Do you get upset when your kids get Bs?

[Anonymous]

I have two kids in college and, no, I didn’t get upset about B’s and they both got many of them. Both are at their top choice school, respectively, and are happy and doing well socially and academically.

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Anonymous wrote:So sadly Bs can derail college chances. It’s not just admissions but merit aid too. With the economy in the dumpster and the price of college so high, competition for in state is crazy. Along with competition for scholarships and merit aid.

If retakes are allowed, many of the other kids with Bs are doing a retake. Your kid would end up being toward the bottom for not taking advantage of the retake option.

It’s a horrible environment for kids and very different than when we were in high school.

That is depressing.

Tons of colleges take kids with Bs, and offer merit aid, but maybe those are not desirable schools to the people on this forum.

The vast majority of colleges take B students. Some examples are Univ of Arizona, Mississippi, Alabama, North Carolina, plus other flagships. California State Universities, CUNY New York Universities, Montclair in New Jersey, Catholic University in DC, UMass Boston, The New School NYC, Suffolk University Boston, Marymount Univ in VA, Old Dominion, VA, Providence College RI.

That’s just a very small percentage of colleges that accept B students. Most colleges accept B students. Every state in the country has choices for B students. There are huge universities that everyone knows and there are small niche colleges that are very local.

Students will be successful if they find the right school for them.

I’m in NC. We were told that the minimum GPA your kid should have to apply to North Carolina (chapel hill) is a 4.5. Our friend’s kid scored a 35 ACT and has a 4.5 GPA, and his college counselor gave him 50/50 odds of getting in (with two legacy parents). It’s slightly better odds for NC State, but not much.

Agree. I am also in NC (Raleigh area) and roughly only the top 5% of the class from schools in the major metros get into UNC. NC state might be top 10%. Every instare kid who has a shot at UNC fits the profile above. Those not even close don’t apply. Deep legacy is meaningless as it’s so common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this - a thing? I was just out to lunch with some women I'm volunteering with through my kid's (public) high school, and two of the moms said they make their kids ask for a re-take if their kids get Bs on an assignment.
Um....

I would not be upset if my child is making their best effort. If I had reports from the teacher, or I could see on SIS, they were not turning in work or they were getting poor scores on their homework then we would have a conversation.

If they were not turning in work, we would focus on why that wasn't happening on work on developing a system to make sure work was completed on time and turned in. I would be checking SIS more regularly and having my child log into schoology to review what the assignments were. We would put up a white board and track what is due and when. I would be monitoring the process to make sure that they were developing better habits. As they got better on their own, I would back off.

If they were getting poor grades on homework, we would be doing homework together to see what they were not understanding or to correct mistakes made from rushing or not paying close enough attention. I would back off when they started to show improvement and better understood how to approach their homework properly. That should translate to better test scores.

If they were legitimately trying their hardest then my job is to support them to maintain their B and give them kudos for working their hardest.

[Anonymous]

No - not at all. I did with the first a little but have since scaled back the need for grades and school and the race to nowhere. Great documentary by the way. How parents increase their kids anxiety and self worth based on grades.

[Anonymous]

Not in college. In high school yes.

The top colleges expect straight As. It’s ridiculous, but my kids were aiming for them and I told them the reality.

Now in college- I don’t care what they get. I’ve never seen their grade reports.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not in college. In high school yes.

The top colleges expect straight As. It’s ridiculous, but my kids were aiming for them and I told them the reality.

Now in college- I don’t care what they get. I’ve never seen their grade reports.

^ and that’s because my kids could easily get them and it was about not procrastinating

[Anonymous]

I think a B is a pretty decent grade. Not everyone can get As; that would be meaningless.

Most of you need to land the helicopter.

[Anonymous]

No, not at all. DC missed 30 days of high school in his last year. That made me worried and upset. I was afraid that this showed his work ethic.
He graduated and now attends community college like we planned. He also works 25 hours a week. Nothing wrong with his work ethic. Loves the the adult life and his restaurant job.
His college grades were all As.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they are working their tails off, no. Otherwise, yeah, so most of the time, yeah.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not in college. In high school yes.

The top colleges expect straight As. It’s ridiculous, but my kids were aiming for them and I told them the reality.

Now in college- I don’t care what they get. I’ve never seen their grade reports.

^ and that’s because my kids could easily get them and it was about not procrastinating

You have no idea if your child could easily get all As. Maybe, maybe not. Too many parent claim it’s because the child is not trying. That’s not good for your kid if they did try and got a B and parent screeches how they should have tried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this - a thing? I was just out to lunch with some women I'm volunteering with through my kid's (public) high school, and two of the moms said they make their kids ask for a re-take if their kids get Bs on an assignment.
Um....

No, of course we don’t get upset. B’s are good grades. C is average.

[Anonymous]

+1

C’s earn degrees

[Anonymous]

Upset at DC, No.

But it makes me pay attention and sit down with them to see where they can improve. I will teach them the material if they didn't understand. If a retake is possible, then absolutely - why wouldn't you do the retake, that just seems foolish to me. Yes, I would tell them to do the retake.