Social media bragging

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Anonymous wrote:The funniest thing about all of this, is that literally nobody outside of the swimming world even remotely cares about swimming.

Neither of my kids play basketball, but I'll watch the youth highlights from friends, or even go to the HS games.

My DS plays tackle football. And people without kids in football will take an interest and comment on his videos or the outcome of his game.

But swimming? GTFO. Nobody cares

The funniest thing about this is that, while insulting parents who post videos of their kids swimming, you simultaneously tell people - not sarcastically - that you post your son’s football videos (GTFO, who plays football anymore?!) and actually think people GAF about that. Didn’t major in logic in college, I see.

I was PP that posted that nobody cares about swimming (and I stand by it)

But I wasn't saying not to post the video. Post away! Brag about your kids. Just dont get upset with your neighbors video of their kid scoring a touchdown gets more engagement

You’re insane if you think people care more about one sport over another in SM posts. I think certain sports are more interesting to watch but I give no real attention to any kid focused sports SM posts, even those involving your football playing kid.

The amount of people suffering from main character syndrome is ridiculous. you're insane if you think the rest of the world doesnt watch youth athletic highlights simply because you don't.

People absolutely do and there is ata to back it up.

the highlights of my DS playing football get 20x the views of my other DS on archery or my DD on track. But my DD's softball highlights gets 10x the views of her track highlights.

But at the end of the day, I don't care. I still post and share them bc I know people are interested in seeing my kid's successes, just as I am interested in seeing, sharing in, and celebrating their kid's successes

The rest of the world watches youth athletic highlights? Data, please. Exclude all family members, other teens (I’d go to football games but never watch the games), employees, etc. strangers to everyone involved…who is watching youth football?

Do you not understand how social media works? Or do you just use facebook?

I can post a video of my son's football highlights and it will get put into people's feeds from across the country. They all view it, and many will 'heart' it.

So, even if my number of followers is relatively low, a video could get tens of thousands of views. Hell, sometimes I mindlessly scroll and watch the highlights from other teams in other parts of the country.

My guess is 90% of those video views are from you and your family. Carry on…

PS that’s not data proving the world watches youth athletics (except boring swimming). That’s proof YOU watch it. I promise you…people are not at the edge of their seats waiting to see what your kid and his team does next.

It literally said earlier that is amazing that some people can't fathom that others like and view different content than they do.

So, my IG following is very modest. Under 200 followers. So explain to me that I have videos that have over 2,000 likes, and thousands of views.

I just liked a video of a youth basketball game that showed up in my feed from an account that I do not follow. The mom that shared that video has about 500 followers. I liked it because it was a great pass by her kid. People watch this stuff. They've curated their feed to see the content that they want to see

Tbh, you obviously have no idea what you're talking about, or how some aspects of social media even work.

I IMPLORE you to stop posting your numbers of “views” and “Likes.”

I’m going to die of secondhand embarrassment.

Yes, I know you’re boring and predictable, so you’ll come back with a sixth grade “Well, that’s probably a GOOD THING, because the world would be better off without people like you in it!!!”

There. I saved you the keystrokes.

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Anonymous wrote:The older I get, the weirder I find the SM behavior. So much bragging. Posting about first class flights, fancy business travel, expensive restaurants etc. It is like no one has any shame anymore. The worst is when people have a wedding and tag all of the brands.

I also find the influencers weird, especially the ones who already had money. I can’t imagine having a large net worth and wanting to put private photos out there for anyone to see. No way. I’m so glad my vacations are private and very few know what the inside of my house looks like. The entire influencer thing is just about brands, image etc. very shallow and uninteresting to me.

Totally agree. But that's different right.

Posting "Little Larla pitched her first softball game of the season today. She went 4 innings and struck out 6! Only 1 run allowed. I'm so proud of her" and sharing a video of one her strikeouts

Its way different. Amazingly, that is what people are complaining about on this thread.

People are saying "its not needed" or that posts like that are "unnecessary". I think the opposite; that's EXACTLY what social media should be used for. [/b]Sharing and celebrating the good things[b]

You spelled “boasting” wrong. The fact that so many of you reached adulthood without knowing that this is a negative behavior is truly staggering.

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Anonymous wrote:The funniest thing about all of this, is that literally nobody outside of the swimming world even remotely cares about swimming.

Neither of my kids play basketball, but I'll watch the youth highlights from friends, or even go to the HS games.

My DS plays tackle football. And people without kids in football will take an interest and comment on his videos or the outcome of his game.

But swimming? GTFO. Nobody cares

The funniest thing about this is that, while insulting parents who post videos of their kids swimming, you simultaneously tell people - not sarcastically - that you post your son’s football videos (GTFO, who plays football anymore?!) and actually think people GAF about that. Didn’t major in logic in college, I see.

I was PP that posted that nobody cares about swimming (and I stand by it)

But I wasn't saying not to post the video. Post away! Brag about your kids. Just dont get upset with your neighbors video of their kid scoring a touchdown gets more engagement

You’re insane if you think people care more about one sport over another in SM posts. I think certain sports are more interesting to watch but I give no real attention to any kid focused sports SM posts, even those involving your football playing kid.

The amount of people suffering from main character syndrome is ridiculous. you're insane if you think the rest of the world doesnt watch youth athletic highlights simply because you don't.

People absolutely do and there is ata to back it up.

the highlights of my DS playing football get 20x the views of my other DS on archery or my DD on track. But my DD's softball highlights gets 10x the views of her track highlights.

But at the end of the day, I don't care. I still post and share them bc I know people are interested in seeing my kid's successes, just as I am interested in seeing, sharing in, and celebrating their kid's successes

Your last sentence contradicts your original post in its entirety. You said, no one GAF about swim, implying people are crazy to post these videos on social media. You followed that up with a version of “but everyone definitely loves tackle football so I always post videos of my son playing that sport.” That was idiotic, as perhaps you now recognize. So your retort is that you post videos of your kid’s sport and get support for, your “friends” and you likewise support your “friends’” kids’ sports, “celebrating their successes.”

Fabulous, but how is that at all consistent with your original point, which was basically to tell swim parents to sit down and STFU? I agree, great if you want to post your stupid videos, as long as you don’t bash others for posting their stupid videos. (And please, the talented athletes are not going into football anymore, not in my “bubble” or in what you - not me - term flyover states. The swimmers in the DMV are probably some of the most competitive in the country, so if we’re looking at talented kids people may actually GAF about, DMV swimmers (and lacrosse and soccer) probably rank higher than DMV football players.

ROFL

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Anonymous wrote:One person's annoyance is another's interest. OP and your ilk need to get over yourselves. Move on. Unlike, unfriend, unfollow. Or get off SM altogether since you obv find it too stressful.

I personally celebrate my friend's, and their kids', successes. Sometimes folks are over the top with it but so what? There are worse things.

No sure why people have to be so miserable so much of the time.

That’s fine. Just explaining that you look bad when you do it and people think you lack class. And please don’t let your 10 year old wunderkind see your over the top posting about them because it is damaging.

I don't have a 10 year old wunderkind, sweetie. And the point is, that may be what YOU think of those posters but -I- don't. Because I'm a decent person who supports my friends and their families, and their successes. In contrast, you are a miserable, judgmental shrew whose fingers must be too broken to use the "hide" feature. I'm sad for you.

We’re laughing at you,

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Anonymous wrote:One person's annoyance is another's interest. OP and your ilk need to get over yourselves. Move on. Unlike, unfriend, unfollow. Or get off SM altogether since you obv find it too stressful.

I personally celebrate my friend's, and their kids', successes. Sometimes folks are over the top with it but so what? There are worse things.

No sure why people have to be so miserable so much of the time.

That’s fine. Just explaining that you look bad when you do it and people think you lack class. And please don’t let your 10 year old wunderkind see your over the top posting about them because it is damaging.

I don't have a 10 year old wunderkind, sweetie. And the point is, that may be what YOU think of those posters but -I- don't. Because I'm a decent person who supports my friends and their families, and their successes. In contrast, you are a miserable, judgmental shrew whose fingers must be too broken to use the "hide" feature. I'm sad for you.

Hilarious when people realize they have done something to embarrass themselves and respond defensively by wildly name calling and referring to people as “sweetie.” Sorry I had to hold up the mirror for you. Sweetie.

No, hon. They's meant to make you look the fool you are. But, clearly you're not self aware enough to pick up on that. Not surprised. Instead, resorting to some lame retort to deflect from what a fool, and frankly a big, whiny baby, you are. Hon.

You’re doubling down. The only “fool” you’re showcasing here is yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:As a swim parent, today I am blown away after SC champs at the level of intense, shameless bragging by some other swim parents about their kid's performance. I'm talking multiple pictures, video, time standards reports, MeetMobile screen shots, and in one case, even a specific mention of who their kid beat! Then all the comments and likes that further encourage this behavior - it's mind blowing. I have to admit, I am feeling very differently about a few people who have shocked me with their tacky, tasteless bragging and carrying on. I know, I know - just stay off social media, don't look if you don't like it, etc. But I have seen it now and I just really have to wonder about the psychology of these parents. Is is living vicariously or some deep insecurity? I have to wonder what it does to the kids. These are young children, who knows what the future holds for them athletically or otherwise. It's just so interesting that people feel the need to brag so outwardly. I would be so embarrassed. Anyway, just had to share my shock.

I know a particular family who has done this for at least six or seven years. What's hilarious is their two girls have plateaued if not regressed vis a vis their age range. They appeared to be regional prodigies in their tweens and early teens, but in high school, while the family is still swim obsessed and shamelessly braggy, the girls don't win or perform anywhere near the level they used to. But the mum and dad still frame their Facebook bragging the same way to make the girls sound like they're setting the world on fire. I guess people who don't know swimming are none the wiser because the responses under the bragging seem to think the girls are like D1-bound rock stars or something. It's all so pathetic.

I know a family like this. They bragged so much that people who don’t know the sport thought the girl was headed for a college scholarship or the Olympics. They posted a video of her last race at the high school state meet in a small state. I could see her name and time on the scoreboard… a 1:03 100 freestyle. Yet people were still commenting “oh what’s next college swimming” because the parents had made SUCH a big deal posting about all her meets all those years.

I wonder if this is why some people do this… they know most of their FB friends don’t really know much and will be so impressed.

Maybe, just maybe, those parents are really proud of their kids. Even if they (gasp) only swim a 1:03 in 100 freestyle.

I feel bad for your kids.

You know how you let your kids know you’re proud of them?

“You did great out there. I’m so proud of you.”

100% social media free!

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Anonymous wrote:As a swim parent, today I am blown away after SC champs at the level of intense, shameless bragging by some other swim parents about their kid's performance. I'm talking multiple pictures, video, time standards reports, MeetMobile screen shots, and in one case, even a specific mention of who their kid beat! Then all the comments and likes that further encourage this behavior - it's mind blowing. I have to admit, I am feeling very differently about a few people who have shocked me with their tacky, tasteless bragging and carrying on. I know, I know - just stay off social media, don't look if you don't like it, etc. But I have seen it now and I just really have to wonder about the psychology of these parents. Is is living vicariously or some deep insecurity? I have to wonder what it does to the kids. These are young children, who knows what the future holds for them athletically or otherwise. It's just so interesting that people feel the need to brag so outwardly. I would be so embarrassed. Anyway, just had to share my shock.

I know a particular family who has done this for at least six or seven years. What's hilarious is their two girls have plateaued if not regressed vis a vis their age range. They appeared to be regional prodigies in their tweens and early teens, but in high school, while the family is still swim obsessed and shamelessly braggy, the girls don't win or perform anywhere near the level they used to. But the mum and dad still frame their Facebook bragging the same way to make the girls sound like they're setting the world on fire. I guess people who don't know swimming are none the wiser because the responses under the bragging seem to think the girls are like D1-bound rock stars or something. It's all so pathetic.

I know a family like this. They bragged so much that people who don’t know the sport thought the girl was headed for a college scholarship or the Olympics. They posted a video of her last race at the high school state meet in a small state. I could see her name and time on the scoreboard… a 1:03 100 freestyle. Yet people were still commenting “oh what’s next college swimming” because the parents had made SUCH a big deal posting about all her meets all those years.

I wonder if this is why some people do this… they know most of their FB friends don’t really know much and will be so impressed.

Maybe, just maybe, those parents are really proud of their kids. Even if they (gasp) only swim a 1:03 in 100 freestyle.

I feel bad for your kids.

You know how you let your kids know you’re proud of them?

“You did great out there. I’m so proud of you.”

100% social media free!

This this this this this!!! My god why does this have to be explained to anyone?!?

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Anonymous wrote:As a swim parent, today I am blown away after SC champs at the level of intense, shameless bragging by some other swim parents about their kid's performance. I'm talking multiple pictures, video, time standards reports, MeetMobile screen shots, and in one case, even a specific mention of who their kid beat! Then all the comments and likes that further encourage this behavior - it's mind blowing. I have to admit, I am feeling very differently about a few people who have shocked me with their tacky, tasteless bragging and carrying on. I know, I know - just stay off social media, don't look if you don't like it, etc. But I have seen it now and I just really have to wonder about the psychology of these parents. Is is living vicariously or some deep insecurity? I have to wonder what it does to the kids. These are young children, who knows what the future holds for them athletically or otherwise. It's just so interesting that people feel the need to brag so outwardly. I would be so embarrassed. Anyway, just had to share my shock.

I know a particular family who has done this for at least six or seven years. What's hilarious is their two girls have plateaued if not regressed vis a vis their age range. They appeared to be regional prodigies in their tweens and early teens, but in high school, while the family is still swim obsessed and shamelessly braggy, the girls don't win or perform anywhere near the level they used to. But the mum and dad still frame their Facebook bragging the same way to make the girls sound like they're setting the world on fire. I guess people who don't know swimming are none the wiser because the responses under the bragging seem to think the girls are like D1-bound rock stars or something. It's all so pathetic.

I know a family like this. They bragged so much that people who don’t know the sport thought the girl was headed for a college scholarship or the Olympics. They posted a video of her last race at the high school state meet in a small state. I could see her name and time on the scoreboard… a 1:03 100 freestyle. Yet people were still commenting “oh what’s next college swimming” because the parents had made SUCH a big deal posting about all her meets all those years.

I wonder if this is why some people do this… they know most of their FB friends don’t really know much and will be so impressed.

Maybe, just maybe, those parents are really proud of their kids. Even if they (gasp) only swim a 1:03 in 100 freestyle.

I feel bad for your kids.

You know how you let your kids know you’re proud of them?

“You did great out there. I’m so proud of you.”

100% social media free!

This this this this this!!! My god why does this have to be explained to anyone?!?

And bc all kids fail at times, it’s even better to compliment and praise the effort rather than the result.

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Anonymous wrote:If you enter enough events, especially lower caliber events, every swimmer can pick up some top 3 finishes. Many swim parents have kids who aren't even top 100 for their age in the state or commonwealth, yet sandbag these low rung events to brag like they're dominating and being recruiting by Duke. If anything, their kid will be swimming as a walk-on at some podunk d3 college that doesn't cut as long as you're current on tuition.

I am Not for bragging but this post goes too far. Why would you be mean about walk ins or d3 swimmers?

Most podunk d3s exist because families are only going there and paying expensive tuition to keep the student-athlete dream alive. I thought this was common knowledge?

Emory, JHU, MIT, etc. really? Wow, tell me more!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:If you enter enough events, especially lower caliber events, every swimmer can pick up some top 3 finishes. Many swim parents have kids who aren't even top 100 for their age in the state or commonwealth, yet sandbag these low rung events to brag like they're dominating and being recruiting by Duke. If anything, their kid will be swimming as a walk-on at some podunk d3 college that doesn't cut as long as you're current on tuition.

I am Not for bragging but this post goes too far. Why would you be mean about walk ins or d3 swimmers?

Most podunk d3s exist because families are only going there and paying expensive tuition to keep the student-athlete dream alive. I thought this was common knowledge?

Emory, JHU, MIT, etc. really? Wow, tell me more!!!!

^^ Swarthmore, Carnegie Melon, Pamona Pizer Colleges, Wash U, Claremont Mudds Scripps, NYU, Case, Brandeis, Vassar, Wesleyan, Grinnell…

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Wow the crazies are up early this morning

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Anonymous wrote:How about all the people who don’t like social media posts just stay off social media and let the people who like social media posts live in peace?

Because some of us who like social media posts in general, don’t like braggy social media posts.

What do you like on social media?

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Parents get nuts. In my experience we all over post at 8-9 age then by 10-11 we realize we look silly. Some parents are still going strong with the Little Johnny scored 2 goals in our 11-0 win today and just don't get it.

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Anonymous wrote:So many of you using your kids’ accomplishments to prop up your own self esteem and to enrich advertisers on the internet. Get lives.

And they’re all here furiously screaming JEALOUS!!! and coming up with absurd rationalizations for their attention-begging.

Pathetic.

Attention-begging is so good. I’m stealing that.

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Anonymous wrote:As a parent of older swimmers, pls don’t ever post about your kid winning when they are age group swimmers. Swimming is a long game and you don’t want your kid’s identity to be about the winning - Even to grandparents or close friends who will love your kid no matter what. If your kid continues to succeed, the older accomplishments will likely get highlighted by their high school or college. And if they quit or fall off, you will be grateful you didn’t define them by their wins when they were younger so your kid now feels like a failure.

Celebrate age group champs with your kid in person (be proud of the work ethic, being a good teammate, race strategy and time drop) but don’t lose sight of the fact the swimming is for them, not for you. Your job is to raise a kind human and good citizen who can function in society. Their success in swimming is their own and not yours.

Sanest swim parent ever. Bravo!

+1. This is the correct attitude. It is 100% right that if your child has long-term success, it will be recognized by outside entities. The braggy parents think they are just being supportive and proud by sharing their kids' successes widely. Kids will feel that, even if it's subconscious, as pressure to keep succeeding whether you mean it to or not. I have seen firsthand how damaging the parental overinvestment is for athletes whose peak success was in their younger years. They feel that they are disappointing their parents when they fall off their previous trajectory and the sport stops being a positive experience for them. Kids aren't stupid. If they see you are so invested in what they are doing that you're posting about it on social media, they are going to feel pressure.

What other parents think about your posts is not what matters. The kind of message the child gets from your posting is what you need to worry about.

Well, life is a long game. I guess we should never post about any accomplishment/milestone as it will be seen as undue pressure on our child. We should never celebrate any accomplishments, big or small. I guess every child is a snowflake and should never experience failure or disappointment.

I am the the poster with older swimmers and correct, I would recommend not posting about sports results at all for reasons I outlined but there are lots of other ways to celebrate accomplishments in-person (which my original post clearly mentions). Your pivot to stuff about special snowflakes doesn’t make sense. We are talking about not posting results, especially good ones. Those kids wouldn’t be fragile in the moment. This is about helping kids have a long-term healthy relationship with sports. The glibness of your reply doesn’t further your argument.