How old to discuss n word with non Black child?

[Anonymous]

Another thread made me realize that I may need to talk to my child about the n word. We are Latino (only mention this to indicate that my kid is not black, which I think is relevant). What age/grade is a good time for this discussion? Also, do you say the word when discussing it with your kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another thread made me realize that I may need to talk to my child about the n word. We are Latino (only mention this to indicate that my kid is not black, which I think is relevant). What age/grade is a good time for this discussion? Also, do you say the word when discussing it with your kid?

You can be black and Latino. Do you really not know this? Have you ever been to the Dominican Republic? Puerto Rico? Brazil? Any number of other countries with a large black population in Latin America?

[Anonymous]

One thing that I’ve found to be important is to emphasize this is a bad word unlike other “bad words” like cursing. You don’t want them to think it’s an acceptable way to test limits.

I talk about the history of the word and the ugly ways in which it was used. And I don’t care if it’s in rap music or other kids are saying it. It doesn’t make it ok for you to say.

My kids understood this at around 8.

[Anonymous]

Any grade you want but probably 3rd. Yes you use the word else they may not know what you’re talking about. Explain why it’s not a good word to use generally and how they can get in trouble particular school for using it. Explain that use in literature and historical text is not the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another thread made me realize that I may need to talk to my child about the n word. We are Latino (only mention this to indicate that my kid is not black, which I think is relevant). What age/grade is a good time for this discussion? Also, do you say the word when discussing it with your kid?

You can be black and Latino. Do you really not know this? Have you ever been to the Dominican Republic? Puerto Rico? Brazil? Any number of other countries with a large black population in Latin America?

She’s talking about African Americans where it started under slavery. I’m not sure if the immigrants from African countries who came here on their own use it.

[Anonymous]

We have 3 kids. Oldest is 14. We are an Asian American family. I have never had a discussion about the N word. We would never say this. They don’t say this. I’m not sure why you feel the need to talk about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have 3 kids. Oldest is 14. We are an Asian American family. I have never had a discussion about the N word. We would never say this. They don’t say this. I’m not sure why you feel the need to talk about this.

It depends on their environment. My kids went from a small private school to a large public title 1 school with a high percentage of minority kids. Unfortunately the word is used pretty liberally by kids at school. Not mine, but it was a huge culture shock to hear it as common place in the halls and classes.

[Anonymous]

It came up this week in conversation with my kids 9,14, because they hear it in music and also because they have heard the term "the-letter of the alphabet--word." I've talked about the R-word with my kid with SN so that he can be aware of someone's intent. My other kid thought that you can make up your own expressino, for example, he kept referring to the s-word. Sh*t. So conversations happened naturally.

[Anonymous]

We talk about race and derogatory language. Specifically about how words had been used to attack and demean Black people throughout history and up to today. We talk about “boy” too when used to refer to a Black man.

We started having the n word conversation must have been before 4th grade, because he saw some kid had scrawled it on the playground slide and he reported it to the principal after recess. Now we are getting into the reporting and banning process inside of video games.

So yeah - we think it is important to talk about language and how it is used (note, is, not was) in racist ways, and how it perpetuates racism. And what his role as a white teenager to address it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have 3 kids. Oldest is 14. We are an Asian American family. I have never had a discussion about the N word. We would never say this. They don’t say this. I’m not sure why you feel the need to talk about this.

Yeah, you keep living in your bubble. Your kids know but they don't see you as safe to discuss. what until they hear the term "Ch****r"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have 3 kids. Oldest is 14. We are an Asian American family. I have never had a discussion about the N word. We would never say this. They don’t say this. I’m not sure why you feel the need to talk about this.

also, please understand this nation's history. Asians were allowed to immigrate here in larger numbers as a result of the civil rights movement that was led by Black people. You do owe your kids a discussion on this country's history, including its very racist history

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another thread made me realize that I may need to talk to my child about the n word. We are Latino (only mention this to indicate that my kid is not black, which I think is relevant). What age/grade is a good time for this discussion? Also, do you say the word when discussing it with your kid?

You can be black and Latino. Do you really not know this? Have you ever been to the Dominican Republic? Puerto Rico? Brazil? Any number of other countries with a large black population in Latin America?

NP yes but “we” still don’t use the n-word. It’s not a word for us, even black Latinos.

[Anonymous]

My White presenting multiracial child think it's unfair that she can't say it but she's going to have to deal.

[Anonymous]

My (biracial) DS who is nine years old came home from school yesterday and said a white boy in his class told him the n word and spelled it out. He told him it was a bad word. Obviously we had not discussed it with our child before, but apparently children will announce it to others if you don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another thread made me realize that I may need to talk to my child about the n word. We are Latino (only mention this to indicate that my kid is not black, which I think is relevant). What age/grade is a good time for this discussion? Also, do you say the word when discussing it with your kid?

You can be black and Latino. Do you really not know this? Have you ever been to the Dominican Republic? Puerto Rico? Brazil? Any number of other countries with a large black population in Latin America?

👆🏾tell me you are white without telling me you are white.