Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No gifts is just social posturing. It’s a way to say we are so rich that there is nothing you could give us that we would ever want or use. Our kids already have everything or only like gifts that are far above what you could give at a party. We mostly just roll our eyes and decline no gift parties. They are usually also the ones where parents are spending thousands on the party to show how rich they are.
It’s a blessing to these families that you declined. Based on your take on why you think people insist on ‘no-gift’, you’re the one projecting your insecurities or jealousies.
We’re not rich and it would be apparent to anyone we are posers if we tried to pretend be. We insist on no gifts because we truly want our child’s friends to attend regardless of their families’ financial circumstances, their presence is the gift. Why is that so hard for people to comprehend?
If you absolutely have to provide a gift, then have your child give a small gift after the party. As nice as the gifts may be, my child will remember the party many years from now and not the gifts.