I was in a bad marriage from the start. At age 40, I decided to divorce. I am 44. I am much happier than I was.

Why was he so horrible?

[Anonymous]

I’m 43, have three kiddos under 12 and have been unhappy for years…couldn’t put my finger on it. Husband says I’m a “cliche” (lost 25+ lbs, new boobs, excelling in career, finally taking steps to heal from his affair 4 years ago). I’m pretty sure it takes until…about now for all of that to happen, but I’m not going to attribute it to “the 40s”. It’s life and now we have to make big adult decisions, that we are prepared to do in….our 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was unhappy in my 30s. I was in a bad marriage from the start. At age 40, I decided to divorce. I am 44. I am much happier than I was.

Why was he so horrible?

Too much to list. Never compatible. We should not have gotten married. Did not want to. Biggest mistake of my life. It was the worst decade.

[Anonymous]

Because we stop living. We work and parent, work and parent. No fun, no adventures, no new friendships. It takes its toll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 43, have three kiddos under 12 and have been unhappy for years…couldn’t put my finger on it. Husband says I’m a “cliche” (lost 25+ lbs, new boobs, excelling in career, finally taking steps to heal from his affair 4 years ago). I’m pretty sure it takes until…about now for all of that to happen, but I’m not going to attribute it to “the 40s”. It’s life and now we have to make big adult decisions, that we are prepared to do in….our 40s.

Your DH calls YOU a cliche after HIS affair???!!!

[Anonymous]

I'm 45, married with six kids and very happy. Busy, but happy. DH and I were just talking about this last month - how we're in the sweet spot and we need to appreciate it.