What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?

[Anonymous]

I'm the OP of this thread: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1176575.page

His parents will be in a nearby city at the end of March and we are going to meet them there to get brunch together. What do I wear? The boyfriend said his dad went to Yale and because of that he always stays at some Yale club (I guess it's like a private hotel for people who graduated from there) so we will probably have brunch there.

The only time I've ever met a boyfriend's parents was in high school, when things were much less intense. I wore whatever I wore to school, to his house - it wasn't a "come to dinner to meet my parents" but more just going over after school. So I have no idea what to wear. Help?

[Anonymous]

Wear something sophisticated and smart. But nothing showing a lot of cleavage. Just be your self. I would probably wear pants with a cute top.

[Anonymous]

Google the place the dad is staying - some of them have a dress code. Tailored pants and dress shoes. Church appropriate clothing.

[Anonymous]

Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.

[Anonymous]

My husband went to Yale and we actually got married at the Yale Club in NYC. I’d say the dress code is business casual. I would wear a nice but not fancy dress, skirt or pants and blouse, I agree something you’d wear to a house of worship is appropriate.

[Anonymous]

What is your boyfriend wearing? Jacket and tie?

[Anonymous]

Crop top and daisy dukes, but not a ripped pair- you have to be classy

[Anonymous]

Goodness, I'd wear pajamas and skip this!

But actually - I don't know. Pants and a nice top? A dress and boots? Something you feel pretty in but that isn't too revealing.

I feel like it'd be easy to go all Mystic Pizza and be too formal here - I'd want to know what women wear to this place before deciding.

[Anonymous]

If it's a weekend brunch, wear a church-appropriate dress with hose and heels.

To me, church-appropriate means...not body con, not cleavage-focused, no bare shoulders, hemline is not "short". Some on this board disagree.

As a young person, you just need to dress respectfully. You don't need to look rich, designer-covered, or excessively formal. If you don't have a suitable dress but you have a "career girl" cute blouse and nice pants, that would be fine.

[Anonymous]

High waist flowy trousers, flats, blouse, nice jacket. Not overly fancy, not too casual.

Sophisticated and tailored but stylish is likely what you want here.

If you’re feeling clueless (I don’t mean that as a judgement; feeling self conscious makes things like this harder!), see a stylist at Nordstrom for help picking a few items that could work.

[Anonymous]

I apologize if it was mentioned in the 5 pages of your other thread, but how old are you, OP? I think that could help with the answers.

[Anonymous]

just not leggings or any Lulu clothes and you'll be fine

[Anonymous]

Yale Club dress code is traditional business or business casual. The website says “not permitted” are: “ tee shirts, tank tops, casual sandals (such as flip flops or Birkenstocks), athletic wear of any kind (including sweat pants, caps, cross-trainers, or tennis shoes, and team jerseys), and torn, provocative, or revealing clothing.”

Basically, skirt or dress or pants all fine. Bit wear a non-revealing, non-t-shirt top. No sneakers or flip-flops.

[Anonymous]

a harvard alumni hat and say sorry you didn't get in.

[Anonymous]

I’d wear a dress but as long as you’re not in jeans or leggings you’ll probably be fine.

Don’t worry, what you wear to this brunch is not going to make or break anything. I wouldn’t wear anything for the first time just so you don’t risk being uncomfortable.