Wedding vs Funeral

[Anonymous]

Your best friend's wedding who you are MOH in or your grandma's funeral? Which one should you attend if both are on the same day same time? I didn't really know my grandma real well or grow up close to her I saw her about once a year around Christmas.

I feel like I'm leaning towards going to my best friend's wedding since I made the commitment to her to be the MOH.

I also feel like I can say goodbye to my grandma in my own way it doesn't necessarily have to involve a funeral.

Ughh I hate this help!

[Anonymous]

The wedding because this is your best friend and you have a role in the wedding. Where as you said so yourself you weren't even close to your grandma.

[Anonymous]

Beat friend’s wedding

[Anonymous]

I would go to the wedding. Assuming your mother or father played a role in planning the funeral, kind of aggravating that they couldn't plan around this for you, though. That says that your support in being there is not a must-have for them.

[Anonymous]

To me this is a no brainer. I would say funeral because it's the funeral because it's the funeral of a direct family member and family comes first.

You yourself may not have been close to your grandmother but whichever one of your parents just lost their parent I'm sure are going to want to be surrounded by their children.

[Anonymous]

Wedding for sure. I really don’t get why funerals are such a big deal. My grandmas cost more than my wedding. Kind of a waste.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would go to the wedding. Assuming your mother or father played a role in planning the funeral, kind of aggravating that they couldn't plan around this for you, though. That says that your support in being there is not a must-have for them.

NP. How do you figure that? Chances are this grandparent had other children besides OP's parent which in turn means o
OP's aunts and uncles had their own children to schedule around as well.

What about all the other grandchildren and their schedules? Why is OP the only grandchild's schedule who has to be taken into account here?

I think considering the schedules of the direct children of the grandparents is the top priority here.

[Anonymous]

Wedding. Prior commitment and the living always take precedent over the dead. Send a huge floral display to the funeral.

[Anonymous]

Wedding, no question.

Look to the future, not the past.

You can honor your grandmother in a different way.

[Anonymous]

Wedding. My mother recently died and if my DD was MOH for her best friend I would insist she go to the wedding.

[Anonymous]

Wedding. And I’m a “always go to the funeral” sort of person. But being MOH is a commitment. Maybe send flowers to the services since you can’t be there. But no, I wouldn’t skip the wedding.

[Anonymous]

In this specific case I would go to the wedding.


If the details were different I'd say funeral.

[Anonymous]

Whose funeral is on a Saturday night? That’s pretty weird. Normally funerals are on weekday mornings.

I’d go to the wedding

[Anonymous]

OP here. The funeral isn't at night on Saturday it's during the day and the wedding is in the late afternoon. With the drive we can't make it to both.

[Anonymous]

I’d go to the wedding. If you can, go to the visitation before the funeral.