Social media bragging

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Anonymous wrote:Why so salty, OP? If a kid did amazing, tried their best, maybe even beat a kid they couldn't before, why shouldn't parents be proud of their effort/performance and share that with their friends and family? You can always delete them from your friends list if it bothers you to the point you have to complain about it online.

Would you say this to your friends on a frequent basis m, in person or by email? Text?

Hey everyone,
It’s me again! Josh made prelims AND finals this week. He came in first in his heat for every race and the coach said he’s never seen such drive! #proudmom!

Hey Guys,
I just wanted to share that Bill made the VARSITY football team. Only 2 9th graders made it so we were very excited. He’ll play tomorrow night! I’ll update everyone with how he does!

I really don’t mind either of those messages. I think they are nice and I’d love to hear all that about my friends kids.

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Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

My parents are old school. Only 1 has a smartphone but it has no data and they pay for minutes.
The other one barely knows how to use the phone. They are not tech savvy (with computers) but do have an iPad (no data, just Wi-Fi) and use Facebook. I can’t send videos through text or email. They are always too big. I have tried Dropbox and they can’t figure out logins and links and how to save stuff. They love seeing kid updates on Facebook as it is the only way they see anything. I don’t post every day or week. Maybe 1-2 a month, sometimes less, sometimes more. I share if there is something meaningful going on in my life or my kids life. My parents wish they saw more. I do like how everything is archived and immediately accessible through FB. If friends don’t like certain posts, then click “see less of these.” I don’t think of every person I am friends with on Facebook and think how it will be viewed. It’s not possible to make everyone happy.

How stupid can you be? If you really use Facebook only to share updates about the grandkids with family, do you understand how easy it is to set privacy settings on your post so it only shows to those family members? You can even create a special group, name it, and always share posts like that so that only the grandparents or whoever see. It is also saved to your feed “for posterity.” This is not difficult to do, it’s right there in the options any time you post.

But we all know this is just a lame excuse and you want to be an obnoxious braggart to the whole internet. It’s so disingenuous to say you are doing it to share with family when there’s a very easy way to share it only with family.

Yes, of course I know.

But you're also VASTY overestimating how little I care if my posts ignore you. Those are all steps I won't be taking bc I literally could not care less if my pictures and videos of my kid fit your ridiculous definition of what qualifies as necessary social media content.

I could do those things, but why?

DP. I’ll bet there are at least a few people on your friends list who you do care if you annoy, though. Believe me, you are. And they think less of you because of it. We’re to help you with a little self-awareness.

Look. If there is somebody within my silly little social media friends network that gets annoyed by a video of my kid in an athletic event, I will not miss them when they unfriend me.

Seriously. You need to pull the stick out of your a$s. I'm here to help you with that

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why so salty, OP? If a kid did amazing, tried their best, maybe even beat a kid they couldn't before, why shouldn't parents be proud of their effort/performance and share that with their friends and family? You can always delete them from your friends list if it bothers you to the point you have to complain about it online.

Would you say this to your friends on a frequent basis m, in person or by email? Text?

Hey everyone,
It’s me again! Josh made prelims AND finals this week. He came in first in his heat for every race and the coach said he’s never seen such drive! #proudmom!

Hey Guys,
I just wanted to share that Bill made the VARSITY football team. Only 2 9th graders made it so we were very excited. He’ll play tomorrow night! I’ll update everyone with how he does!

I really don’t mind either of those messages. I think they are nice and I’d love to hear all that about my friends kids.

+100

Agreed. I would be happy to be a part of both of those IRL conversations

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Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

My parents are old school. Only 1 has a smartphone but it has no data and they pay for minutes.
The other one barely knows how to use the phone. They are not tech savvy (with computers) but do have an iPad (no data, just Wi-Fi) and use Facebook. I can’t send videos through text or email. They are always too big. I have tried Dropbox and they can’t figure out logins and links and how to save stuff. They love seeing kid updates on Facebook as it is the only way they see anything. I don’t post every day or week. Maybe 1-2 a month, sometimes less, sometimes more. I share if there is something meaningful going on in my life or my kids life. My parents wish they saw more. I do like how everything is archived and immediately accessible through FB. If friends don’t like certain posts, then click “see less of these.” I don’t think of every person I am friends with on Facebook and think how it will be viewed. It’s not possible to make everyone happy.

How stupid can you be? If you really use Facebook only to share updates about the grandkids with family, do you understand how easy it is to set privacy settings on your post so it only shows to those family members? You can even create a special group, name it, and always share posts like that so that only the grandparents or whoever see. It is also saved to your feed “for posterity.” This is not difficult to do, it’s right there in the options any time you post.

But we all know this is just a lame excuse and you want to be an obnoxious braggart to the whole internet. It’s so disingenuous to say you are doing it to share with family when there’s a very easy way to share it only with family.

Yes, of course I know.

But you're also VASTY overestimating how little I care if my posts ignore you. Those are all steps I won't be taking bc I literally could not care less if my pictures and videos of my kid fit your ridiculous definition of what qualifies as necessary social media content.

I could do those things, but why?

DP. I’ll bet there are at least a few people on your friends list who you do care if you annoy, though. Believe me, you are. And they think less of you because of it. We’re to help you with a little self-awareness.

On god

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Anonymous wrote:The funniest thing about all of this, is that literally nobody outside of the swimming world even remotely cares about swimming.

Neither of my kids play basketball, but I'll watch the youth highlights from friends, or even go to the HS games.

My DS plays tackle football. And people without kids in football will take an interest and comment on his videos or the outcome of his game.

But swimming? GTFO. Nobody cares

This

I'd encourage some of you to attend a big swim meet. I was a college basketball player and had this "who cares" superior attitude for quite a while until I actually started going to meets. They are a lot of fun and can be comparatively loud because of the acoustics! It is a far more realistic avenue into a highly selective college than football or basketball these days too, so it isn't a bad thing for your child to fall in love with!

I'd definitely prefer a swim meet to a baseball or softball game.

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Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

Like I said, all those are more difficult or don't meet the need.

Family text chain: not saved for posterity
Private Email: more difficult
Instagram: Gimme a break. You think my 80 year old father in the upstate NY wilderness is going to use instagram?

The right answer is that everybody takes a deep breath, chills a little bit, and stops GAF about what other people post on social media

Then someone needs to upgrade their phone.

I’m not seeing why you can’t create a FB friends group with your close family in it and then share your posts with them. Very easy and does all the things you want. But, really, you do want everyone to see your posts so you won’t do that.

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Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

My parents are old school. Only 1 has a smartphone but it has no data and they pay for minutes.
The other one barely knows how to use the phone. They are not tech savvy (with computers) but do have an iPad (no data, just Wi-Fi) and use Facebook. I can’t send videos through text or email. They are always too big. I have tried Dropbox and they can’t figure out logins and links and how to save stuff. They love seeing kid updates on Facebook as it is the only way they see anything. I don’t post every day or week. Maybe 1-2 a month, sometimes less, sometimes more. I share if there is something meaningful going on in my life or my kids life. My parents wish they saw more. I do like how everything is archived and immediately accessible through FB. If friends don’t like certain posts, then click “see less of these.” I don’t think of every person I am friends with on Facebook and think how it will be viewed. It’s not possible to make everyone happy.

How stupid can you be? If you really use Facebook only to share updates about the grandkids with family, do you understand how easy it is to set privacy settings on your post so it only shows to those family members? You can even create a special group, name it, and always share posts like that so that only the grandparents or whoever see. It is also saved to your feed “for posterity.” This is not difficult to do, it’s right there in the options any time you post.

But we all know this is just a lame excuse and you want to be an obnoxious braggart to the whole internet. It’s so disingenuous to say you are doing it to share with family when there’s a very easy way to share it only with family.

Yes, of course I know.

But you're also VASTY overestimating how little I care if my posts ignore you. Those are all steps I won't be taking bc I literally could not care less if my pictures and videos of my kid fit your ridiculous definition of what qualifies as necessary social media content.

I could do those things, but why?

DP. I’ll bet there are at least a few people on your friends list who you do care if you annoy, though. Believe me, you are. And they think less of you because of it. We’re to help you with a little self-awareness.

On god

No adult should be saying “on god”, are you 12?

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I will agree with a PP that I haven’t yet met a person who posts like this that I actually like in real life. So, I guess it doesn’t bother me much because these people aren’t my people. Sometimes it helps me weed out people. I meet someone, they friend me online, I see their biweekly soccer brag post, and I know, it wasn’t just that I didn’t think we clicked. They aren’t my type of person. We won’t be BFFs.

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If you think it’s right and comes across as you intend it, keep on, keeping on. If you want an ounce of education on how you’re coming off so you have more self awareness, you’ll listen. You’re either an oversharing annoyance or you’re much more judicious and selective about what you share.

For perspective: I remember running into a friend and she was telling me how her kid was struggling with reading. She was visibly upset. A second friend walked by and after saying “hi,” she blurted out that her daughter was just accepted in AAP and is so advanced! Clearly friend 2 didn’t know the hurt friend 1 was experiencing, but why was friend 2 sharing this information after I simply said “hi,” and with a stranger there? I like to hear great things other kids are doing, too, but in a more restrained way and part of an organic conversation.

[Anonymous]

I've screenshot meet mobile results. Why not. My kid dropped over 2.5 secs in 2 events at his last meet. I'm super proud of their accomplishment. if you don't like, either unfriend me or scroll on.

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Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

My parents are old school. Only 1 has a smartphone but it has no data and they pay for minutes.
The other one barely knows how to use the phone. They are not tech savvy (with computers) but do have an iPad (no data, just Wi-Fi) and use Facebook. I can’t send videos through text or email. They are always too big. I have tried Dropbox and they can’t figure out logins and links and how to save stuff. They love seeing kid updates on Facebook as it is the only way they see anything. I don’t post every day or week. Maybe 1-2 a month, sometimes less, sometimes more. I share if there is something meaningful going on in my life or my kids life. My parents wish they saw more. I do like how everything is archived and immediately accessible through FB. If friends don’t like certain posts, then click “see less of these.” I don’t think of every person I am friends with on Facebook and think how it will be viewed. It’s not possible to make everyone happy.

How stupid can you be? If you really use Facebook only to share updates about the grandkids with family, do you understand how easy it is to set privacy settings on your post so it only shows to those family members? You can even create a special group, name it, and always share posts like that so that only the grandparents or whoever see. It is also saved to your feed “for posterity.” This is not difficult to do, it’s right there in the options any time you post.

But we all know this is just a lame excuse and you want to be an obnoxious braggart to the whole internet. It’s so disingenuous to say you are doing it to share with family when there’s a very easy way to share it only with family.

Yes, of course I know.

But you're also VASTY overestimating how little I care if my posts ignore you. Those are all steps I won't be taking bc I literally could not care less if my pictures and videos of my kid fit your ridiculous definition of what qualifies as necessary social media content.

I could do those things, but why?

DP. I’ll bet there are at least a few people on your friends list who you do care if you annoy, though. Believe me, you are. And they think less of you because of it. We’re to help you with a little self-awareness.

On god

No adult should be saying “on god”, are you 12?

How you know what it means Patty?

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Anonymous wrote:I've screenshot meet mobile results. Why not. My kid dropped over 2.5 secs in 2 events at his last meet. I'm super proud of their accomplishment. if you don't like, either unfriend me or scroll on.

We’ve explained why not. You don’t get it. Does posting your screenshot make you more super proud of your child’s accomplishment? No.

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Anonymous wrote:For what its worth, I post it on social media so it's saved, and I can revisit it in the future.

I don't really care that much how much engagement it gets.

Plus, its a great way for my Dad to watch the highlights of his grandchildren.

Oh, the well-worn “I just use it to save the photo/info” excuse.

So your posts are set to the privacy setting equivalent of “Only Me,” then, correct?

Well, no, because as I said, grandparents, and aunts/uncles want to see it too. Its just easier than uploading to google drive and emailing a link.

And I promise, the video of my kid coming in last, or of him getting a groundball basehit, or even better, when I post a video of him losing a wrestling match is not social media bragging

But his family loves him and just want to see the videos of him doing something that he loves.

Man, everyone around here is just so cranky. Always assuming the worst

How about a family text chain? A private email? A private Instagram account?

My parents are old school. Only 1 has a smartphone but it has no data and they pay for minutes.
The other one barely knows how to use the phone. They are not tech savvy (with computers) but do have an iPad (no data, just Wi-Fi) and use Facebook. I can’t send videos through text or email. They are always too big. I have tried Dropbox and they can’t figure out logins and links and how to save stuff. They love seeing kid updates on Facebook as it is the only way they see anything. I don’t post every day or week. Maybe 1-2 a month, sometimes less, sometimes more. I share if there is something meaningful going on in my life or my kids life. My parents wish they saw more. I do like how everything is archived and immediately accessible through FB. If friends don’t like certain posts, then click “see less of these.” I don’t think of every person I am friends with on Facebook and think how it will be viewed. It’s not possible to make everyone happy.

How stupid can you be? If you really use Facebook only to share updates about the grandkids with family, do you understand how easy it is to set privacy settings on your post so it only shows to those family members? You can even create a special group, name it, and always share posts like that so that only the grandparents or whoever see. It is also saved to your feed “for posterity.” This is not difficult to do, it’s right there in the options any time you post.

But we all know this is just a lame excuse and you want to be an obnoxious braggart to the whole internet. It’s so disingenuous to say you are doing it to share with family when there’s a very easy way to share it only with family.

Yes, of course I know.

But you're also VASTY overestimating how little I care if my posts ignore you. Those are all steps I won't be taking bc I literally could not care less if my pictures and videos of my kid fit your ridiculous definition of what qualifies as necessary social media content.

I could do those things, but why?

DP. I’ll bet there are at least a few people on your friends list who you do care if you annoy, though. Believe me, you are. And they think less of you because of it. We’re to help you with a little self-awareness.

On god

No adult should be saying “on god”, are you 12?

How you know what it means Patty?

Umm becuase I have a tween and they and their friends use that phrase constantly?

[Anonymous]

I’d rather hear about a kid’s accomplishments (both in and out of school) than see pics of food they ate for dinner, political ramblings, selling crap noone needs, or staged pictures to get a social media worthy picture. You know those that are posed to say “hey, look at me and where I’m at/who I’m with…”

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Anonymous wrote:I’d rather hear about a kid’s accomplishments (both in and out of school) than see pics of food they ate for dinner, political ramblings, selling crap noone needs, or staged pictures to get a social media worthy picture. You know those that are posed to say “hey, look at me and where I’m at/who I’m with…”

I wouldn’t because the kids accomplishments are minuscule 99.99 percent of the time