Teen girl telling boyfriend no sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:not a troll. just saying, she might have some issues around sex worth figuring out and while this boyfriend is not very important, a later one might be.

She’s 16! I didn’t have sex until I was out of high school and also have no other issues with sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only helpful advice is that it's okay to lose him.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:not a troll. just saying, she might have some issues around sex worth figuring out and while this boyfriend is not very important, a later one might be.

When I was 16 I was mature enough to know I wasn't mature enough to have sex. I saw my friends hooking up with boys left and right whether it was casual or a serious relationship, and I fooled around a little in HS, but very little, and knew I needed to wait. I was 21 before I was ready and had found someone I wanted to have sex with. Waiting was what felt right to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not a troll. just saying, she might have some issues around sex worth figuring out and while this boyfriend is not very important, a later one might be.

When I was 16 I was mature enough to know I wasn't mature enough to have sex. I saw my friends hooking up with boys left and right whether it was casual or a serious relationship, and I fooled around a little in HS, but very little, and knew I needed to wait. I was 21 before I was ready and had found someone I wanted to have sex with. Waiting was what felt right to me.

Did you have a long term boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:not a troll. just saying, she might have some issues around sex worth figuring out and while this boyfriend is not very important, a later one might be.

Wtf? You think something is wrong with her because she’s a 16 yo not ready for sex? She should risk a teenage pregnancy because her hormonal boyfriend might dump her if she turns him down? I hope you don’t have children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teen girl 16 wants to tell her boyfriend (also 16) she’s not up for sex (of any kind) while she’s in high school. She’s worried she’s going to lose him and she’s not sure how to approach it.

I want to offer her helpful advice, but I’m not sure what to say.

Tell her lots of us regret sleeping with our HS boyfriends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not a troll. just saying, she might have some issues around sex worth figuring out and while this boyfriend is not very important, a later one might be.

She’s 16! I didn’t have sex until I was out of high school and also have no other issues with sex.

how many boyfriends did you have during this time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not a troll. just saying, she might have some issues around sex worth figuring out and while this boyfriend is not very important, a later one might be.

Wtf? You think something is wrong with her because she’s a 16 yo not ready for sex? She should risk a teenage pregnancy because her hormonal boyfriend might dump her if she turns him down? I hope you don’t have children.

please with the teenage pregnancy. yes, i do have children, girls in fact.

i never said do it for the boyfriend, omg, if she doesn't he will break up with her!!! i just find it curious that a 16 year old is 1) having a boyfriend yet 2) ruling out sex completely. what are they doing all day long? they are not 12.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:not a troll. just saying, she might have some issues around sex worth figuring out and while this boyfriend is not very important, a later one might be.

When I was 16 I was mature enough to know I wasn't mature enough to have sex. I saw my friends hooking up with boys left and right whether it was casual or a serious relationship, and I fooled around a little in HS, but very little, and knew I needed to wait. I was 21 before I was ready and had found someone I wanted to have sex with. Waiting was what felt right to me.

Did you have a long term boyfriend?

I didn't date anyone my junior year, but did date someone from the last week of that June through August the following year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only helpful advice is that it's okay to lose him.

This. Most teen boys are not going to want a long term relationship with no sex of any kind. It's ok for him to want something and ok for her to want nothing and ok for them to break up over it.

Did you go to high school in the 1980s? Teens are having less sex these days.

Yes, she might lose him, but lots of teen boys especially in high school are happy to have a girlfriend and get SOME action because plenty of their friends aren't having sex either.

[Anonymous]

if they are studying all day long, as you are implying, why do they need a GF/BF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teen girl 16 wants to tell her boyfriend (also 16) she’s not up for sex (of any kind) while she’s in high school. She’s worried she’s going to lose him and she’s not sure how to approach it.

I want to offer her helpful advice, but I’m not sure what to say.

Tell her lots of us regret sleeping with our HS boyfriends.

And lots of us don't

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only helpful advice is that it's okay to lose him.

SERIOUSLY. Why is this even a question OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only helpful advice is that it's okay to lose him.

This. Most teen boys are not going to want a long term relationship with no sex of any kind. It's ok for him to want something and ok for her to want nothing and ok for them to break up over it.

Did you go to high school in the 1980s? Teens are having less sex these days.

Yes, she might lose him, but lots of teen boys especially in high school are happy to have a girlfriend and get SOME action because plenty of their friends aren't having sex either.

is she going to give him some action? this is not how i am reading this. i also find it weird that she has this very strict principle and needs to declare it to him right now? should this not be more of the play it by the ear type of situation? does she like him? so many questions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only helpful advice is that it's okay to lose him.

This. If he's not ok with it then that's ok.
Doesn't make the boyfriend "bad" but he's not the right one for her. If he was, he'd understand. Simple as that.