Men bringing up sex/sex adjacent things right away?

[Anonymous]

Today I matched with a pretty cute guy on Hinge and the conversation turned fairly quickly to sexual subjects that I'm not really comfortable with. First it was what I thought was a light hearted joke about him meeting women who wanted to go to sex parties, then next thing he's asking me if I've ever been to one, if I would go to one, and the conversation pivoted and kept coming back to it before he finally told me he dreamed of opening a strip club and I blocked him.

Are some men really so unselfaware that they think this is gonna lead to sex? Is it just a fishing tactic to see who's gonna bite? Was he trying to con me into some kind of Andrew Tate camming business? I dont understand what could make seemingly otherwise intelligent men act like complete doofuses.

[Anonymous]

You don't understand why complete strangers that you haven't met in real life aren't what you want them to be?

[Anonymous]

I guess he's signaling that sex is his primary interest. If it's not yours, then maybe he's saving you both a lot of time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Today I matched with a pretty cute guy on Hinge and the conversation turned fairly quickly to sexual subjects that I'm not really comfortable with. First it was what I thought was a light hearted joke about him meeting women who wanted to go to sex parties, then next thing he's asking me if I've ever been to one, if I would go to one, and the conversation pivoted and kept coming back to it before he finally told me he dreamed of opening a strip club and I blocked him.

Are some men really so unselfaware that they think this is gonna lead to sex? Is it just a fishing tactic to see who's gonna bite? Was he trying to con me into some kind of Andrew Tate camming business? I dont understand what could make seemingly otherwise intelligent men act like complete doofuses.

He was trying to find someone who is open to those type of things. You are not. Good. Both of you will not waste time and move on to someone new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't understand why complete strangers that you haven't met in real life aren't what you want them to be?

Curious as to how you got this from OP's statement?

[Anonymous]

It’s possibly some sort of mental illness or intoxication, or someone just getting off on writing that stuff to you.

In answer to your question about the effectiveness of his methods - well, he got a little gratification out of sending you those messages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s possibly some sort of mental illness or intoxication, or someone just getting off on writing that stuff to you.

In answer to your question about the effectiveness of his methods - well, he got a little gratification out of sending you those messages.

Which is what I find strange because I just deflected each time, didn't really get offended nor delve too deep into it. It honestly seems like a waste of time for him, and especially because he's a relatively good looking guy (and his profile linked to his instagram so I know it was really him). Why is an attractive man with a six pack and a pretty face that could have plenty of dates and probably find sex easily if he just played his cards right wasting his time messaging some woman who's barely responding to his sexual innuendos and then blocks him? It just seems odd and pointless.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, he's just looking for sex and he was testing you out. I would find it disrespectful and block him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s possibly some sort of mental illness or intoxication, or someone just getting off on writing that stuff to you.

In answer to your question about the effectiveness of his methods - well, he got a little gratification out of sending you those messages.

Which is what I find strange because I just deflected each time, didn't really get offended nor delve too deep into it. It honestly seems like a waste of time for him, and especially because he's a relatively good looking guy (and his profile linked to his instagram so I know it was really him). Why is an attractive man with a six pack and a pretty face that could have plenty of dates and probably find sex easily if he just played his cards right wasting his time messaging some woman who's barely responding to his sexual innuendos and then blocks him? It just seems odd and pointless.

He doesn’t just want sex based on his messages, he wants someone who is pretty kinky/dirty. That’s not you, and you both figured that out quickly.

[Anonymous]

He's crazy, creepy, or doesn't want to spend time on anyone who isn't DTF. Blocking is the way to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s possibly some sort of mental illness or intoxication, or someone just getting off on writing that stuff to you.

In answer to your question about the effectiveness of his methods - well, he got a little gratification out of sending you those messages.

Which is what I find strange because I just deflected each time, didn't really get offended nor delve too deep into it. It honestly seems like a waste of time for him, and especially because he's a relatively good looking guy (and his profile linked to his instagram so I know it was really him). Why is an attractive man with a six pack and a pretty face that could have plenty of dates and probably find sex easily if he just played his cards right wasting his time messaging some woman who's barely responding to his sexual innuendos and then blocks him? It just seems odd and pointless.

He doesn’t just want sex based on his messages, he wants someone who is pretty kinky/dirty. That’s not you, and you both figured that out quickly.

But he didn't figure it out? He kept pressing me even though I made it clear and verbally told him. It's just bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s possibly some sort of mental illness or intoxication, or someone just getting off on writing that stuff to you.

In answer to your question about the effectiveness of his methods - well, he got a little gratification out of sending you those messages.

Which is what I find strange because I just deflected each time, didn't really get offended nor delve too deep into it. It honestly seems like a waste of time for him, and especially because he's a relatively good looking guy (and his profile linked to his instagram so I know it was really him). Why is an attractive man with a six pack and a pretty face that could have plenty of dates and probably find sex easily if he just played his cards right wasting his time messaging some woman who's barely responding to his sexual innuendos and then blocks him? It just seems odd and pointless.

He doesn’t just want sex based on his messages, he wants someone who is pretty kinky/dirty. That’s not you, and you both figured that out quickly.

But he didn't figure it out? He kept pressing me even though I made it clear and verbally told him. It's just bizarre.

He’s also just a creep. Be glad you dodged that bullet and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Today I matched with a pretty cute guy on Hinge and the conversation turned fairly quickly to sexual subjects that I'm not really comfortable with. First it was what I thought was a light hearted joke about him meeting women who wanted to go to sex parties, then next thing he's asking me if I've ever been to one, if I would go to one, and the conversation pivoted and kept coming back to it before he finally told me he dreamed of opening a strip club and I blocked him.

Are some men really so unselfaware that they think this is gonna lead to sex? Is it just a fishing tactic to see who's gonna bite? Was he trying to con me into some kind of Andrew Tate camming business? I dont understand what could make seemingly otherwise intelligent men act like complete doofuses.

So IMVE the vast majority of women on the apps put out on the first date, especially the ones who say “no hookups.”

Most are totally DTF immediately. He’s just making the safe assumption.

If you’re a prude and this isn’t for you, that’s fine. Just don’t string him along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s possibly some sort of mental illness or intoxication, or someone just getting off on writing that stuff to you.

In answer to your question about the effectiveness of his methods - well, he got a little gratification out of sending you those messages.

Which is what I find strange because I just deflected each time, didn't really get offended nor delve too deep into it. It honestly seems like a waste of time for him, and especially because he's a relatively good looking guy (and his profile linked to his instagram so I know it was really him). Why is an attractive man with a six pack and a pretty face that could have plenty of dates and probably find sex easily if he just played his cards right wasting his time messaging some woman who's barely responding to his sexual innuendos and then blocks him? It just seems odd and pointless.

He doesn’t just want sex based on his messages, he wants someone who is pretty kinky/dirty. That’s not you, and you both figured that out quickly.

But he didn't figure it out? He kept pressing me even though I made it clear and verbally told him. It's just bizarre.

If you wrote to him as clearly as you wrote the OP, I understand why we wouldn't get the message that you forgot to actually say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Today I matched with a pretty cute guy on Hinge and the conversation turned fairly quickly to sexual subjects that I'm not really comfortable with. First it was what I thought was a light hearted joke about him meeting women who wanted to go to sex parties, then next thing he's asking me if I've ever been to one, if I would go to one, and the conversation pivoted and kept coming back to it before he finally told me he dreamed of opening a strip club and I blocked him.

Are some men really so unselfaware that they think this is gonna lead to sex? Is it just a fishing tactic to see who's gonna bite? Was he trying to con me into some kind of Andrew Tate camming business? I dont understand what could make seemingly otherwise intelligent men act like complete doofuses.

So IMVE the vast majority of women on the apps put out on the first date, especially the ones who say “no hookups.”

Most are totally DTF immediately. He’s just making the safe assumption.

If you’re a prude and this isn’t for you, that’s fine. Just don’t string him along.

lol found the perv OP matched on Hinge.