Social media bragging

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Anonymous wrote:The funny thing is that the parents of the very best swimmers say absolutely nothing on social media. They don’t need to. Their kid’s performance speaks for itself, and anyone who cares about how the kid did already knows.

It’s only the strivers/insecure ones who post all that stuff.

Exactly.

This. None of the truly exceptional athletes that I know have parents posting about them online. Granted, some have individual scouting SM accounts for college purposes.

I did have a FB friend with a DC at the Olympics. She was elated and did post his race times, dates, and network links for watch parties. I can totally understand that and was so happy for her and the whole family

I have a friend with a multiple national champion DS in a very tough sport. I love that she shares his wins, videos, etc. I wouldn't really know otherwise and it's inspirational to see his progress.

[Anonymous]

Why so salty, OP? If a kid did amazing, tried their best, maybe even beat a kid they couldn't before, why shouldn't parents be proud of their effort/performance and share that with their friends and family? You can always delete them from your friends list if it bothers you to the point you have to complain about it online.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why so salty, OP? If a kid did amazing, tried their best, maybe even beat a kid they couldn't before, why shouldn't parents be proud of their effort/performance and share that with their friends and family? You can always delete them from your friends list if it bothers you to the point you have to complain about it online.

Would you say this to your friends on a frequent basis m, in person or by email? Text?

Hey everyone,
It’s me again! Josh made prelims AND finals this week. He came in first in his heat for every race and the coach said he’s never seen such drive! #proudmom!

Hey Guys,
I just wanted to share that Bill made the VARSITY football team. Only 2 9th graders made it so we were very excited. He’ll play tomorrow night! I’ll update everyone with how he does!

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What I think is notable about this is most of the kid bragging is sports. (Note I did not say all.) But vast majority is sports. Which to me says something about why parents are posting it in the first place. Sports has perceived social cache for kids and a lot of adults.

What is the frequency you are seeing any of the following:

So proud Ava made all-honors chorus. Video of kid singing.
Jack has been struggling in math and we got a tutor. Got 100 on math test! With photo of test.
Harper is in Marching Band and made a big trip to Busch Gardens with the band! Video of performance.
Owen's had trouble connecting at school and joined the chess club and is now killing it at chess. Photo of Own over the chess board.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am sure, just wants to look at the new Trump meme and complain about wearing masks, and having posts about kids gets in the way.

The vast majority of folks like getting updates on friends and neighbors and their activities. Yes -- social media emphasizes the positive accomplishments and that can have some negative implications - particularly for kids.

But, I am on Facebook primarily to see what friends are posting about their kids and grand kids. It is nice to keep up a little bit between personal visits. Weddings, graduations, school dances, concerts, sports, other events. It is 20 seconds. Example: A friend's son is trying to do some designing, and on rare occasion, an actress will wear one of his pieces somewhere and our friends will post it. It is fun to see that most of the old parent group will comment when that happens.

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Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

My parents are old school. Only 1 has a smartphone but it has no data and they pay for minutes.
The other one barely knows how to use the phone. They are not tech savvy (with computers) but do have an iPad (no data, just Wi-Fi) and use Facebook. I can’t send videos through text or email. They are always too big. I have tried Dropbox and they can’t figure out logins and links and how to save stuff. They love seeing kid updates on Facebook as it is the only way they see anything. I don’t post every day or week. Maybe 1-2 a month, sometimes less, sometimes more. I share if there is something meaningful going on in my life or my kids life. My parents wish they saw more. I do like how everything is archived and immediately accessible through FB. If friends don’t like certain posts, then click “see less of these.” I don’t think of every person I am friends with on Facebook and think how it will be viewed. It’s not possible to make everyone happy.

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Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

My parents are old school. Only 1 has a smartphone but it has no data and they pay for minutes.
The other one barely knows how to use the phone. They are not tech savvy (with computers) but do have an iPad (no data, just Wi-Fi) and use Facebook. I can’t send videos through text or email. They are always too big. I have tried Dropbox and they can’t figure out logins and links and how to save stuff. They love seeing kid updates on Facebook as it is the only way they see anything. I don’t post every day or week. Maybe 1-2 a month, sometimes less, sometimes more. I share if there is something meaningful going on in my life or my kids life. My parents wish they saw more. I do like how everything is archived and immediately accessible through FB. If friends don’t like certain posts, then click “see less of these.” I don’t think of every person I am friends with on Facebook and think how it will be viewed. It’s not possible to make everyone happy.

If they have Facebook, they are not old school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am sure, just wants to look at the new Trump meme and complain about wearing masks, and having posts about kids gets in the way.

The vast majority of folks like getting updates on friends and neighbors and their activities. Yes -- social media emphasizes the positive accomplishments and that can have some negative implications - particularly for kids.

But, I am on Facebook primarily to see what friends are posting about their kids and grand kids. It is nice to keep up a little bit between personal visits. Weddings, graduations, school dances, concerts, sports, other events. It is 20 seconds. Example: A friend's son is trying to do some designing, and on rare occasion, an actress will wear one of his pieces somewhere and our friends will post it. It is fun to see that most of the old parent group will comment when that happens.

Lol. You may be right, but I pictured OP as more of the knit pink wearing, "I'll post a pic of my bringing my to a drag queen story hour" type of person, and not a MAGA covid-denier

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am sure, just wants to look at the new Trump meme and complain about wearing masks, and having posts about kids gets in the way.

The vast majority of folks like getting updates on friends and neighbors and their activities. Yes -- social media emphasizes the positive accomplishments and that can have some negative implications - particularly for kids.

But, I am on Facebook primarily to see what friends are posting about their kids and grand kids. It is nice to keep up a little bit between personal visits. Weddings, graduations, school dances, concerts, sports, other events. It is 20 seconds. Example: A friend's son is trying to do some designing, and on rare occasion, an actress will wear one of his pieces somewhere and our friends will post it. It is fun to see that most of the old parent group will comment when that happens.

What are you even blabbering on about? You make no sense. Try to focus.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

My parents are old school. Only 1 has a smartphone but it has no data and they pay for minutes.
The other one barely knows how to use the phone. They are not tech savvy (with computers) but do have an iPad (no data, just Wi-Fi) and use Facebook. I can’t send videos through text or email. They are always too big. I have tried Dropbox and they can’t figure out logins and links and how to save stuff. They love seeing kid updates on Facebook as it is the only way they see anything. I don’t post every day or week. Maybe 1-2 a month, sometimes less, sometimes more. I share if there is something meaningful going on in my life or my kids life. My parents wish they saw more. I do like how everything is archived and immediately accessible through FB. If friends don’t like certain posts, then click “see less of these.” I don’t think of every person I am friends with on Facebook and think how it will be viewed. It’s not possible to make everyone happy.

How stupid can you be? If you really use Facebook only to share updates about the grandkids with family, do you understand how easy it is to set privacy settings on your post so it only shows to those family members? You can even create a special group, name it, and always share posts like that so that only the grandparents or whoever see. It is also saved to your feed “for posterity.” This is not difficult to do, it’s right there in the options any time you post.

But we all know this is just a lame excuse and you want to be an obnoxious braggart to the whole internet. It’s so disingenuous to say you are doing it to share with family when there’s a very easy way to share it only with family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

My parents are old school. Only 1 has a smartphone but it has no data and they pay for minutes.
The other one barely knows how to use the phone. They are not tech savvy (with computers) but do have an iPad (no data, just Wi-Fi) and use Facebook. I can’t send videos through text or email. They are always too big. I have tried Dropbox and they can’t figure out logins and links and how to save stuff. They love seeing kid updates on Facebook as it is the only way they see anything. I don’t post every day or week. Maybe 1-2 a month, sometimes less, sometimes more. I share if there is something meaningful going on in my life or my kids life. My parents wish they saw more. I do like how everything is archived and immediately accessible through FB. If friends don’t like certain posts, then click “see less of these.” I don’t think of every person I am friends with on Facebook and think how it will be viewed. It’s not possible to make everyone happy.

How stupid can you be? If you really use Facebook only to share updates about the grandkids with family, do you understand how easy it is to set privacy settings on your post so it only shows to those family members? You can even create a special group, name it, and always share posts like that so that only the grandparents or whoever see. It is also saved to your feed “for posterity.” This is not difficult to do, it’s right there in the options any time you post.

But we all know this is just a lame excuse and you want to be an obnoxious braggart to the whole internet. It’s so disingenuous to say you are doing it to share with family when there’s a very easy way to share it only with family.

I am an obnoxious braggart bc I post 1-2 times a month??? Get real.What exactly are allowable posts that don’t trigger people into a frenzy? Everything is about balance but if you find posts about kids obnoxious, then you probably shouldn’t be friends with those people on FB or you should get off social media in general. The point of social media is to share information with friends and family. Why are you on it? What type of posts are acceptable? I guarantee what you find acceptable someone else will find objectionable. Just unfollow and move along.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

My parents are old school. Only 1 has a smartphone but it has no data and they pay for minutes.
The other one barely knows how to use the phone. They are not tech savvy (with computers) but do have an iPad (no data, just Wi-Fi) and use Facebook. I can’t send videos through text or email. They are always too big. I have tried Dropbox and they can’t figure out logins and links and how to save stuff. They love seeing kid updates on Facebook as it is the only way they see anything. I don’t post every day or week. Maybe 1-2 a month, sometimes less, sometimes more. I share if there is something meaningful going on in my life or my kids life. My parents wish they saw more. I do like how everything is archived and immediately accessible through FB. If friends don’t like certain posts, then click “see less of these.” I don’t think of every person I am friends with on Facebook and think how it will be viewed. It’s not possible to make everyone happy.

How stupid can you be? If you really use Facebook only to share updates about the grandkids with family, do you understand how easy it is to set privacy settings on your post so it only shows to those family members? You can even create a special group, name it, and always share posts like that so that only the grandparents or whoever see. It is also saved to your feed “for posterity.” This is not difficult to do, it’s right there in the options any time you post.

But we all know this is just a lame excuse and you want to be an obnoxious braggart to the whole internet. It’s so disingenuous to say you are doing it to share with family when there’s a very easy way to share it only with family.

Yes, of course I know.

But you're also VASTY overestimating how little I care if my posts ignore you. Those are all steps I won't be taking bc I literally could not care less if my pictures and videos of my kid fit your ridiculous definition of what qualifies as necessary social media content.

I could do those things, but why?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

My parents are old school. Only 1 has a smartphone but it has no data and they pay for minutes.
The other one barely knows how to use the phone. They are not tech savvy (with computers) but do have an iPad (no data, just Wi-Fi) and use Facebook. I can’t send videos through text or email. They are always too big. I have tried Dropbox and they can’t figure out logins and links and how to save stuff. They love seeing kid updates on Facebook as it is the only way they see anything. I don’t post every day or week. Maybe 1-2 a month, sometimes less, sometimes more. I share if there is something meaningful going on in my life or my kids life. My parents wish they saw more. I do like how everything is archived and immediately accessible through FB. If friends don’t like certain posts, then click “see less of these.” I don’t think of every person I am friends with on Facebook and think how it will be viewed. It’s not possible to make everyone happy.

You stupid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I think is notable about this is most of the kid bragging is sports. (Note I did not say all.) But vast majority is sports. Which to me says something about why parents are posting it in the first place. Sports has perceived social cache for kids and a lot of adults.

What is the frequency you are seeing any of the following:

So proud Ava made all-honors chorus. Video of kid singing.
Jack has been struggling in math and we got a tutor. Got 100 on math test! With photo of test.
Harper is in Marching Band and made a big trip to Busch Gardens with the band! Video of performance.
Owen's had trouble connecting at school and joined the chess club and is now killing it at chess. Photo of Own over the chess board.

I actually find it odd that you don’t see those kinds of posts. Cause I have a lot of them in my feed. Are most of your friends only sports parents?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

My parents are old school. Only 1 has a smartphone but it has no data and they pay for minutes.
The other one barely knows how to use the phone. They are not tech savvy (with computers) but do have an iPad (no data, just Wi-Fi) and use Facebook. I can’t send videos through text or email. They are always too big. I have tried Dropbox and they can’t figure out logins and links and how to save stuff. They love seeing kid updates on Facebook as it is the only way they see anything. I don’t post every day or week. Maybe 1-2 a month, sometimes less, sometimes more. I share if there is something meaningful going on in my life or my kids life. My parents wish they saw more. I do like how everything is archived and immediately accessible through FB. If friends don’t like certain posts, then click “see less of these.” I don’t think of every person I am friends with on Facebook and think how it will be viewed. It’s not possible to make everyone happy.

How stupid can you be? If you really use Facebook only to share updates about the grandkids with family, do you understand how easy it is to set privacy settings on your post so it only shows to those family members? You can even create a special group, name it, and always share posts like that so that only the grandparents or whoever see. It is also saved to your feed “for posterity.” This is not difficult to do, it’s right there in the options any time you post.

But we all know this is just a lame excuse and you want to be an obnoxious braggart to the whole internet. It’s so disingenuous to say you are doing it to share with family when there’s a very easy way to share it only with family.

Yes, of course I know.

But you're also VASTY overestimating how little I care if my posts ignore you. Those are all steps I won't be taking bc I literally could not care less if my pictures and videos of my kid fit your ridiculous definition of what qualifies as necessary social media content.

I could do those things, but why?

DP. I’ll bet there are at least a few people on your friends list who you do care if you annoy, though. Believe me, you are. And they think less of you because of it. We’re to help you with a little self-awareness.