Is it ever reasonable for a woman to want to conceive a child with a married man?
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Anonymous
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If the woman is single, if she loves the married man and vice versa, if they are planning a future together, if the married man is separated* (living under the same roof as the wife but in separate rooms* while they prepare to inform their young kids about the upcoming divorce), if the man and his wife are indeed planning to divorce amicably* and have begun the divorce process*, and if the woman is concerned about her biological clock and doesn't want to wait for the divorce to be final, is it within the realm of reason for the woman to want and actively try to conceive a child with the married man (and for the married man to agree)? Or is it simply screwed up, crazy, stupid and selfish?
(*unverified beyond man's words and actions, but in all likelihood apparent to be true). |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
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Disgusting
You are a whore |
Anonymous
| Bad idea. is 6months to a year really going to torpedo your chances of conceiving? Just wait. He isn't a sure thing yet. Let the ink dry on the divorce, then go at it with TTC. |
Anonymous
| Don't let your fear of your biological clock steal your self-respect. You deserve a man who is unattached and understands how unfair it is to make promises to you while still living under the same roof as another woman. |
Anonymous
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No.
Here is something that I knew, but didn't really get, until I married, had a kid, and then found out my H had some major issues leading to divorce. Once you have a kid with someone, you are forever linked. How are you going to feel having to interact with him years down the road when he is still with the wife, or has married you and is making similar promises to some other woman? You realize those are the most likely outcomes, right? Just go to a sperm bank if you really want a kid. I'm serious. |
Anonymous
| If I were the wife I'd beat your ass. |
Anonymous
Yes. A friend of mine was dating a man who told her he was legally separated and planning on a divorce. However, this wasn't true. When she got pregnant completely unintentionally, she ended up a single parent. |
Anonymous
| Crazy, screwed up, selfish. All that and more. |
Anonymous
| You are too naive for motherhood If you have to asterisk your future with a man, you have no future |
Anonymous
| He's not actually going to get a divorce so it's a terrible idea. |
Anonymous
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If he truly wanted out he'd be out. No alleged separate rooms until they tell the kids. Really? Kids notice when parents are in separate rooms. I'd doubt that's true.
Even if this guy follows through on the divorce and marries you, kids can do math. Get pregnant before the divorce is final and the kids will be well aware that you, the other woman, were pregnant while the parents were still married, and were this the cause of the divorce (and the ruination of their ideal lives). Just ask me how I feel about the woman my dad was screwing in 1982, while my parents were still married. While illogical, I can forgive my dad to some degree, but will NEVER forgive her. You would be her. |
Anonymous
| I could be wrong but I don't think OP is the woman in question, I think it's her friend. She posted about her friend dating a married man sometime in the past few months. |
Anonymous
| Bad idea. If he wanted out he would be out. If he will do this once, how does she know he won't do it again. |
Anonymous
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Absolutely 0% of that situation is reasonable.
And procreating with someone who is unfaithful is a spectacularly bad idea - is that really the dad you want for your kids?. Procreating with someone who is unfaithful and still living with his wife and young kids takes bad idea to a whole new level. |