Do you get upset when your kids get Bs?

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Being obsessed with letter grades also means you're pushing your kid away from the harder classes. I was a dual English/STEM major. That B in Quantum Mechanics was a lot harder fought than that A in Victorian Lit.

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Anonymous wrote:I looked at my kid’s HS transcript. He got Cs in these glasses: honors Latin (he chose that one), chemistry, physics, honors algebra 1 (they wouldn’t move him down), geometry.

He got in everywhere he applied with good merit money. Do not feel out that there are no good schools for kids who aren’t perfect. Do not ruin your relationship with your child over grades. Depression and anxiety are rampant with teens. I’d be depressed too if my parents were pissed at me that I wasn’t perfect.

Similar situation here. I posted above that my A/B student got in everywhere she applied and received substantial merit aid. She’s at a great school (her top choice) and has a stellar GPA. She was more than prepared for college.

I wouldn’t want to stress her out, demanding all As, just so she can end up the same place and doing the same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually took my son out of public school and moved him to a Catholic school because he was getting straight As but not doing A work. So I paid money for him to not get all As. Public schools have pretty low expectations these days.

Not all public schools have low expectations and not every Catholic school is good. Those blanket statements don’t help anyone.

And aren’t even true. The public schools near us are so much


better than the privates. I don’t want to drive 30 minutes for a private school. Love the sense of community we have.

How are they better? They have low expectations. No thanks. If everyone has As…..

What is this bullshit about having low expectations? That could not be further from the truth. Have you always been a lying liar who lies or is this a recent character defect?

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Anonymous wrote:So sadly Bs can derail college chances. It’s not just admissions but merit aid too. With the economy in the dumpster and the price of college so high, competition for in state is crazy. Along with competition for scholarships and merit aid.

If retakes are allowed, many of the other kids with Bs are doing a retake. Your kid would end up being toward the bottom for not taking advantage of the retake option.

It’s a horrible environment for kids and very different than when we were in high school.

No, Bs don't derail college chances. Even Cs don't. Maybe if you're one of those people who don't consider anything outside of the USNWR T20 to be worthwhile, the Bs may make a difference. But there are almost 4000 accredited colleges in this country. Going to one in the top *200* still puts you in the top 5% of schools.

My college kid got two Cs in HS and is still at a T100 with substantial merit (and got into several T50 schools as well, one of them with the largest merit award they give to OOS students). College chances were far from derailed. In fact, this kid got into schools just as good, and with as much if not more merit, than my older child who had better grades overall in HS.

Then he’s probably an athlete. What was his hook? He had something obviously.

Similar situation, no hooks.

This board and the college industrial complex in general has parents and students freaked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I looked at my kid’s HS transcript. He got Cs in these glasses: honors Latin (he chose that one), chemistry, physics, honors algebra 1 (they wouldn’t move him down), geometry.

He got in everywhere he applied with good merit money. Do not feel out that there are no good schools for kids who aren’t perfect. Do not ruin your relationship with your child over grades. Depression and anxiety are rampant with teens. I’d be depressed too if my parents were pissed at me that I wasn’t perfect.

+1.

But the OP and the posters who are upset about B’s are probably gunning for top 20 and they think their kids dont stand a chance at those with a few B’s.

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Anonymous wrote:So sadly Bs can derail college chances. It’s not just admissions but merit aid too. With the economy in the dumpster and the price of college so high, competition for in state is crazy. Along with competition for scholarships and merit aid.

If retakes are allowed, many of the other kids with Bs are doing a retake. Your kid would end up being toward the bottom for not taking advantage of the retake option.

It’s a horrible environment for kids and very different than when we were in high school.

That is depressing.

Tons of colleges take kids with Bs, and offer merit aid, but maybe those are not desirable schools to the people on this forum.

The vast majority of colleges take B students. Some examples are Univ of Arizona, Mississippi, Alabama, North Carolina, plus other flagships. California State Universities, CUNY New York Universities, Montclair in New Jersey, Catholic University in DC, UMass Boston, The New School NYC, Suffolk University Boston, Marymount Univ in VA, Old Dominion, VA, Providence College RI.

That’s just a very small percentage of colleges that accept B students. Most colleges accept B students. Every state in the country has choices for B students. There are huge universities that everyone knows and there are small niche colleges that are very local.

Students will be successful if they find the right school for them.

I’ve randomly looked at the cal states and their ethnic makeup and turns out that many of them are designated as Hispanic serving institutions and first gen hubs and are in fact 30-40% Hispanic. Nothing wrong with that per se but it bothers me my kid would be a minority and who knows if he finds his tribe there.

Now you know what it's like to be a POC in a pwi. You somehow manage.

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Anonymous wrote:So sadly Bs can derail college chances. It’s not just admissions but merit aid too. With the economy in the dumpster and the price of college so high, competition for in state is crazy. Along with competition for scholarships and merit aid.

If retakes are allowed, many of the other kids with Bs are doing a retake. Your kid would end up being toward the bottom for not taking advantage of the retake option.

It’s a horrible environment for kids and very different than when we were in high school.

No, Bs don't derail college chances. Even Cs don't. Maybe if you're one of those people who don't consider anything outside of the USNWR T20 to be worthwhile, the Bs may make a difference. But there are almost 4000 accredited colleges in this country. Going to one in the top *200* still puts you in the top 5% of schools.

My college kid got two Cs in HS and is still at a T100 with substantial merit (and got into several T50 schools as well, one of them with the largest merit award they give to OOS students). College chances were far from derailed. In fact, this kid got into schools just as good, and with as much if not more merit, than my older child who had better grades overall in HS.

Then he’s probably an athlete. What was his hook? He had something obviously.

Nope, sorry to disappoint but DC was not a recruited athlete and had no other hooks.

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Anonymous wrote:So sadly Bs can derail college chances. It’s not just admissions but merit aid too. With the economy in the dumpster and the price of college so high, competition for in state is crazy. Along with competition for scholarships and merit aid.

If retakes are allowed, many of the other kids with Bs are doing a retake. Your kid would end up being toward the bottom for not taking advantage of the retake option.

It’s a horrible environment for kids and very different than when we were in high school.

That is depressing.

Tons of colleges take kids with Bs, and offer merit aid, but maybe those are not desirable schools to the people on this forum.

The vast majority of colleges take B students. Some examples are Univ of Arizona, Mississippi, Alabama, North Carolina, plus other flagships. California State Universities, CUNY New York Universities, Montclair in New Jersey, Catholic University in DC, UMass Boston, The New School NYC, Suffolk University Boston, Marymount Univ in VA, Old Dominion, VA, Providence College RI.

That’s just a very small percentage of colleges that accept B students. Most colleges accept B students. Every state in the country has choices for B students. There are huge universities that everyone knows and there are small niche colleges that are very local.

Students will be successful if they find the right school for them.

I’ve randomly looked at the cal states and their ethnic makeup and turns out that many of them are designated as Hispanic serving institutions and first gen hubs and are in fact 30-40% Hispanic. Nothing wrong with that per se but it bothers me my kid would be a minority and who knows if he finds his tribe there.

Now you know what it's like to be a POC in a pwi. You somehow manage.

I think it’s more about first gen/tradition/ SES

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Anonymous wrote:Being obsessed with letter grades also means you're pushing your kid away from the harder classes. I was a dual English/STEM major. That B in Quantum Mechanics was a lot harder fought than that A in Victorian Lit.

We had this when my kid was insisting on honors lit, I was worried he wouldn’t manage but this is the only area he is interested enough in to work extra, and even then, not always. I wish I could tell him - take what you want, I don’t care about your grades as long as the class is interesting to you and you learn something. But I can’t as I need to think about GPA

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Anonymous wrote:So sadly Bs can derail college chances. It’s not just admissions but merit aid too. With the economy in the dumpster and the price of college so high, competition for in state is crazy. Along with competition for scholarships and merit aid.

If retakes are allowed, many of the other kids with Bs are doing a retake. Your kid would end up being toward the bottom for not taking advantage of the retake option.

It’s a horrible environment for kids and very different than when we were in high school.

That is depressing.

Tons of colleges take kids with Bs, and offer merit aid, but maybe those are not desirable schools to the people on this forum.

The vast majority of colleges take B students. Some examples are Univ of Arizona, Mississippi, Alabama, North Carolina, plus other flagships. California State Universities, CUNY New York Universities, Montclair in New Jersey, Catholic University in DC, UMass Boston, The New School NYC, Suffolk University Boston, Marymount Univ in VA, Old Dominion, VA, Providence College RI.

That’s just a very small percentage of colleges that accept B students. Most colleges accept B students. Every state in the country has choices for B students. There are huge universities that everyone knows and there are small niche colleges that are very local.

Students will be successful if they find the right school for them.

I’ve randomly looked at the cal states and their ethnic makeup and turns out that many of them are designated as Hispanic serving institutions and first gen hubs and are in fact 30-40% Hispanic. Nothing wrong with that per se but it bothers me my kid would be a minority and who knows if he finds his tribe there.

Hi! I know you mean well; I really do. And I generally agree with your post, but could please try to use the more inclusive terminology, Latinx next time ? TIA!

[Anonymous]

nope and guess what these are the kids who crash out or struggle mightily in college bc guess what..no retakes and accountability from day 1
it’s ridiculous how much the race for college admission is not preparing kids for what awaits them in college

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Anonymous wrote:So sadly Bs can derail college chances. It’s not just admissions but merit aid too. With the economy in the dumpster and the price of college so high, competition for in state is crazy. Along with competition for scholarships and merit aid.

If retakes are allowed, many of the other kids with Bs are doing a retake. Your kid would end up being toward the bottom for not taking advantage of the retake option.

It’s a horrible environment for kids and very different than when we were in high school.

That is depressing.

It’s also hyperbole (to be generous). PP you responded to is simply an anxious, hyper-competitive fool who can’t think for herself.

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Anonymous wrote:Being obsessed with letter grades also means you're pushing your kid away from the harder classes. I was a dual English/STEM major. That B in Quantum Mechanics was a lot harder fought than that A in Victorian Lit.

We had this when my kid was insisting on honors lit, I was worried he wouldn’t manage but this is the only area he is interested enough in to work extra, and even then, not always. I wish I could tell him - take what you want, I don’t care about your grades as long as the class is interesting to you and you learn something. But I can’t as I need to think about GPA

No you don’t.

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Anonymous wrote:Being obsessed with letter grades also means you're pushing your kid away from the harder classes. I was a dual English/STEM major. That B in Quantum Mechanics was a lot harder fought than that A in Victorian Lit.

We had this when my kid was insisting on honors lit, I was worried he wouldn’t manage but this is the only area he is interested enough in to work extra, and even then, not always. I wish I could tell him - take what you want, I don’t care about your grades as long as the class is interesting to you and you learn something. But I can’t as I need to think about GPA

No you don’t.

Exactly. You need to chill out. Remember C’s earn degrees.

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Anonymous wrote:So sadly Bs can derail college chances. It’s not just admissions but merit aid too. With the economy in the dumpster and the price of college so high, competition for in state is crazy. Along with competition for scholarships and merit aid.

If retakes are allowed, many of the other kids with Bs are doing a retake. Your kid would end up being toward the bottom for not taking advantage of the retake option.

It’s a horrible environment for kids and very different than when we were in high school.

That is depressing.

Tons of colleges take kids with Bs, and offer merit aid, but maybe those are not desirable schools to the people on this forum.

The vast majority of colleges take B students. Some examples are Univ of Arizona, Mississippi, Alabama, North Carolina, plus other flagships. California State Universities, CUNY New York Universities, Montclair in New Jersey, Catholic University in DC, UMass Boston, The New School NYC, Suffolk University Boston, Marymount Univ in VA, Old Dominion, VA, Providence College RI.

That’s just a very small percentage of colleges that accept B students. Most colleges accept B students. Every state in the country has choices for B students. There are huge universities that everyone knows and there are small niche colleges that are very local.

Students will be successful if they find the right school for them.

I’ve randomly looked at the cal states and their ethnic makeup and turns out that many of them are designated as Hispanic serving institutions and first gen hubs and are in fact 30-40% Hispanic. Nothing wrong with that per se but it bothers me my kid would be a minority and who knows if he finds his tribe there.

Hi! I know you mean well; I really do. And I generally agree with your post, but could please try to use the more inclusive terminology, Latinx next time ? TIA!

Hispanic is a perfectly politically correct and gender neutral term. And “HSI” is the official term these colleges use