What to do if you suspect your husband is cheating?

[Anonymous]

I don’t have any concrete evidence or a gotcha, but I strongly suspect this based on a lot of factors (e.g lack of interest in sex, lying about insignificant things, out of the blue needing to be back in the office, things just feeling off, always being with his phone). I don’t have a password to his phone, computer, email etc. so not sure what to do now. Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t have any concrete evidence or a gotcha, but I strongly suspect this based on a lot of factors (e.g lack of interest in sex, lying about insignificant things, out of the blue needing to be back in the office, things just feeling off, always being with his phone). I don’t have a password to his phone, computer, email etc. so not sure what to do now. Thoughts?

Audio recording device in his brief case and office; magnet gps tracker under car

[Anonymous]

Follow him at a distance— next time he is “called back into the office”. See if he ends up at a Marriott or a Ho’s house or a parking lot.

If you have “find my phone” on iPhone track him.

Ask to borrow his iPhone (yours is upstairs or out of battery, etc). If he didn’t let you, he’s cheating.

[Anonymous]

Drop this in his car and see if he lies about his whereabouts.

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Stop by the office unexpected and see how he reacts.

[Anonymous]

This is easy, just ask him and give him all the reasons you stated. Then just watch what happens.

[Anonymous]

Check your phone bill for a number he texts/calls frequently. Hire a PI.

[Anonymous]

Smell his breath as he walks in the door. If it smells like fish, there’s your answer.

[Anonymous]

If it gets to the point that I feel like I can't trust him, I'll just leave. I'm not going to make myself miserable and paranoid, it just isn't worth it.

[Anonymous]

I would ask if he is happy or not in the relationship. I would not bring up you suspect cheating.

If someone is truly unhappy--cheating or not--I would not want to be in the relationship. Life is too short to be miserable or to waste time in an unfulfilling, empty, going-nowhere relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it gets to the point that I feel like I can't trust him, I'll just leave. I'm not going to make myself miserable and paranoid, it just isn't worth it.

You would leave before you would just...ask?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it gets to the point that I feel like I can't trust him, I'll just leave. I'm not going to make myself miserable and paranoid, it just isn't worth it.

You would leave before you would just...ask?

If I was that unhappy, the answer wouldn't matter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it gets to the point that I feel like I can't trust him, I'll just leave. I'm not going to make myself miserable and paranoid, it just isn't worth it.

Sure. And will you pull the kids out of school? How are you going to manage that? Just tell them to pack some toys and a backpack and get in the car?

[Anonymous]

Apparently there's a movement now to "let him cheat in peace."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it gets to the point that I feel like I can't trust him, I'll just leave. I'm not going to make myself miserable and paranoid, it just isn't worth it.

Sure. And will you pull the kids out of school? How are you going to manage that? Just tell them to pack some toys and a backpack and get in the car?

Why would I take the kids out of school? That seems lile a lot of drama. I can rent a place and move without doing that. I'm perfectly capable of handling my business without traumatizing anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is easy, just ask him and give him all the reasons you stated. Then just watch what happens.

Terrible advice. Cheaters will deny till their last breath. This will just put him on high alert