Boyfriend keeps praising me for being “easy.”
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Anonymous
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Not sure how to understand this. I am not particularly easy, or easygoing. I work FT in a demanding job that I necessarily put before him; I like nice things; I have definite ideas about what and how to do things. I have 2 kids whom I prioritize before my BF and that limits my availability. I have an abusive ex and a history of anxiety that is not active with my very solid, mature, reliable, reassuring, accepting and high integrity BF. Whom I waited to sleep with until date six.
I really love him, and that makes me more agreeable. What does “easy” mean in this context? I’ve heard people say good relationships are easy; I’m not sure whether he means this vs whether I’m not demanding enough. |
Anonymous
| How about, oh I don’t know…ASK HIM? |
Anonymous
| You don’t play games. |
Anonymous
| Easy to be around, not high maintenance. |
Anonymous
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DH says the same. I am easy to get along with, I don’t demand things go my way all the time.
I wouldn’t read anything negative into it |
Anonymous
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My husband and I have a great marriage but he would never say this about me -- I think I have a lot of opinions, change my mind - this makes me more difficult
the only red flag I see is that if it's at the beginning of your relationship and you are overgiving bevause of love hormones and that wears away. glad you are out of your last relationshpi |
Anonymous
That is true. I don’t. |
Anonymous
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You are probably a clear communicator and follow through in what you say you will do.
I think the same of my friends and just notice how easy our relationships are because I had some immature friends before that. |
Anonymous
His ex is probably very needy and you are the opposite. That is a breath of fresh air for men who have been in relationships with women there is no pleasing and put you at the center of their world. It is a sincere compliment. |
Anonymous
+1 My DH also says the same, because I’m pretty flexible and easy-going. I go with the flow in terms of vacations, activities, restaurants, whatever the kids want to do (that does not mean I’m a pushover or do not express my own opinions. I’m just fairly “chill” as he puts it. |
Anonymous
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I think it mean that you fit well; the relationship hadn’t hard, like it may have been with his ex - no constant tension, conflict, poor communication fit, etc.
Also - your life does not revolve around him, and you are independent - that also makes for an easy relationship. Does he talk about his ex(es)? |
Anonymous
| Relationship *isnt* hard |
Anonymous
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I've always been described as easy. A few things that I can think of
1. I'm naturally easy going 2. I have a life outside of my significant other 3. I'm drama free 4. I communicate well 5. I don't play games |
Anonymous
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I agree this is probably about his ex or prior relationships generally-- you may just be a better fit.
I do think it's worth it to ask him though. I have dated guys who praised me a lot for being "chill" or easy to get along with, who then bailed at the first disagreement. Only he really knows what he means by this. Could be he likes how self-sufficient you are. Could also be that he has no conflict resolution skills and likes that there's no conflict. I'd ask. |
Anonymous
| What you see is what you get |