Sort of estranged from parents, but they want to come to college graduation

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Anonymous wrote:But they didn't. She came home in summers and they paid for health insurance and a phone.

She stayed with her grandmother during the breaks or was at internships.
It doesnt cost anything to keep her on their health plan.

Yes they paid for a phone.

Are all medical services free? Of course they aren’t OP got more out if this than the monthly premium.

Passively leaving an extra adult kid on your work health insurance is not some heavy lift.

So you never have any additional needs outside of an annual well visit? Doubt it.

Not now but when I was in college? I maybe went to one “well visit” in 4 years of college. I think I had one Pap smear as well w a gynecologist. So maybe 2 Dr appts (both of which would’ve been fully covered by insurance) in 4 years.

Ok, since you are not OP this is again irrelevant. Why are people so insistent on pushing this narrative when OP can't even speak to it?

I’m not pushing any narrative but simply refuting PP’s idea that college students probably need or use more healthcare than a well visit. And why can’t OP “speak to it?” Where’s OP?

Do you not get that it is completely irrelevant to this particular situation? Nobody cares about your situation.

It may be or it may not be. We don’t know since OP hasn’t said. And I didn’t say anything about my situation so F off.

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Anonymous wrote:But they didn't. She came home in summers and they paid for health insurance and a phone.

She stayed with her grandmother during the breaks or was at internships.
It doesnt cost anything to keep her on their health plan.

Yes they paid for a phone.

Are all medical services free? Of course they aren’t OP got more out if this than the monthly premium.

Passively leaving an extra adult kid on your work health insurance is not some heavy lift.

So you never have any additional needs outside of an annual well visit? Doubt it.

DP. College kids are not 40+ women. They are not big health care consumers. I doubt most even get an annual well visit.

So, again, speaking for OP and just making assumptions.

You are literally speaking for OP and making assumptions on how many doctors visits she has and how expensive this must be for her family.

Take your own advice.

No. because someone has been repeating the mantra for pages that it "does not cost extra" which is not a fact but an opinion.

It’s not an opinion that many if not most people don’t pay extra to keep a child on their insurance plan. No one here claimed to know OP’s situation. And OP hasn’t been back to speak for themselves. So people are sharing info that may be relevant.

Ok. Please tell us all about OPs dad's health care plan. Is it PPO? HMO? High deductible? OPs absence speaks volumes.

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Anonymous wrote:But they didn't. She came home in summers and they paid for health insurance and a phone.

She stayed with her grandmother during the breaks or was at internships.
It doesnt cost anything to keep her on their health plan.

Yes they paid for a phone.

Are all medical services free? Of course they aren’t OP got more out if this than the monthly premium.

Passively leaving an extra adult kid on your work health insurance is not some heavy lift.

So you never have any additional needs outside of an annual well visit? Doubt it.

DP. College kids are not 40+ women. They are not big health care consumers. I doubt most even get an annual well visit.

So, again, speaking for OP and just making assumptions.

You are literally speaking for OP and making assumptions on how many doctors visits she has and how expensive this must be for her family.

Take your own advice.

No. because someone has been repeating the mantra for pages that it "does not cost extra" which is not a fact but an opinion.

It’s not an opinion that many if not most people don’t pay extra to keep a child on their insurance plan. No one here claimed to know OP’s situation. And OP hasn’t been back to speak for themselves. So people are sharing info that may be relevant.

Ok. Please tell us all about OPs dad's health care plan. Is it PPO? HMO? High deductible? OPs absence speaks volumes.

Why are you so invested in this? Get a life.

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Anonymous wrote:But they didn't. She came home in summers and they paid for health insurance and a phone.

She stayed with her grandmother during the breaks or was at internships.
It doesnt cost anything to keep her on their health plan.

Yes they paid for a phone.

Are all medical services free? Of course they aren’t OP got more out if this than the monthly premium.

Passively leaving an extra adult kid on your work health insurance is not some heavy lift.

So you never have any additional needs outside of an annual well visit? Doubt it.

DP. College kids are not 40+ women. They are not big health care consumers. I doubt most even get an annual well visit.

So, again, speaking for OP and just making assumptions.

You are literally speaking for OP and making assumptions on how many doctors visits she has and how expensive this must be for her family.

Take your own advice.

No. because someone has been repeating the mantra for pages that it "does not cost extra" which is not a fact but an opinion.

It’s not an opinion that many if not most people don’t pay extra to keep a child on their insurance plan. No one here claimed to know OP’s situation. And OP hasn’t been back to speak for themselves. So people are sharing info that may be relevant.

Yes. It's factual that in most cases, keeping a child on your insurance doesnt cost extra.
Not sure why pps are trying to refute this and talk about how expensive this must be for her family?

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Some people just like to be contrarians and hate on the OP.

"OP must be making stuff up, because I once knew a drama queen!"

"OP must be bankrupting her family with her cell phone and insurance! They deserve to be celebrated for her college graduation!"

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Even if it the health insurance cost them money it is rather cheap compared to the situation of them being uninsured and needing emergency medical care. They'd ultimately be sucked into it financially and would be much worse for them.

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Anonymous wrote:Even if it the health insurance cost them money it is rather cheap compared to the situation of them being uninsured and needing emergency medical care. They'd ultimately be sucked into it financially and would be much worse for them.

And clearly far less than college tuition.

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Anonymous wrote:Some people just like to be contrarians and hate on the OP.

"OP must be making stuff up, because I once knew a drama queen!"

"OP must be bankrupting her family with her cell phone and insurance! They deserve to be celebrated for her college graduation!"

She has always had the right to refuse anything related to college. Whether they paid or not. They could pay and she could still refuse. It doesn't make sense to discuss if they have the right to attend. Of course they do, but not necessarily with her. Thought the OP wanted advice on the relationship, not the right yeah or neigh

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OP says she’s not the oldest child. I’d be curious if the parents treated the oldest child the same way - no financial or emotional support - when they went off to college and what that relationship is like.

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There are also younger children

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Anonymous wrote:Even if it the health insurance cost them money it is rather cheap compared to the situation of them being uninsured and needing emergency medical care. They'd ultimately be sucked into it financially and would be much worse for them.

And clearly far less than college tuition.

Depends

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Jeff already wrote a summary of this thread and clarified that OP was a troll