My son is short - help me get over it please

[Anonymous]

Average height of an american woman is 5'4, he's fine. I thought you were going to say he's like 5'0. And there's nothing wrong with being 5'0 but I do think that guys that short have a tougher road. Your son will be fine. Stop being psycho about it. You seriously can't give him the love he deserves because he's small?! Get some therapy! This is a serious overreaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids is really short. 7th percentile for height. I’ve taken him for medical testing and there’s no hormonal problem, so he doesn’t qualify for growth hormone. I’ve focused on dietary supplements, but he’s a terrible eater. My other three kids are average height with one being very tall. I am short myself, but I always thought the “short genes” only ran with the women in our family since the men are all over 5’9” and my dad is 6’2”. My husband is 6’0”.

My son who is short is only 7 years old. But, at this point, with no medical problem and with his growth remaining around the 10th percentile for four years, I’m coming to realize I need to accept the fact that he’s just really small. If he stays at this percentile, the doctor predicts he will be 5’6”. It makes me feel really sad and anxious when I see him with the other boys his age and he’s a lot smaller than them. He’s also not really athletic.

He’s very smart, adorable, funny, kind. He’s an incredible kid and I feel like a total jerk for not being able to accept the blessing of a healthy child and instead feeling so upset inside about his height. There are a lot of societal stereotypes about short people and dating is hard for short men. I’m worried about teasing and him being made fun of, even as an older man.

Can someone please provide me with any helpful thoughts or wisdom to work my way through this? I hate feeling this way and just want to give him the love he deserves.

Poor boy with a mother so shallow.

[Anonymous]

Lenny Kravitz, 5'7", net worth 90 million, age 58

He is hot, hot hot!

[Anonymous]

OMG, your son is seven years old and you are already writing him off.

I feel so badly for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure if anyone reads this anymore, but it made me so sad and angry to read all these comments. When I read this lady’s post, all I saw was someone looking for support. My son is a bit short for his age, and it is comforting to know that there are others who are on a similar journey. Thank you for the mother who posted the question. Our sons seem a lot alike in personality and stature. It’s always nice to find support. Let’s all be kind and encourage. We as mamas all need it. ❤️

Brief update on this two year old thread that you managed to resurrect for some reason. The mother died last year of a broken heart because her son was so short. She just couldn’t go on.

[Anonymous]

I find short men quite hot. Men that are short and cut throat in business and and super successful are my secret weakness. Too bad, in a moment of weakness, I married pretty much the opposite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re nuts. My son is also short. Who cares? Is this a troll? If not, get some therapy.

This. Wow- you need help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son is in the 1.7th percentile for height.
Not 17th.
1 . 7

It sucks completely.

My son is about there too, and so far, it doesn’t suck.

How old is he? PP you replied to. Mine is 15, and realizes that he's not going to grow much from now on. We've consulted with endocrinologists and they've confirmed it based on the puberty progression and his premature birth history.

Again, it sucks.
How tall is your son?

[Anonymous]

Just curious...how tall was your son at 15 and since this is an older thread, how old is he now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious...how tall was your son at 15 and since this is an older thread, how old is he now?

Thanks for resurrecting. 4 year thread

[Anonymous]

Midgets beget midgets

[Anonymous]

Not gonna read all the responses but just wanted to help you by letting you know that more women than you might think genuinely do not care about height. At all. I am 5’4”. I have dated men with heights ranging from 5’5” to 6’5”. I just never even thought about it. In the end I married a shorter guy.

[Anonymous]

OP I dated all tall men, 6' minimum, many 6'5. Then I met my now DH, 5'6", short whole family.

I lucked out. Better than all, though some of my tall exs were great people. DH is kind, funny, adorable and incredibly successful. He is even good at basketball, though that isn't the draw.

In the real world these days, tall is often irrelevant given the reality of zoom and work.

None of this will help you but tall is one dimension. Don't reduce your amazing kid to one dimension. He may end up tall as an adult, or short. But he has 1000+ other features. Parent the whole kid.

Signed, mom of 2 short kids, including one very short DS who has an IQ of 150+, has been repeatedly voted by his peers "most likely to be the next Einstein," and is hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I dated all tall men, 6' minimum, many 6'5. Then I met my now DH, 5'6", short whole family.

I lucked out. Better than all, though some of my tall exs were great people. DH is kind, funny, adorable and incredibly successful. He is even good at basketball, though that isn't the draw.

In the real world these days, tall is often irrelevant given the reality of zoom and work.

None of this will help you but tall is one dimension. Don't reduce your amazing kid to one dimension. He may end up tall as an adult, or short. But he has 1000+ other features. Parent the whole kid.

Signed, mom of 2 short kids, including one very short DS who has an IQ of 150+, has been repeatedly voted by his peers "most likely to be the next Einstein," and is hilarious.

Such a cool story 🙄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids is really short. 7th percentile for height. I’ve taken him for medical testing and there’s no hormonal problem, so he doesn’t qualify for growth hormone. I’ve focused on dietary supplements, but he’s a terrible eater. My other three kids are average height with one being very tall. I am short myself, but I always thought the “short genes” only ran with the women in our family since the men are all over 5’9” and my dad is 6’2”. My husband is 6’0”.

My son who is short is only 7 years old. But, at this point, with no medical problem and with his growth remaining around the 10th percentile for four years, I’m coming to realize I need to accept the fact that he’s just really small. If he stays at this percentile, the doctor predicts he will be 5’6”. It makes me feel really sad and anxious when I see him with the other boys his age and he’s a lot smaller than them. He’s also not really athletic.

He’s very smart, adorable, funny, kind. He’s an incredible kid and I feel like a total jerk for not being able to accept the blessing of a healthy child and instead feeling so upset inside about his height. There are a lot of societal stereotypes about short people and dating is hard for short men. I’m worried about teasing and him being made fun of, even as an older man.

Can someone please provide me with any helpful thoughts or wisdom to work my way through this? I hate feeling this way and just want to give him the love he deserves.

Robert Reich has done very well and even joked about being on Clinton's "short list" for a Cabinet position and his wife is quite a bit taller. Nancy Kissinger was taller than Henry and he, also, did quite very well in life. Leave him alone with your outdated prejudices against short men.