But if they washed their hands of OP at 18, they cannot very well expect to suddenly be included whenever they decide to show up. That’s the gravamen of OP’s question. What to do when your parents are not actually abusive but have made clear they are not interested in you at all. |
Yeah who knows with this person. For all the projection that's been done on the parents, maybe they're just blue collar people and OP told them they were a bunch of losers and she didn't want to wind up like them before heading to school. |
Totally irrelevant in this case. Stop speaking for the OP. If you want to talk about yourself, start your own thread. OP has apparently abandoned this one probably b/c answering the questions would blow her case up and make her look like a selfish twit. |
No they don’t at all. Instead of subsisting on eggs and ramen they order uber eats and outsource their laundry. You don’t know OP. |
Did you have a HS graduation? If you graduated in 2020, probably not. College graduation is to be celebrated regardless of how it was paid. This is something you can give your parents. |
OP is not attending her own graduation and will be working. |
+1 Something is 'off' with this post. OP never described a reason for the estrangement except for the non payment of her college tuition. |
Not paying when you can’t afford to is not the same as refusing to pay after FAFSA spits out an annual estimated family contribution figure so you can take vacations, drive new cars, and have younger kids in travel sports. In the latter, you’re screwing your college age kid’s life up if you refuse to help. |
Passively leaving an extra adult kid on your work health insurance is not some heavy lift. |
It should be celebrated! Her parents should throw her a wonderful party or take her out for a fabulous lunch and buy her a nice gift. It’s the least they can do for a child that has accomplished this without any financial burden on them. They just want to do a quick hit and run so they can check the box and alliviate any guilt they may feel. |
They could do that but I bet OP has few friends and she'd be worrying about them posting on social media. A party is actually less work than attending. |
So you never have any additional needs outside of an annual well visit? Doubt it. |
I worked for someone who complained endlessly about how all of her hard work and therefore money were going to her child's college education. Come to find out, child was a valedictorian who got a full ride scholarship to state flagship school (this was in the late 80's, there were also other family circumstances that helped to put their essay together that helped the full ride as well).
People like this are annoying. I'm not saying this is OP's exact situation but years later, I'm still bewildered by this woman's behavior. They were local, they didn't pay room & board, student wasn't residential so apart from the food/bills the mother always paid, nothing changed once kid got into college. |
They only do that if they have a lot of parent money. Which OP says they don’t have. My point is that college students can live on a shoestring - it’s normal! |
If you’re going to comment, you should actually read the post. OP gave plenty of reasons. |