Hypothetical Paternity situation. WWYD ?

[Anonymous]

For the sake of this story, your DH is one of 7 kids. Yo, u have noticed he looks a bit different than his siblings, though not drastically so, the most noticeable, you could describe it as his siblings are all exact copies of each other and are good blends of the parents, he's sort of an off-brand copy, like trademark vs store-brand, : close enough that you won't really notice unless you're really looking.s that while his 4 brothers all stand 6 ft and above he's just barely touching 5'9", but hey genetics is variable. You and MIL are pretty close despite being very different in personality and values ie she's very conservative and you're more liberal, you get along great, and since you've been married you often hag out just the 2 off you. On one such girl's night, MIL has too much to drink and ends's up spilling that DH is not your FIL's son. She had an affair and DH was the result. Neither FIL nor DH knows. WWYD?
1. Would you confront MIL when sober, and insist she fess up,
2 if she didn't want to would you tell your DH?
3. Create a situation where the family did Ancestry DNA just for fun and have the truth come out that way?
4. or would you keep it to yourself, because they're a happy and loving family and don't see anything to be gained by disrupting that with paternity reveal?

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

With sites like Ancestry, he might eventually find out regardless. My aunt took one, had a close match to a family she hasn’t heard of, asked her mom if she knew them and her mom (my grandma) knew the family from her village. There were rumors her mother cheated on her father and this proved it. She was in her 70s when she found out. She was sad to have never known her bio dad. I couldn’t keep that secret especially in today’s environment.

[Anonymous]

4.

But that’s a heck of a secret to keep.

[Anonymous]

Share the info only if you want to blow up the family. If MIL wanted it known, she would have disclosed or gotten everyone DNA tests for xmas.

[Anonymous]

Hello Khloe Kardashian.

[Anonymous]

That’s a big secret to keep from your husband.

I would tell MIL that you don’t want that burden and she’s needs to tell DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s a big secret to keep from your husband.

I would tell MIL that you don’t want that burden and she’s needs to tell DH.

+1. I’d want to know personally. It might validate a lot of feelings this DH might have and give him an opportunity to build a relationship with the other family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s a big secret to keep from your husband.

I would tell MIL that you don’t want that burden and she’s needs to tell DH.

+1. And maybe give her a deadline - if she doesn't tell him by x date, you will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s a big secret to keep from your husband.

I would tell MIL that you don’t want that burden and she’s needs to tell DH.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s a big secret to keep from your husband.

I would tell MIL that you don’t want that burden and she’s needs to tell DH.

+1. And maybe give her a deadline - if she doesn't tell him by x date, you will.

Yes, definitely give her a deadline after the holidays. Maybe mid January? A month is reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Tell my husband. No secrets.

[Anonymous]

4. Seven kids?! Poor woman.

[Anonymous]

The husband would never forgive you if he found out you knew and didn’t tell him. So I’d tell MIL she has until January 7 to tell DH or I will. No need to ruin the holidays.

[Anonymous]

I would also tell MIL I couldn't keep the secret for her. He may find out one day and you don't want it to come out that you knew.