Anyone know anything about Brearley School in NYC? Son is dating

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lol the NCS strivers in here.

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Anonymous wrote:She has a brain. Brearley is generally regarded as the most prestigious of the all girls schools in Manhattan. Yes, it's very expensive. But as private schools go, it is very generous with financial aid. It also has a reputation for rejecting girls who are legacies from wealthy families who are not particularly smart themselves. Decades ago, it was the "blue stocking" school. (See this is you aren't familiar with that term.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bluestocking ) It admitted Jews at a time when some of the WASPy private schools did not.

It was NEVER the kind of school parents enrolled their daughters in with the hope that they would meet a nice rich boy and marry him shortly after her coming out party. It was the kind of school that wealthy parents who valued education and wanted their daughters to be as well educated as their sons chose.

So, yes, most--though certainly not all--Brearley girls are from wealthy families, but it also has a rep as an academic pressure cooker. College matriculation is impressive. https://www.brearley.org/student-life/upper-school/college-advising

Which schools do parents send their DDs to with hopes that they’ll hook a rich husband?

As the old adage goes - Chapin girls date doctors, Spence girls marry doctors, and Brearley girls are doctors.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She has a brain. Brearley is generally regarded as the most prestigious of the all girls schools in Manhattan. Yes, it's very expensive. But as private schools go, it is very generous with financial aid. It also has a reputation for rejecting girls who are legacies from wealthy families who are not particularly smart themselves. Decades ago, it was the "blue stocking" school. (See this is you aren't familiar with that term.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bluestocking ) It admitted Jews at a time when some of the WASPy private schools did not.

It was NEVER the kind of school parents enrolled their daughters in with the hope that they would meet a nice rich boy and marry him shortly after her coming out party. It was the kind of school that wealthy parents who valued education and wanted their daughters to be as well educated as their sons chose.

So, yes, most--though certainly not all--Brearley girls are from wealthy families, but it also has a rep as an academic pressure cooker. College matriculation is impressive. https://www.brearley.org/student-life/upper-school/college-advising

So, NCS + Jews.

About 8% of my NCS class was Jewish, which is about the same percentage as my kid’s current non-secular k-8 class.

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Anonymous wrote:Our son shared he is dating a college classmate who graduated from Brearley. It seems quite prestigious?

Never heard of it

[Anonymous]

Brearley may very well be a prestigious school, but I attended FCPS my whole life before HYPS for both undergrad and law school, and still had never heard of it until reading DCUM private school threads in my 40s.

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It means she went to private school. No different than if she was from DC and went to NCS or Boston and went to Nobles. Or a million other places that have private schools. And if they live in NYC I guess they can afford it but doesn’t necessarily mean they are billionaires.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the girls name? I'll Google her for you

Hahaha.

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Anonymous wrote:It means she went to private school. No different than if she was from DC and went to NCS or Boston and went to Nobles. Or a million other places that have private schools. And if they live in NYC I guess they can afford it but doesn’t necessarily mean they are billionaires.

This is overstating things a bit IMO. All major cities have their version of "prestigious private school," but you have to concede that NYC is its own animal and not entirely interchangeable with DC and Boston.

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Anonymous wrote:lol the NCS strivers in here.

NCS is a great school but it is not anywhere near the old money wealth and sophisticated cosmopolitan vibe of Brearley.

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Anonymous wrote:Very strange post. No different than someone in dc going to NCS.

Doesn’t like half of NCS end up at UMD VT and UVA? Fine schools but those are irrelevant degree mills to high brow New Yorkers.

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The head of Brearley admissions is a graduate of NCS (and Beauvoir). The schools have a strong relationship when families between DC & NYC. They are very similar in rigor.

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It is an excellent, very traditional all-girls school. Give him $30,000 for a nice engagement ring and order him to propose somewhere on campus their senior year and build a life together. Gals from such a background don’t grow on trees. Lose her and he will never do better.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has a brain. Brearley is generally regarded as the most prestigious of the all girls schools in Manhattan. Yes, it's very expensive. But as private schools go, it is very generous with financial aid. It also has a reputation for rejecting girls who are legacies from wealthy families who are not particularly smart themselves. Decades ago, it was the "blue stocking" school. (See this is you aren't familiar with that term.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bluestocking ) It admitted Jews at a time when some of the WASPy private schools did not.

It was NEVER the kind of school parents enrolled their daughters in with the hope that they would meet a nice rich boy and marry him shortly after her coming out party. It was the kind of school that wealthy parents who valued education and wanted their daughters to be as well educated as their sons chose.

So, yes, most--though certainly not all--Brearley girls are from wealthy families, but it also has a rep as an academic pressure cooker. College matriculation is impressive. https://www.brearley.org/student-life/upper-school/college-advising

Which schools do parents send their DDs to with hopes that they’ll hook a rich husband?

As the old adage goes - Chapin girls date doctors, Spence girls marry doctors, and Brearley girls are doctors.

Thanks! Very helpful. If this is indeed true, I’d aim my girls for Spence!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has a brain. Brearley is generally regarded as the most prestigious of the all girls schools in Manhattan. Yes, it's very expensive. But as private schools go, it is very generous with financial aid. It also has a reputation for rejecting girls who are legacies from wealthy families who are not particularly smart themselves. Decades ago, it was the "blue stocking" school. (See this is you aren't familiar with that term.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bluestocking ) It admitted Jews at a time when some of the WASPy private schools did not.

It was NEVER the kind of school parents enrolled their daughters in with the hope that they would meet a nice rich boy and marry him shortly after her coming out party. It was the kind of school that wealthy parents who valued education and wanted their daughters to be as well educated as their sons chose.

So, yes, most--though certainly not all--Brearley girls are from wealthy families, but it also has a rep as an academic pressure cooker. College matriculation is impressive. https://www.brearley.org/student-life/upper-school/college-advising

Which schools do parents send their DDs to with hopes that they’ll hook a rich husband?

As the old adage goes - Chapin girls date doctors, Spence girls marry doctors, and Brearley girls are doctors.

Thanks! Very helpful. If this is indeed true, I’d aim my girls for Spence!

It’s not, but the adage is reversed for Chapin and Spence. Historically, Chapin had the reputation as the WASP-iest and had the most generational wealth. Spence’s reputation was that it was flashier took girls from new money families. Brearley admitted girls from a wide array of backgrounds — they didn’t care as much about status as their academic aptitude. They also trained girls for careers; Chapin and Spence valued education, but a working wife was frowned upon. Of course, these are wildly outdated stereotypes, but if folks are going to talk about them, then they need to understand where they started.

Also, comparing these schools is also like comparing HYP. One might have the most name recognition, but these schools all have top-notch academics and are considered the best in the country. Families often apply to all three and often only get into one, if any.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has a brain. Brearley is generally regarded as the most prestigious of the all girls schools in Manhattan. Yes, it's very expensive. But as private schools go, it is very generous with financial aid. It also has a reputation for rejecting girls who are legacies from wealthy families who are not particularly smart themselves. Decades ago, it was the "blue stocking" school. (See this is you aren't familiar with that term.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bluestocking ) It admitted Jews at a time when some of the WASPy private schools did not.

It was NEVER the kind of school parents enrolled their daughters in with the hope that they would meet a nice rich boy and marry him shortly after her coming out party. It was the kind of school that wealthy parents who valued education and wanted their daughters to be as well educated as their sons chose.

So, yes, most--though certainly not all--Brearley girls are from wealthy families, but it also has a rep as an academic pressure cooker. College matriculation is impressive. https://www.brearley.org/student-life/upper-school/college-advising

Which schools do parents send their DDs to with hopes that they’ll hook a rich husband?

As the old adage goes - Chapin girls date doctors, Spence girls marry doctors, and Brearley girls are doctors.

Thanks! Very helpful. If this is indeed true, I’d aim my girls for Spence!

It’s not, but the adage is reversed for Chapin and Spence. Historically, Chapin had the reputation as the WASP-iest and had the most generational wealth. Spence’s reputation was that it was flashier took girls from new money families. Brearley admitted girls from a wide array of backgrounds — they didn’t care as much about status as their academic aptitude. They also trained girls for careers; Chapin and Spence valued education, but a working wife was frowned upon. Of course, these are wildly outdated stereotypes, but if folks are going to talk about them, then they need to understand where they started.

Also, comparing these schools is also like comparing HYP. One might have the most name recognition, but these schools all have top-notch academics and are considered the best in the country. Families often apply to all three and often only get into one, if any.

Ugh, I made typos here, but the point still stands. OP, if your son's GF made it through Brearely, then she's fiercely intelligent and has a thick skin.