Relationship with someone you’re not initially physically attracted to

[Anonymous]

Well…is it possible? Can physical attractiveness grow on you? How has it worked out?

[Anonymous]

Yes, possible. Attraction can grow as you get to know someone. As your bond deepens you’re attracted to them — the physical part is attractive because it’s them, not because it’s objectively attractive.

A physically attractive person can also become repellent as you get to know them.

[Anonymous]

This only works for women in cases where they are not repulsed by a man. If they don't have strong feelings, they can eventually become attracted the more they get to know the person.
But there are women with very strong yes or no, and for them growing attraction is impossible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This only works for women in cases where they are not repulsed by a man. If they don't have strong feelings, they can eventually become attracted the more they get to know the person.
But there are women with very strong yes or no, and for them growing attraction is impossible.

As in, it doesn’t work for men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This only works for women in cases where they are not repulsed by a man. If they don't have strong feelings, they can eventually become attracted the more they get to know the person.
But there are women with very strong yes or no, and for them growing attraction is impossible.

As in, it doesn’t work for men?

Less frequently, I think.

Sort of related - one study showed that couples who start out as friends show more differences (background, ethnicities) than those who meet online/start romantically.

[Anonymous]

I was not attracted to my first husband, but I wanted to get married. It got to the point that intimacy felt rapey. I just couldn’t do it anymore.

[Anonymous]

I (a woman) have never had success with romantic feelings growing over time. To me, they are either there or not.

[Anonymous]

I think if you're asking you know the answer is no.

My question is why are you considering this?

[Anonymous]

Biggest attraction of my life did not start as an attraction. It was 100% psychological.

[Anonymous]

What is his income?

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman and tried a few times with great men. Never worked and I wasted both our times.

[Anonymous]

Don’t do it! Wasting your time. Ask me how I know. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Genuinely curious,

Why do women do this? What is going through your mind when you are having sex with a guy you aren’t attracted to? It’s an alien concept to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was not attracted to my first husband, but I wanted to get married. It got to the point that intimacy felt rapey. I just couldn’t do it anymore.

Damn, I feel sorry for the man having to marry and put up with a garbage wife like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think if you're asking you know the answer is no.

My question is why are you considering this?

She knows an ugly guy with money. 🙄