I’m being cheated on again

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He is 60 and cheating? What in the hell?

Yeah. With other women in our age range - 50s-60s. I’ve seen the texts and pics. Someone else he was seeing sent them all to me. I feel very stupid and very hurt and the irony is I really love him, I fell in love again after heart broken by my ex and now it feels like it’s being broken again. I’ve read some threads on cheating and everyone says not to blame yourself, but it’s hard not to wonder what it is that’s wrong with me that men who I’m supposedly in monogamous, loving relationships with cheat. It hurts. I’ve never quite felt like this - I feel frozen, numb and sick.

If it makes you feel better---narc cheaters tend to pick 'high value' women as the 'main' piece/wife/significant other. The women are empathetic, very attractive, successful, highly desirable, basically all the qualities anyone could want. This is to reflect back on them. If they can get a main piece like this--they must be very high value themselves.

Basically--you are a target. And, attractive women attract attractive, successful men and attractive, successful men have many more options/opportunity to cheat.

So what about the unattractive blue collar men typrs who cheat? Jeff bezos cheated and he isn't hot

[Anonymous]

It may be time to change your expectations around dating and exclusivity. Date for fun but not for commitment. What do you need from a man, anyway? Women are generally better companions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is 60 and cheating? What in the hell?

Yeah. With other women in our age range - 50s-60s. I’ve seen the texts and pics. Someone else he was seeing sent them all to me. I feel very stupid and very hurt and the irony is I really love him, I fell in love again after heart broken by my ex and now it feels like it’s being broken again. I’ve read some threads on cheating and everyone says not to blame yourself, but it’s hard not to wonder what it is that’s wrong with me that men who I’m supposedly in monogamous, loving relationships with cheat. It hurts. I’ve never quite felt like this - I feel frozen, numb and sick.

If it makes you feel better---narc cheaters tend to pick 'high value' women as the 'main' piece/wife/significant other. The women are empathetic, very attractive, successful, highly desirable, basically all the qualities anyone could want. This is to reflect back on them. If they can get a main piece like this--they must be very high value themselves.

Basically--you are a target. And, attractive women attract attractive, successful men and attractive, successful men have many more options/opportunity to cheat.

So what about the unattractive blue collar men typrs who cheat? Jeff bezos cheated and he isn't hot

He’s rich AF. Billionaires become “10s” no matter what they look like. Duh.

Hot and a decent job and fugly but a billionaire = are the same. Actually- billionaire can get anyone.

[Anonymous]

Mine is a cheater too. He is a “serial sexter”. He’s pushing 60. He loves the attention, basically. He likes the high he gets and he can live out whatever fantasies with the virtual women. I am the Mary Ann. He likes his Gingers on the side.

[Anonymous]

So, OP, you say you got divorced from your ex after "he cheated on me for years and finally left me for someone else." Are you saying that you were aware (or at least suspected) that the cheating was going on for "years" but you never did the leaving or ending? You waited for him to leave? Or were you oblivious to the cheating until he was walking out the door?

If the former, I think there's some introspection that needs to take place. You might be selecting men who are fundamentally broken or unable or unwilling to be faithful. Do you try to "save" and "take care" of men? Do you adjust who you are to meet what you think are their expectations? Are you able to be yourself around someone you're in a relationship with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in my 50s, hes in his 60s.

When does this ever end?

What a loser. Sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gross!!

Seriously. Why would anyone want 60yo D?

Signed,
A 55yo

[Anonymous]

OP - this one really hurts because it’s so new. You made it through the first time and you’ll make it through again!

It’s like having a newborn - each day things get a little better until you’re no longer a zombie and actually kind of have your crap together. This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with happening to fall for another jackass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gross!!

Seriously. Why would anyone want 60yo D?

Signed,
A 55yo

I know women cheating on husbands in their 50s. All over the apps. It’s so nasty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gross!!

Seriously. Why would anyone want 60yo D?

Signed,
A 55yo

I know women cheating on husbands in their 50s. All over the apps. It’s so nasty.

With peri meno/meno-- i can't imagine !

[Anonymous]

It ends when you want it to end Op
you walk away

[Anonymous]

Man here - I've been a pretty lousey partner at times, but I've never cheated. Ladies, it ends when you say it ends, don't tolerate it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here - I've been a pretty lousey partner at times, but I've never cheated. Ladies, it ends when you say it ends, don't tolerate it.

This is a sincere question: among your friends, how many cheat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here - I've been a pretty lousey partner at times, but I've never cheated. Ladies, it ends when you say it ends, don't tolerate it.

This is a sincere question: among your friends, how many cheat?

Sorry, to clarify, among your male friends, how many of them cheat?

[Anonymous]

I am very confused by the Jeff Bezos remark.
He had an overlapping relationship. Big deal. It’s all sorted now. So did the Queen of England. It’s all sorted now.