Do you get upset when your kids get Bs?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So sadly Bs can derail college chances. It’s not just admissions but merit aid too. With the economy in the dumpster and the price of college so high, competition for in state is crazy. Along with competition for scholarships and merit aid.

If retakes are allowed, many of the other kids with Bs are doing a retake. Your kid would end up being toward the bottom for not taking advantage of the retake option.

It’s a horrible environment for kids and very different than when we were in high school.

That is depressing.

Tons of colleges take kids with Bs, and offer merit aid, but maybe those are not desirable schools to the people on this forum.

The vast majority of colleges take B students. Some examples are Univ of Arizona, Mississippi, Alabama, North Carolina, plus other flagships. California State Universities, CUNY New York Universities, Montclair in New Jersey, Catholic University in DC, UMass Boston, The New School NYC, Suffolk University Boston, Marymount Univ in VA, Old Dominion, VA, Providence College RI.

That’s just a very small percentage of colleges that accept B students. Most colleges accept B students. Every state in the country has choices for B students. There are huge universities that everyone knows and there are small niche colleges that are very local.

Students will be successful if they find the right school for them.

I’ve randomly looked at the cal states and their ethnic makeup and turns out that many of them are designated as Hispanic serving institutions and first gen hubs and are in fact 30-40% Hispanic. Nothing wrong with that per se but it bothers me my kid would be a minority and who knows if he finds his tribe there.

Now you know what it's like to be a POC in a pwi. You somehow manage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sadly Bs can derail college chances. It’s not just admissions but merit aid too. With the economy in the dumpster and the price of college so high, competition for in state is crazy. Along with competition for scholarships and merit aid.

If retakes are allowed, many of the other kids with Bs are doing a retake. Your kid would end up being toward the bottom for not taking advantage of the retake option.

It’s a horrible environment for kids and very different than when we were in high school.

No, Bs don't derail college chances. Even Cs don't. Maybe if you're one of those people who don't consider anything outside of the USNWR T20 to be worthwhile, the Bs may make a difference. But there are almost 4000 accredited colleges in this country. Going to one in the top *200* still puts you in the top 5% of schools.

My college kid got two Cs in HS and is still at a T100 with substantial merit (and got into several T50 schools as well, one of them with the largest merit award they give to OOS students). College chances were far from derailed. In fact, this kid got into schools just as good, and with as much if not more merit, than my older child who had better grades overall in HS.

Then he’s probably an athlete. What was his hook? He had something obviously.

Nope, sorry to disappoint but DC was not a recruited athlete and had no other hooks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sadly Bs can derail college chances. It’s not just admissions but merit aid too. With the economy in the dumpster and the price of college so high, competition for in state is crazy. Along with competition for scholarships and merit aid.

If retakes are allowed, many of the other kids with Bs are doing a retake. Your kid would end up being toward the bottom for not taking advantage of the retake option.

It’s a horrible environment for kids and very different than when we were in high school.

That is depressing.

Tons of colleges take kids with Bs, and offer merit aid, but maybe those are not desirable schools to the people on this forum.

The vast majority of colleges take B students. Some examples are Univ of Arizona, Mississippi, Alabama, North Carolina, plus other flagships. California State Universities, CUNY New York Universities, Montclair in New Jersey, Catholic University in DC, UMass Boston, The New School NYC, Suffolk University Boston, Marymount Univ in VA, Old Dominion, VA, Providence College RI.

That’s just a very small percentage of colleges that accept B students. Most colleges accept B students. Every state in the country has choices for B students. There are huge universities that everyone knows and there are small niche colleges that are very local.

Students will be successful if they find the right school for them.

I’ve randomly looked at the cal states and their ethnic makeup and turns out that many of them are designated as Hispanic serving institutions and first gen hubs and are in fact 30-40% Hispanic. Nothing wrong with that per se but it bothers me my kid would be a minority and who knows if he finds his tribe there.

Now you know what it's like to be a POC in a pwi. You somehow manage.

I think it’s more about first gen/tradition/ SES

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being obsessed with letter grades also means you're pushing your kid away from the harder classes. I was a dual English/STEM major. That B in Quantum Mechanics was a lot harder fought than that A in Victorian Lit.

We had this when my kid was insisting on honors lit, I was worried he wouldn’t manage but this is the only area he is interested enough in to work extra, and even then, not always. I wish I could tell him - take what you want, I don’t care about your grades as long as the class is interesting to you and you learn something. But I can’t as I need to think about GPA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sadly Bs can derail college chances. It’s not just admissions but merit aid too. With the economy in the dumpster and the price of college so high, competition for in state is crazy. Along with competition for scholarships and merit aid.

If retakes are allowed, many of the other kids with Bs are doing a retake. Your kid would end up being toward the bottom for not taking advantage of the retake option.

It’s a horrible environment for kids and very different than when we were in high school.

That is depressing.

Tons of colleges take kids with Bs, and offer merit aid, but maybe those are not desirable schools to the people on this forum.

The vast majority of colleges take B students. Some examples are Univ of Arizona, Mississippi, Alabama, North Carolina, plus other flagships. California State Universities, CUNY New York Universities, Montclair in New Jersey, Catholic University in DC, UMass Boston, The New School NYC, Suffolk University Boston, Marymount Univ in VA, Old Dominion, VA, Providence College RI.

That’s just a very small percentage of colleges that accept B students. Most colleges accept B students. Every state in the country has choices for B students. There are huge universities that everyone knows and there are small niche colleges that are very local.

Students will be successful if they find the right school for them.

I’ve randomly looked at the cal states and their ethnic makeup and turns out that many of them are designated as Hispanic serving institutions and first gen hubs and are in fact 30-40% Hispanic. Nothing wrong with that per se but it bothers me my kid would be a minority and who knows if he finds his tribe there.

Hi! I know you mean well; I really do. And I generally agree with your post, but could please try to use the more inclusive terminology, Latinx next time ? TIA!

[Anonymous]

nope and guess what these are the kids who crash out or struggle mightily in college bc guess what..no retakes and accountability from day 1
it’s ridiculous how much the race for college admission is not preparing kids for what awaits them in college

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sadly Bs can derail college chances. It’s not just admissions but merit aid too. With the economy in the dumpster and the price of college so high, competition for in state is crazy. Along with competition for scholarships and merit aid.

If retakes are allowed, many of the other kids with Bs are doing a retake. Your kid would end up being toward the bottom for not taking advantage of the retake option.

It’s a horrible environment for kids and very different than when we were in high school.

That is depressing.

It’s also hyperbole (to be generous). PP you responded to is simply an anxious, hyper-competitive fool who can’t think for herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being obsessed with letter grades also means you're pushing your kid away from the harder classes. I was a dual English/STEM major. That B in Quantum Mechanics was a lot harder fought than that A in Victorian Lit.

We had this when my kid was insisting on honors lit, I was worried he wouldn’t manage but this is the only area he is interested enough in to work extra, and even then, not always. I wish I could tell him - take what you want, I don’t care about your grades as long as the class is interesting to you and you learn something. But I can’t as I need to think about GPA

No you don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being obsessed with letter grades also means you're pushing your kid away from the harder classes. I was a dual English/STEM major. That B in Quantum Mechanics was a lot harder fought than that A in Victorian Lit.

We had this when my kid was insisting on honors lit, I was worried he wouldn’t manage but this is the only area he is interested enough in to work extra, and even then, not always. I wish I could tell him - take what you want, I don’t care about your grades as long as the class is interesting to you and you learn something. But I can’t as I need to think about GPA

No you don’t.

Exactly. You need to chill out. Remember C’s earn degrees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sadly Bs can derail college chances. It’s not just admissions but merit aid too. With the economy in the dumpster and the price of college so high, competition for in state is crazy. Along with competition for scholarships and merit aid.

If retakes are allowed, many of the other kids with Bs are doing a retake. Your kid would end up being toward the bottom for not taking advantage of the retake option.

It’s a horrible environment for kids and very different than when we were in high school.

That is depressing.

Tons of colleges take kids with Bs, and offer merit aid, but maybe those are not desirable schools to the people on this forum.

The vast majority of colleges take B students. Some examples are Univ of Arizona, Mississippi, Alabama, North Carolina, plus other flagships. California State Universities, CUNY New York Universities, Montclair in New Jersey, Catholic University in DC, UMass Boston, The New School NYC, Suffolk University Boston, Marymount Univ in VA, Old Dominion, VA, Providence College RI.

That’s just a very small percentage of colleges that accept B students. Most colleges accept B students. Every state in the country has choices for B students. There are huge universities that everyone knows and there are small niche colleges that are very local.

Students will be successful if they find the right school for them.

I’ve randomly looked at the cal states and their ethnic makeup and turns out that many of them are designated as Hispanic serving institutions and first gen hubs and are in fact 30-40% Hispanic. Nothing wrong with that per se but it bothers me my kid would be a minority and who knows if he finds his tribe there.

Hi! I know you mean well; I really do. And I generally agree with your post, but could please try to use the more inclusive terminology, Latinx next time ? TIA!

Hispanic is a perfectly politically correct and gender neutral term. And “HSI” is the official term these colleges use

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being obsessed with letter grades also means you're pushing your kid away from the harder classes. I was a dual English/STEM major. That B in Quantum Mechanics was a lot harder fought than that A in Victorian Lit.

We had this when my kid was insisting on honors lit, I was worried he wouldn’t manage but this is the only area he is interested enough in to work extra, and even then, not always. I wish I could tell him - take what you want, I don’t care about your grades as long as the class is interesting to you and you learn something. But I can’t as I need to think about GPA

No you don’t.

Yeah right. You must have a very hard working kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being obsessed with letter grades also means you're pushing your kid away from the harder classes. I was a dual English/STEM major. That B in Quantum Mechanics was a lot harder fought than that A in Victorian Lit.

We had this when my kid was insisting on honors lit, I was worried he wouldn’t manage but this is the only area he is interested enough in to work extra, and even then, not always. I wish I could tell him - take what you want, I don’t care about your grades as long as the class is interesting to you and you learn something. But I can’t as I need to think about GPA

No you don’t.

Exactly. You need to chill out. Remember C’s earn degrees.

It’s only true in college and for those whose FA doesn’t depend on grades

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being obsessed with letter grades also means you're pushing your kid away from the harder classes. I was a dual English/STEM major. That B in Quantum Mechanics was a lot harder fought than that A in Victorian Lit.

We had this when my kid was insisting on honors lit, I was worried he wouldn’t manage but this is the only area he is interested enough in to work extra, and even then, not always. I wish I could tell him - take what you want, I don’t care about your grades as long as the class is interesting to you and you learn something. But I can’t as I need to think about GPA

No you don’t.

Yeah right. You must have a very hard working kid

I do not. My kid gets Bs regularly (and even Cs on occasion!). I’m not worried about his GPA for two reasons:

1) That’s his responsibility.
2) I understand that he doesn’t need to go to a top university to be a successful, functioning adult someday. I.e. he’ll be FINE.

[Anonymous]

I have been mad when my kid gets a B when it’s because he is not trying. I have also been very proud of a B he received when he pushed himself hard and tried his best. The grade is less important than your kid’s effort.

[Anonymous]

A B is a decent grade. If your kid wants to get into Harvard, yeah, a B is not gonna cut it. But there are some perfectly fine colleges that will accept Bs. Maybe you should do a rel