Happily married with a crush on neighbor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love an update on what happened? I’m in the similar predicament ,neighbor and me and his wife are friends and our kids are friends
Except we have talked ,kissed,and so on
I’m not sure how it will end but I can say it’s stressful but wonderful so far.

You're on this forum, resurrecting a dead thread, on Christmas... Sure, it's going great!

Leopards don't change their spots, PP. If he cheated with you, chances are he'll cheat on you. Enjoy it while you have it, if that's what you're into, but don't put too many eggs in this basket.

So mad I fell for another resurrected thread it’s not even Easter

[Anonymous]

I’m not emotionally incontinent so yes, but it was easy to look past and move past.

I care about my kids and my spouse to risk it all even if the other person I had crush on had no moral boundaries and reciprocated my impulsive feelings.

That and this concept of right and wrong.

Also, the risk of humiliation has deterred me. I’m not the center of the universe, so I don’t assume that everyone who flirts with me wants to act on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s been a while since I’ve had a crush. Been happily married for 10 yrs but I’ve recently felt a strong attraction to my neighbor and husband of a friend. Our boys play together a lot and we hang out socially. I have no idea if he feels anything toward me but it feels like there is this unspoken chemistry between us. Maybe I should just enjoy the fantasy (I would never act on it) but it’s feeling more intense and preoccupying, especially when we all hang out. Anyone else navigate this before?

One of my kid's friend's mother looks like Kelly Preston. First time I met her my jaw dropped. She's beautiful and has two kids and works. Yet, keeps it all together with her husband. Beautiful family. Yes, I am jealous of him and yes I want her. But, that's just that. Want doesn't mean get. Remember the other person has a life too...and most likely a life/family they don't want to utterly destroy up.

You work with the cards you are dealt - for better or worse.

[Anonymous]

Enjoy the feeling, if you are open to it you can further that experience and desire. Life’s too short to not enjoy these small adventures. No one here knows you and your husband’s relationship only you do. If your husband is fine with it go for it and have fun.

[Anonymous]

Also realize that often women feel a good looking man being kind and talking to you is hitting on you. There is a reason I have a beautiful younger woman and you are married to your frompy husband. We have a great bond, work out together, and help each other make good food choices. She is aware of her friends and other women who make advances on me. At times, it assumes me and I smile, but it is tiresome and I really don't enjoy it. While yes, some of them I am attracted to, this isn't what I am looking for. I work on my marriage and have an active love life with my wife because of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not emotionally incontinent so yes, but it was easy to look past and move past.

I care about my kids and my spouse to risk it all even if the other person I had crush on had no moral boundaries and reciprocated my impulsive feelings.

That and this concept of right and wrong.

Also, the risk of humiliation has deterred me. I’m not the center of the universe, so I don’t assume that everyone who flirts with me wants to act on it.

Ooh, I had a similar experience. I felt so bad for his wife and kids that he was ready to jump any woman who had the mildest interest in him. It immediately turned me back off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also realize that often women feel a good looking man being kind and talking to you is hitting on you. There is a reason I have a beautiful younger woman and you are married to your frompy husband. We have a great bond, work out together, and help each other make good food choices. She is aware of her friends and other women who make advances on me. At times, it assumes me and I smile, but it is tiresome and I really don't enjoy it. While yes, some of them I am attracted to, this isn't what I am looking for. I work on my marriage and have an active love life with my wife because of it.

lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here and If he senses you’re interested, I guarantee he fantasizes. I heard one of my neighbors thought I was hot - she was about 100 pounds heavier than what I would normally prefer, but I still couldn’t stop thinking about doing naughty things with her.

This is funny I’m crushing on my neighbor badly and I mean badly and unfortunately he knows it lol 😂 I’m married and I have him over him and his brother for dinner all the time just to look at his beautiful blue eyes and fantasy about his touch always wonder if he ever think anything about it lol 😂 I figured he would never I’m 38 he is 65 like my husband