Woman here, would my salary be “good” or “bad” for me in the dating market

[Anonymous]

My DH and I were discussing if the other one would have a solid dating life if the other died or something. (Dark topic I know but we’re on vacation and having some margs, and the convo turned) I said that I would have a hard time dating due to my relative career success. I am a woman, I work in finance, my company is well known and just IPOed. I said that I don’t think men want to date women who can out earn them or out “succeed” them. My DH said he thought that was insane and that my ability to hold my own would be a huge plus out in dating land.

Do you think a woman making $300k+ is a catch or an issue to most men in the DMV? Talking general population here, do men want women they can out earn?

[Anonymous]

I don't think your salary would hurt you but you sound fairly obnoxious so that probably will.

[Anonymous]

With your wonderful attitude you won’t need to worry. Men will be beating a path to your door.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't ever get married again if DH popped his clogs. Too much to risk. Wealthy and 2 kids. I'd date though - likely no one would know my finances so that wouldn't be a problem. Maybe the fact that I'm older, not as pretty as I once was, and I have a past would be a problem. Then again I might be looking for someone similar.

[Anonymous]

Dumb convo among dumb people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With your wonderful attitude you won’t need to worry. Men will be beating a path to your door.

Lol! It was the mention of "margs" that really sealed the deal for me.

[Anonymous]

Only a-holes will date you.

[Anonymous]

Stupid conversation by people drinking margs. Throwing up.

[Anonymous]

Not sure why you are getting dumped on. Sounds like an interesting conversation for downtime. But I have no idea what the answer is. I make a bit less than you and still single. But I don’t ever get far enough for someone to be turned off or on by my salary!
Good news is that it’s plenty to take care of yourself me live a good single life. So upside either way.

[Anonymous]

You are right. You’ll be screwed. BTDT. Decided to date women instead.

[Anonymous]

In general I dislike it when DCUM piles on an OP, but here I kind of have to say it's deserved. One of my other message boards describes annoying married people as "smug marrieds" and this kind of entitled post really reeks of that. Suffice to say, being a single, educated, accomplished woman in her 30s is not easy when looking to meet a mate and your post makes it clear you have zero understanding of that. Also, please never use the term "margs" ever again.

[Anonymous]

Oh don’t listen to these folks.

I’d date you. A successful, presumably senior and intelligent woman who is mentally engaging? Done and done. Way more interesting than the 28 year old bar fly who think chicken Alfredo is a nice Italian dish.

And the fact you make money helps - it means I don’t need to worry about your interest in me being for the wrong reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh don’t listen to these folks.

I’d date you. A successful, presumably senior and intelligent woman who is mentally engaging? Done and done. Way more interesting than the 28 year old bar fly who think chicken Alfredo is a nice Italian dish.

And the fact you make money helps - it means I don’t need to worry about your interest in me being for the wrong reasons.

I suppose it’s a good change any encounters with her wouldn’t end up with a child support payment is a plus.

[Anonymous]

My SIL is newly divorced, was an early exec at a company that just IPOed and is dating up a storm.

[Anonymous]

I think most men under forty consider career success and money a plus in women. Over forty I’m not so sure.