If you are Catholic and consider yourself "observant"

[Anonymous]

what things do you consider to part of raising a child Catholic?

DH and I are currently separated, and they are with me most of the time. DH is Catholic, and our custody agreement specifies that I will raise the kids as observant Catholics. So, I'm wondering, what other reasonable Catholic people would think meets the definition.

I should note that DH's favorite hobby is threatening to file for contempt for minor things. So, I'm trying to get some other opinions on what's reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

[Anonymous]

OP
You needed a better lawyer why would you agree to this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP
You needed a better lawyer why would you agree to this?

I don't have a problem with my kids being raised Catholic. I do have a problem with being nitpicked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

+1

+2
This covers it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what things do you consider to part of raising a child Catholic?

DH and I are currently separated, and they are with me most of the time. DH is Catholic, and our custody agreement specifies that I will raise the kids as observant Catholics. So, I'm wondering, what other reasonable Catholic people would think meets the definition.

I should note that DH's favorite hobby is threatening to file for contempt for minor things. So, I'm trying to get some other opinions on what's reasonable.

You’re not trolling, right? Because I would think you’d have the understanding of what this means before signing the papers, not after.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

Agree with all this and I’ll add that if you’re open to it, sending your kids to parochial school will make this fairly simple, as they will have the kids attend mass on holy days of obligation and also shepherd them through the sacraments of first communion, confession and confirmation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

+1

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I'm going to guess that the OP skipped mass one Sunday and the DH is being a jerk about it. I think you can certainly still be an observant Catholic if you skip mass here and there, but as a rule you should be attending

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

+1

+3

I'm going to guess that the OP skipped mass one Sunday and the DH is being a jerk about it. I think you can certainly still be an observant Catholic if you skip mass here and there, but as a rule you should be attending

False. Missing mass is a mortal sin. Attending mass on sundays is a core element of being observant. If you're child is of the age to receive communion, you are also obligated to ensure they attend weekly as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

+1

+3

I'm going to guess that the OP skipped mass one Sunday and the DH is being a jerk about it. I think you can certainly still be an observant Catholic if you skip mass here and there, but as a rule you should be attending

False. Missing mass is a mortal sin. Attending mass on sundays is a core element of being observant. If you're child is of the age to receive communion, you are also obligated to ensure they attend weekly as well.

False. You have no clue if the family had a "serious reason" for missing mass. And missing mass certainly isn't a mortal sin for a child, given that the child doesn't have control over that situation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

+1

+3

I'm going to guess that the OP skipped mass one Sunday and the DH is being a jerk about it. I think you can certainly still be an observant Catholic if you skip mass here and there, but as a rule you should be attending

False. Missing mass is a mortal sin. Attending mass on sundays is a core element of being observant. If you're child is of the age to receive communion, you are also obligated to ensure they attend weekly as well.

And yet, many of us have missed mass on occasion. I suspect op’s nitpicky spouse is not as diligent in his observations of the rule as you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

+1

+3

I'm going to guess that the OP skipped mass one Sunday and the DH is being a jerk about it. I think you can certainly still be an observant Catholic if you skip mass here and there, but as a rule you should be attending

False. Missing mass is a mortal sin. Attending mass on sundays is a core element of being observant. If you're child is of the age to receive communion, you are also obligated to ensure they attend weekly as well.

False. You have no clue if the family had a "serious reason" for missing mass. And missing mass certainly isn't a mortal sin for a child, given that the child doesn't have control over that situation

correct. It's just a mortal sin for the parents if the child misses without a grave reason. Missing for a grave reason is not the same as "here and there."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

+1

+2
This covers it.

+3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attending mass on Sundays and holy days,
attending either Catholic school or CCD
Receiving appropriate sacraments (baptism as a baby, first confession and first communion around 2nd grade, Confirmation when older).

+1

+3

I'm going to guess that the OP skipped mass one Sunday and the DH is being a jerk about it. I think you can certainly still be an observant Catholic if you skip mass here and there, but as a rule you should be attending

False. Missing mass is a mortal sin. Attending mass on sundays is a core element of being observant. If you're child is of the age to receive communion, you are also obligated to ensure they attend weekly as well.

And yet, many of us have missed mass on occasion. I suspect op’s nitpicky spouse is not as diligent in his observations of the rule as you are.

OP asked what observant means. Church makes it pretty clear on the attending Mass front.