If you are Catholic and consider yourself "observant"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

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I'm going to guess that the OP skipped mass one Sunday and the DH is being a jerk about it. I think you can certainly still be an observant Catholic if you skip mass here and there, but as a rule you should be attending

False. Missing mass is a mortal sin. Attending mass on sundays is a core element of being observant. If you're child is of the age to receive communion, you are also obligated to ensure they attend weekly as well.

False it’s only a mortal sin to miss Easter mass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what things do you consider to part of raising a child Catholic?

DH and I are currently separated, and they are with me most of the time. DH is Catholic, and our custody agreement specifies that I will raise the kids as observant Catholics. So, I'm wondering, what other reasonable Catholic people would think meets the definition.

I should note that DH's favorite hobby is threatening to file for contempt for minor things. So, I'm trying to get some other opinions on what's reasonable.

Attend Mass.
Attend Religious Ed classes until confirmed or 14.
We prayed together. At a young age just grace before meals and a goodnight prayer. In ES, we add a chaplet of the Rosary once a week.
Charitable giving and corporal acts of Mercy.
Abstaining from meat on Fridays in Lent.

[Anonymous]

Well, he sounds awful.

I'm pretty sure this goes deeper than his nitpicking. But yes, I would say, take them to church, put them in CCD if they go to public school, and get them through confirmation. Hang in there!

[Anonymous]

OP here,

The issue isn’t mass. I get that’s a requirement.

The most recent issue is about me letting my oldest, who is confirmed, skip youth group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

The issue isn’t mass. I get that’s a requirement.

The most recent issue is about me letting my oldest, who is confirmed, skip youth group.

Skipping youth group after confirmation is fine. I did it all the time and grew up in a very strict Catholic home.

[Anonymous]

Not getting divorced would be one thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

+1

+3

I'm going to guess that the OP skipped mass one Sunday and the DH is being a jerk about it. I think you can certainly still be an observant Catholic if you skip mass here and there, but as a rule you should be attending

False. Missing mass is a mortal sin. Attending mass on sundays is a core element of being observant. If you're child is of the age to receive communion, you are also obligated to ensure they attend weekly as well.

And yet, many of us have missed mass on occasion. I suspect op’s nitpicky spouse is not as diligent in his observations of the rule as you are.

When you miss mass , you need to confess it as a sin before you can receive the eucharist again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

The issue isn’t mass. I get that’s a requirement.

The most recent issue is about me letting my oldest, who is confirmed, skip youth group.

Skipping youth group after confirmation is fine. I did it all the time and grew up in a very strict Catholic home.

Yeah, youth group is not mandatory. And if your kid is confirmed, it's really up to them to be observant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not getting divorced would be one thing.

Right? How observant can her ex even be if he got divorced? I suppose if he never remarries, it's technically fine, since the church doesn't recognize divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not getting divorced would be one thing.

Right? How observant can her ex even be if he got divorced? I suppose if he never remarries, it's technically fine, since the church doesn't recognize divorce.

We aren't divorced.

But he can't actually force me to be with him. I do have some say in the matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

+1

+3

I'm going to guess that the OP skipped mass one Sunday and the DH is being a jerk about it. I think you can certainly still be an observant Catholic if you skip mass here and there, but as a rule you should be attending

False. Missing mass is a mortal sin. Attending mass on sundays is a core element of being observant. If you're child is of the age to receive communion, you are also obligated to ensure they attend weekly as well.

And yet, many of us have missed mass on occasion. I suspect op’s nitpicky spouse is not as diligent in his observations of the rule as you are.

When you miss mass , you need to confess it as a sin before you can receive the eucharist again.

And can you do that in the big room with everyone else or do you have to go into a confessional to do it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

+1

+3

I'm going to guess that the OP skipped mass one Sunday and the DH is being a jerk about it. I think you can certainly still be an observant Catholic if you skip mass here and there, but as a rule you should be attending

False. Missing mass is a mortal sin. Attending mass on sundays is a core element of being observant. If you're child is of the age to receive communion, you are also obligated to ensure they attend weekly as well.

False. You have no clue if the family had a "serious reason" for missing mass. And missing mass certainly isn't a mortal sin for a child, given that the child doesn't have control over that situation

correct. It's just a mortal sin for the parents if the child misses without a grave reason. Missing for a grave reason is not the same as "here and there."

Where performance is more important than being a good Christian!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

+1

+3

I'm going to guess that the OP skipped mass one Sunday and the DH is being a jerk about it. I think you can certainly still be an observant Catholic if you skip mass here and there, but as a rule you should be attending

False. Missing mass is a mortal sin. Attending mass on sundays is a core element of being observant. If you're child is of the age to receive communion, you are also obligated to ensure they attend weekly as well.

False. You have no clue if the family had a "serious reason" for missing mass. And missing mass certainly isn't a mortal sin for a child, given that the child doesn't have control over that situation

correct. It's just a mortal sin for the parents if the child misses without a grave reason. Missing for a grave reason is not the same as "here and there."

Where performance is more important than being a good Christian!

Not pp and not Catholic, but since Jesus himself Christians have placed importance on celebrating communally. The idea is that you get spiritual things you wouldn't get on your own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

The issue isn’t mass. I get that’s a requirement.

The most recent issue is about me letting my oldest, who is confirmed, skip youth group.

Attending youth group is not part of being an observant catholic. We are observant and my eldest doesn't like youth group and doesn't go. It's not a big deal and you can tell xdh to stuff it on that one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

The issue isn’t mass. I get that’s a requirement.

The most recent issue is about me letting my oldest, who is confirmed, skip youth group.

Attending youth group is not part of being an observant catholic. We are observant and my eldest doesn't like youth group and doesn't go. It's not a big deal and you can tell xdh to stuff it on that one.

+1 No clergy is going to side with your DH that your child has to attend youth group. My kids didn’t like it and never went. My eldest still attends Mass at 30.