This a sign that I’m too old for her/she’s too young for me?

[Anonymous]

I’m 40 and she’s 31. She has her own place and is very smart (we work in the same niche industry actually). We had a great first date and plan on seeing each other next weekend. We haven’t really spoken that much in between dates, just a few texts here and there. Well today she texted me and said that she was waiting for her flight and wanted to know if I wanted to “play a game”. The game was 21 questions.

Maybe I’m over thinking here but asking to play 21 questions via text? That’s a bit juvenile don’t you think?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she’s flirting with you and trying to have fun. If it’s not your style, that’s fine. Don’t think it has anything to do with her age.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's a chronological age thing, but it is a style thing -- are you playful or not? Do you like to text back and forth to get to know each other, or are you more terse?

I'm not sure your styles match up, and I definitely think your implication that this is worth looking down on is not a good match. Playful people should be with playful people, or at least people who don't think less of them for it.

Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Fine, but be prepared if she wants kids.

[Anonymous]

Shoot; I'd play with her. Give her my number; I'm bored.

To answer your question in the TITLE of your post, if you are asking the question, she's not the one.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you're mentally rigid. You need to fix that, because beyond dating, it will be hard to keep a spouse happy.

My husband is 18 years older than me, and he can play any game.

[Anonymous]

She’s fun. You’re not. Acknowledge and move on. I’m 60 btw.

[Anonymous]

on game pigeon? there is that game. That would be fun.

Don't overthink.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you’re just being insecure because she is younger? This your first time?

40 and 30 I’d totally fine by the way.

[Anonymous]

Not an age thing. You're too rigid.

[Anonymous]

She is just trying to have fun. Lighten up. Also, this is not a huge age gap.

-from a 44-year-old divorced woman

P.S. if her questions include serious things like do you want kids and that sort of thing, that is a good thing actually...better to know you want the same things and not waste time. I actually think she has a super smart approach to try to get to know you better before you waste each other's time

[Anonymous]

You get to decide what you think is juvenile in your relationships and your life. If you think it’s juvenile, it’s juvenile, because it is solely a question of compatibility. I am a playful person. So is my husband. We would annoy other people so I am glad we met.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is just trying to have fun. Lighten up. Also, this is not a huge age gap.

-from a 44-year-old divorced woman

P.S. if her questions include serious things like do you want kids and that sort of thing, that is a good thing actually...better to know you want the same things and not waste time. I actually think she has a super smart approach to try to get to know you better before you waste each other's time

NP, I think the issue is it’s via text. Isn’t that kind of silly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is just trying to have fun. Lighten up. Also, this is not a huge age gap.

-from a 44-year-old divorced woman

P.S. if her questions include serious things like do you want kids and that sort of thing, that is a good thing actually...better to know you want the same things and not waste time. I actually think she has a super smart approach to try to get to know you better before you waste each other's time

NP, I think the issue is it’s via text. Isn’t that kind of silly?

I think it’s fun. Heck, I’ll play 21 questions with her. And I’m not even into girls.

[Anonymous]

You’re boring.

Find a woman your own age to watch Masterpiece Theatre with on the couch on Friday nights.