Divorced dad looking for a wealthy woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On the flip side my BIL is 45 and very wealthy. He has no interest in getting into a relationship with someone with a low or no income because they would see him as a meal ticket. This will certainly limit his opportunities but he accepts it as he does date just to have fun.

NP and there's a lot of space between wealthy and low/no income. I think being wealthy beyond, say, $300K HHI is somewhat overrated esp. Given the sacrifice you will have to make a most jobs to earn that income. My source is that we make that much and still save a ton, could have a nice life on less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I don’t know. My experience is that when the pay gap is huge it *could* create conflicts.

I make 110k and DW 380k. I don’t know if it’s the stress of her job or the fact that her job title got over head or just a *boss lady* mania our marriage is a disaster and we are heading for divorce. I’ll spare folks the details of our issues but I’ll just say that big pay gap can create unhealthy dynamics at home. And it goes both ways. Women married to men that make significantly more are similarly in challenging marriages.

That’s enough money to pay a housekeeper and a chef.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That's not a good look on a man, OP. Better to make your own money and be independent.

Ah I thought we were in the era of absolute gender equality.

What gave you that idea? Or was this the response you were baiting with the OP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re not wrong for seeking this I just don’t think you’ll have any luck. I’m an attractive divorced 39yo with two kids making $350k. Since I don’t need money and don’t want more kids, and all my emotional support needs are met by girlfriends/family, I have no reason at all to introduce male nonsense into my life. I might consider it if there was a huge upside for me, as in he makes $2M+. Otherwise I’m perfectly content to remain single forever. I love having my own space and doing literally whatever I want at all times when the kids are with their dad. Why in the world would I give that up for someone who can’t even afford the same lifestyle as me, much less treat me to a nicer one?

Interesting take. Women though would have luck finding men who fit your situation. I wish men were smart like you.

DP.

You are assuming that everyone wants the same things in life.
Just because this particular woman is content being single does not mean that everyone is.
Some people see great value in long term monogamous relationships. If the only downside is a compatible partner making 120k while they make 380k, these people might be willing to take that risk.

So smart people can make different decisions.

[Anonymous]

I am older now (50 year woman) but by 45 was earning close to $950k. I did date very low earners but they tended to be very attractive with very hot bodies (eg personal trainers). Now I am like the pp who doesn’t bother dating that much. I don’t need the money and wealthy guys tend to be unattractive in other ways.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re not wrong for seeking this I just don’t think you’ll have any luck. I’m an attractive divorced 39yo with two kids making $350k. Since I don’t need money and don’t want more kids, and all my emotional support needs are met by girlfriends/family, I have no reason at all to introduce male nonsense into my life. I might consider it if there was a huge upside for me, as in he makes $2M+. Otherwise I’m perfectly content to remain single forever. I love having my own space and doing literally whatever I want at all times when the kids are with their dad. Why in the world would I give that up for someone who can’t even afford the same lifestyle as me, much less treat me to a nicer one?

What about sex? Do you miss it or need it?

DP. Don't need to marry a guy to get sex. We're perfectly fine having boyfriends for that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How big is your dong?

Crude but true. OP?

I think it’s a myth to say that men with big dongs will have a an advantage here. I would cheaper for those women to get those 13 inch toy and get the same end result. And women know how to please themselves far more than men can anyways lol.

Not the same if you like PIV sex. No need for huge, btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women know what they want and men don’t. You are not going to find many examples of women falling into this trap of taking care of a looser.

Don't want to take care of anyone and their household needs once I am done with husband. I have my kids to fill that need very well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am older now (50 year woman) but by 45 was earning close to $950k. I did date very low earners but they tended to be very attractive with very hot bodies (eg personal trainers). Now I am like the pp who doesn’t bother dating that much. I don’t need the money and wealthy guys tend to be unattractive in other ways.

+1

[Anonymous]

Good luck with that salary and grammar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So how do I go about finding one of those wealthy woman? I am divorced 44 2 kids good looking in great shape and work as an Economist. Which App is best for meeting a single lady that earn significantly more than I do ( I make 120k).

Society thinks it’s totally Okay for women to seek wealthy men. Well I am seeking a similarly wealthy single woman.

OP, I would ask this of either gender - WHAT do YOU bring to the table? If the partner is supposed to be a paycheck - you are going to have a rough time!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re not wrong for seeking this I just don’t think you’ll have any luck. I’m an attractive divorced 39yo with two kids making $350k. Since I don’t need money and don’t want more kids, and all my emotional support needs are met by girlfriends/family, I have no reason at all to introduce male nonsense into my life. I might consider it if there was a huge upside for me, as in he makes $2M+. Otherwise I’m perfectly content to remain single forever. I love having my own space and doing literally whatever I want at all times when the kids are with their dad. Why in the world would I give that up for someone who can’t even afford the same lifestyle as me, much less treat me to a nicer one?

I love this post. Men listen up be like this woman okay. Wealthy guys out there take notes.

The difference is the emotional support aspect

[Anonymous]

There are matchmaking services, do your research. But you too will have to pass the screen first!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re not wrong for seeking this I just don’t think you’ll have any luck. I’m an attractive divorced 39yo with two kids making $350k. Since I don’t need money and don’t want more kids, and all my emotional support needs are met by girlfriends/family, I have no reason at all to introduce male nonsense into my life. I might consider it if there was a huge upside for me, as in he makes $2M+. Otherwise I’m perfectly content to remain single forever. I love having my own space and doing literally whatever I want at all times when the kids are with their dad. Why in the world would I give that up for someone who can’t even afford the same lifestyle as me, much less treat me to a nicer one?

What about sex? Do you miss it or need it?

Every 4-6 weeks I visit a former colleague who lives in NYC and spend the day in bed with him. Sometimes I think it’d be nice to have someone local but to be honest I like that the distance naturally limits the amount of time we spend together without us having to discuss or negotiate it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I don’t know. My experience is that when the pay gap is huge it *could* create conflicts.

I make 110k and DW 380k. I don’t know if it’s the stress of her job or the fact that her job title got over head or just a *boss lady* mania our marriage is a disaster and we are heading for divorce. I’ll spare folks the details of our issues but I’ll just say that big pay gap can create unhealthy dynamics at home. And it goes both ways. Women married to men that make significantly more are similarly in challenging marriages.

That’s enough money to pay a housekeeper and a chef.

It’s different. Men feel proud to be able to afford to give their family that lifestyle. Women fee resentful that the man can’t do that.