Social media bragging

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The funniest thing about all of this, is that literally nobody outside of the swimming world even remotely cares about swimming.

Neither of my kids play basketball, but I'll watch the youth highlights from friends, or even go to the HS games.

My DS plays tackle football. And people without kids in football will take an interest and comment on his videos or the outcome of his game.

But swimming? GTFO. Nobody cares

The idea is it could be any brag about a kid - no one wants to hear it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

Like I said, all those are more difficult or don't meet the need.

Family text chain: not saved for posterity
Private Email: more difficult
Instagram: Gimme a break. You think my 80 year old father in the upstate NY wilderness is going to use instagram?

The right answer is that everybody takes a deep breath, chills a little bit, and stops GAF about what other people post on social media

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

How about unfriend, follow, hide, ignore? Then you don't have to see it. And bonus, you get to not come here complaining.

[Anonymous]

So many of you using your kids’ accomplishments to prop up your own self esteem and to enrich advertisers on the internet. Get lives.

[Anonymous]

I love seeing posts about how my friends' kids did in their various extracurriculars. I don't live near most of my friends, so I don't get to know their kids all that well, but I like seeing their updates and accomplishments.

This past week:
Family friends had a band concert
My elementary school best friend's son made the high school baseball team.
A college friend's son preformed at a state ballet thing.
Neighbor had their first t-ball game.
A high school friend's kid went to state speech competition.

I cheer all of these and like seeing them. Are they bragging...maybe. But for me it is a hit of happy news when the world doesn't have enough of that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:As a swim parent, today I am blown away after SC champs at the level of intense, shameless bragging by some other swim parents about their kid's performance. I'm talking multiple pictures, video, time standards reports, MeetMobile screen shots, and in one case, even a specific mention of who their kid beat! Then all the comments and likes that further encourage this behavior - it's mind blowing. I have to admit, I am feeling very differently about a few people who have shocked me with their tacky, tasteless bragging and carrying on. I know, I know - just stay off social media, don't look if you don't like it, etc. But I have seen it now and I just really have to wonder about the psychology of these parents. Is is living vicariously or some deep insecurity? I have to wonder what it does to the kids. These are young children, who knows what the future holds for them athletically or otherwise. It's just so interesting that people feel the need to brag so outwardly. I would be so embarrassed. Anyway, just had to share my shock.

Worry about yourself and being such a judgmental jacka$$. There's plenty to work with there.

But a nerve, have we? How many posts have you done in 2023? Give or take…

How many? maybe 20, being generous. Most are gardening articles, pics of my pets, and a few of my kid's sport.
To be clear, I don't care what you think of that. But, you were surely implying I'm constantly posting of my kids successes but I'm not.

So, no. No nerve hit and my characterization of you stands.

I am the one who asked how many 2023 posts you’ve done but I’m not OP.

20 posts? We don’t need to see your pet. Really, we don’t.

So 20 posts by mid March, only 2.5 months into 2023. That’s about 96 posts a year or one every 3.96 days. Who needs to see that much of your life? Send the same stuff to your mom or siblings or aunties.

Person who you're responding to. I.Don't.Care.What.You.Think.

You don't want to see it? Get off SM or unfriend/hide/unfollow. It really is that easy. But, I guess then you don't get to be sanctimonious then? Or are you just that fragile?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

Like I said, all those are more difficult or don't meet the need.

Family text chain: not saved for posterity
Private Email: more difficult
Instagram: Gimme a break. You think my 80 year old father in the upstate NY wilderness is going to use instagram?

The right answer is that everybody takes a deep breath, chills a little bit, and stops GAF about what other people post on social media

The whole post is about posting on social media brags about kids. Someone said it's for family and to save the memory. (Sigh.) If gramps can't view social media and you're responding in this post, how do you make sense?

FWIW, you're absolutely ridiculous if you think justifying these posts as necessary. There are plenty of other ways to share the information in a more private family way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many of you using your kids’ accomplishments to prop up your own self esteem and to enrich advertisers on the internet. Get lives.

You're precious. Some of us are quite successful in our own right and doing no such thing. But, I'm sorry your kid doesn't have any accomplishments. Must be tough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a swim parent, today I am blown away after SC champs at the level of intense, shameless bragging by some other swim parents about their kid's performance. I'm talking multiple pictures, video, time standards reports, MeetMobile screen shots, and in one case, even a specific mention of who their kid beat! Then all the comments and likes that further encourage this behavior - it's mind blowing. I have to admit, I am feeling very differently about a few people who have shocked me with their tacky, tasteless bragging and carrying on. I know, I know - just stay off social media, don't look if you don't like it, etc. But I have seen it now and I just really have to wonder about the psychology of these parents. Is is living vicariously or some deep insecurity? I have to wonder what it does to the kids. These are young children, who knows what the future holds for them athletically or otherwise. It's just so interesting that people feel the need to brag so outwardly. I would be so embarrassed. Anyway, just had to share my shock.

Worry about yourself and being such a judgmental jacka$$. There's plenty to work with there.

But a nerve, have we? How many posts have you done in 2023? Give or take…

How many? maybe 20, being generous. Most are gardening articles, pics of my pets, and a few of my kid's sport.
To be clear, I don't care what you think of that. But, you were surely implying I'm constantly posting of my kids successes but I'm not.

So, no. No nerve hit and my characterization of you stands.

I am the one who asked how many 2023 posts you’ve done but I’m not OP.

20 posts? We don’t need to see your pet. Really, we don’t.

So 20 posts by mid March, only 2.5 months into 2023. That’s about 96 posts a year or one every 3.96 days. Who needs to see that much of your life? Send the same stuff to your mom or siblings or aunties.

Person who you're responding to. I.Don't.Care.What.You.Think.

You don't want to see it? Get off SM or unfriend/hide/unfollow. It really is that easy. But, I guess then you don't get to be sanctimonious then? Or are you just that fragile?

What was the last thing you posted about your kid? Not specifics but generally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love seeing posts about how my friends' kids did in their various extracurriculars. I don't live near most of my friends, so I don't get to know their kids all that well, but I like seeing their updates and accomplishments.

This past week:
Family friends had a band concert
My elementary school best friend's son made the high school baseball team.
A college friend's son preformed at a state ballet thing.
Neighbor had their first t-ball game.
A high school friend's kid went to state speech competition.

I cheer all of these and like seeing them. Are they bragging...maybe. But for me it is a hit of happy news when the world doesn't have enough of that.

+100

I will celebrate every win for every kid. Even if my kid came in last in their own respective sport.

We are friends with a family that shows cows.

When their DD wins for her cow that she raised, I see it on FB and send a congratulatory text to the mom.

Keep posting those videos

[Anonymous]

Is there anyone on here who previously did this and now is rethinking this?

Is there anyone on here who likes to do this on SM because in real life it is tacky?

I'm not talking about occasional posts with updates about great things that are happening for their kids. I mean excessive posting about kids - maybe one every 3.96 days or more?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

Like I said, all those are more difficult or don't meet the need.

Family text chain: not saved for posterity
Private Email: more difficult
Instagram: Gimme a break. You think my 80 year old father in the upstate NY wilderness is going to use instagram?

The right answer is that everybody takes a deep breath, chills a little bit, and stops GAF about what other people post on social media

Then someone needs to upgrade their phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

Like I said, all those are more difficult or don't meet the need.

Family text chain: not saved for posterity
Private Email: more difficult
Instagram: Gimme a break. You think my 80 year old father in the upstate NY wilderness is going to use instagram?

The right answer is that everybody takes a deep breath, chills a little bit, and stops GAF about what other people post on social media

The whole post is about posting on social media brags about kids. Someone said it's for family and to save the memory. (Sigh.) If gramps can't view social media and you're responding in this post, how do you make sense?

FWIW, you're absolutely ridiculous if you think justifying these posts as necessary. There are plenty of other ways to share the information in a more private family way.

Maybe we should start with your perspective on what posts actually are "necessary"

Because would say, none are. Which is kind of the point of social media

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The funniest thing about all of this, is that literally nobody outside of the swimming world even remotely cares about swimming.

Neither of my kids play basketball, but I'll watch the youth highlights from friends, or even go to the HS games.

My DS plays tackle football. And people without kids in football will take an interest and comment on his videos or the outcome of his game.

But swimming? GTFO. Nobody cares

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