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I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night
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Anonymous
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No. Just the OP slowly coming to terms with reality...hopefully. |
Anonymous
| Nope. Just the OP coming to terms with reality...hopefully. |
Anonymous
| ^ Oops. Sorry about that. |
Anonymous
| So OP? Have you forgiven him already? |
Anonymous
| ^ Play nice. She's probably very vulnerable right now. |
Anonymous
That the OP has posted about this guy before- he essentially did the same thing (disappearing for hours and not returning calls) back in February. |
Anonymous
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OP, forget him, seriously. My BFF got divorced two years ago and started online dating. She hit it off with a guy who lived 2 hours away and when she told me about him, HUGE red flags went up. 1) He was divorced with a 2 year old who lived with the mom on the west coast but he never saw her, never, 2) she never went to visit him in his town, he was always "in town for business" where she lived, even though he was in the military in a not very high up position, 3) he was very clingy on the weekends they spent together in her town, but when he went back to his town he would "disappear" for a few days of no contact and act like it was no big deal, I could go on and on. Anyway, they dated for 6 months and even took a trip to the west coast together (but oddly enough, not to see his kid), she did some snooping on fb and realized he was in fact on fb even though he said he didn't have a profile and she was so naive she had never checked before. His profile picture had him with another girl and gets her name from the picture tag. she clicks on this girl's profile, her status is that she's been engaged for 9 months to my BFFs "boyfriend". So doing the math, this guy had an online dating profile that was active after her got engaged and he was engaged the entire time while with my friend. She went nuts and was super mad (understandably) but then she got a bit obsessed with it. She called him and he stopped taking her calls. He wouldn't return her emails or texts. And she would have driven to his house except she realized she didn't even have his address and she couldn't find it on google. She tracked down the fiancee and told her everything, but the fiancee seemed to want to stay with the guy which made my friend even more enraged. My friend just couldn't move on, she let it depress and upset her FOR MONTHS! I hated seeing her like this.
Don't let this happen to you. Don't make excuses, just break it off. Spending one more day of your life on this guy isn't worth it, and at some point starts being your fault. Sure it's been 6 months of your life, don't make it 6 months + even one more day. You're 27, you got tons of time to meet other men. |
Anonymous
| Someone should let the uncle know via that "contact me" on his website about this thread and what a turd his nephew is. |
Anonymous
Please leave the guy alone. His nephew is an adult; the uncle is not responsible for him. |
Anonymous
But the guy said that his uncle was engaged in bobcat poaching! Slander! |
Anonymous
| Do we know for certain the boyfriend is NOT in trouble (i.e. in jail or dead)? |
Anonymous
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No. Which is why some of us still think it is worth another call to the sheriff.
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Anonymous
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Interesting. Early on I referenced OP's earlier thread without realizing that thread was OP's - I was just remarking on the similarities and cautioning OP that her guy might not be who she thought he was. How ironic that it was actually OP writing about this very same guy, for the very same reasons.
Oh OP, my head is spinning. That you trusted him again after that first incident is mind-blowing. It means that you will be vulnerable to whatever BS he serves you tomorrow when he shows up with some crazy story. Counseling, OP, to better understand why you ask for so very little from your partner. |
Anonymous
OP here: I called once and he was supposed to call me back and he never did. I don't necessarily want to be harassing the Hampton, NY sheriff when as of now, I don't even know if I believe "my boyfriend" even was in Maine. |
Anonymous
| The uncle's email is on his website. OP, why not email him if you don't want to call? |