When do looks/personality start to matter in social dynamics?

[Anonymous]

I was curious what your experience is. When does the momgineering of friend groups end and when do looks and personality start to determine popularity?

[Anonymous]

Second grade

[Anonymous]

Sixth grade for looks, second grade for personality especially for girls.

[Anonymous]

I can’t wait. I’m so sick of overbearing moms running the social lives of their kid and mine as a result. My children didn’t need me to make friends and to be embraced by their peers.

[Anonymous]

Kindergarten, if not before. Some kids have just got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t wait. I’m so sick of overbearing moms running the social lives of their kid and mine as a result. My children didn’t need me to make friends and to be embraced by their peers.

This post makes no sense

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kindergarten, if not before. Some kids have just got it.

No way. Plenty of momgineering in K

[Anonymous]

I think it always mattered, but it began to matter a lot around 5th grade and peaked in 7th/8th.

I remember the stress over clothing and hair to be something I had a hard time dealing with in 6th.

[Anonymous]

I think personality always matters, and at minimum, starting in K.
Moms can only engineer who hangs out outside of school.

[Anonymous]

What is momgineering? Trying to encourage certain friendships over others? What does that have to do with popularity?

[Anonymous]

Sixth seemed to be when the mom-engineered groups really splintered. Middle school presents lots of changes and new classmates and limited parental involvement with school. There was a lot of friend group shuffling that I noticed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t wait. I’m so sick of overbearing moms running the social lives of their kid and mine as a result. My children didn’t need me to make friends and to be embraced by their peers.

+1 Momgineering is so annoying.

[Anonymous]

In my DD’s grade, the most unlikely girl emerged as the queen bee and still is two year later. She is short, average looking, and by many accounts quite mean.

[Anonymous]

My teenager has been in school with a lot of the same kids since she was two and so much of popularity/social dynamics is ingrained from the very beginning, I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my DD’s grade, the most unlikely girl emerged as the queen bee and still is two year later. She is short, average looking, and by many accounts quite mean.

The mean ones make the most powerful queen bees.