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Do you say something to a mom in public with a sick kid?
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Anonymous
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Sorry ladies. Your job, your children's boredom is not justifiable reason to try to violate preschool sick child policies. Colds are one thing. A bad cough is another. A fever of 100 is another matter. A stomach bug is another.
It boils down to selfishness. |
Anonymous
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Some of the germophobe freaks sound like they are opposed to taking kids out with a common cold, though, pp.
If that's the case, then I think they're nincompoops too. |
Anonymous
No, you are saying to not going anywhere in public. That means, don't leave your home. How about YOU don't go to these places b/c if you are that paranoid about germs, you shouldn't risk it. B/c a lot of people are contagious and sick BEFORE THEY SHOW SYMPTOMS. |
Anonymous
I'm not a germophobe freak. I just don't like being sick and I hate missing work when my kids are sick. So if you could please be considerate and SPARE THE REST OF US your illness, even if it means your kid will be BORED, I'd appreciate it. |
Anonymous
Here is the real problem, PP. Everybody has a different idea of what "sick" means. I totally agree that children with fevers and very sick should stay home. I feel that way more for the child's health than for others, but the result is the same. But this isn't what you guys are saying. Many of you PPs are saying that you don't want a kid with even a runny nose out in public, and that is just plain ridiculous. Nobody here is saying to take a kid in public if it would violate a daycare/preschool policy. What we are saying is that all b/c YOU think my kid is sick b/c he has a runny nose does not mean that he is so sick that he needs to be quarantined at home. If you are THAT concerned about germs (to the extent that a runny nose bothers you), then seriously - YOU need to stay away from public places b/c many people are sick and contagious before they show any symptoms at all. |
Anonymous
It seems to me that a lot of the arguments on this thread for taking sick kids out had to do with the kids and/or moms bouncing off the walls, not that they weren't contagious anymore, with a "get over your precious self" thrown in for good measure. |
Anonymous
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OP and others:
I write washingtonpost.com's On Parenting blog (http://voices.washingtonpost.com/parenting/)and think this is a great issue to raise on the blog, particularly at this time of year when illnesses are so prevalent. Would you be willing to talk with me? If so, please e-mail me at parenting@washingtonpost.com. Thanks. Stacey Garfinkle |
Anonymous
Well stated, thanks. My child's colds are like mine: one or two days of feeling really lousy, maybe a touch of fever (and we stay home those days), followed by a week of runny nose and lingering cough. I absolutely keep her at home when she is listless and ill; once she gets her appetite and energy back, starts sleeping through the night again, and is generally back to her fun self, we resume our lives, no matter what her nose is doing. And if one of you ill-mannered kowtow-to-me-and-mine type parents gets in my face about it, you will get the most (politely delivered-- there are kids around) vicious tongue-lashing of your life. |
Anonymous
I disagree. I think most of the people are responding to posters who say - keep your kid with a drippy nose home. I don't know a single mom who would take her super-sick kid to the library/coffee shop/palyground. A super sick kid is not bouncing off the walls b/c they have no energy and are likely at home sleeping and doing low key activities (reading books, coloring, watching TV). And I find it offensive for people to think that THEY somehow know by looking at my kid whether he has a fever and that I'm just oblivious to it (I think one PP went so far as to state that she doubted we even bothered taking our kids temperature). I mean, really, people...you think the moms who care even to contribute to an online forum for parenting are the same moms that ignore their kids if they are lethargic, feverish and ill? What I really think is bothering some people are kids with colds in public places. I think most of these moms have babies, so they haven't experienced preschool/daycare and the germs that abound there, and they blame these kids with colds at the library for getting their kid sick. They just don't like it. These are the moms that I personally can't stand. But I also think that they will be singing a different tune as soon as their kids goes to school. |
Anonymous
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Indeed, pp. Indeed.
And just in keeping with the theme, I would like to add that anyone who says to keep my kid at home with a sniffly nose and no other symptoms is a meanie weenie. My kid has asthma. When she has an asthma attack, she usually coughs intensely. Sometimes people do stare and give dirty looks as though she's horribly sick and contagious. Those people are meanie weenies too. |
Anonymous
PP who said people don't take their children's temperature here: You have a point, I'll give you that. Most likely the moms who send their kids to school with a fever are not on this board. But they use similar excused as to why their kid is not really as sick. When your kid coughs up nasty stuff and has green snot coming out of their nose and looks plain miserable your kid should STAY AT HOME! It's one thing for you to drag your butt to work because you don't have enough sick leave when you're sick, but to do it to the kids is just not right. And the kids I was referring to were not the ones with slightly runny noses or an occasional cough, I stated that before. The OP was also referring to a visibly sick and miserable child, not to a high energy kid, in case you missed that. |
Anonymous
| The thread where someone suggested the mom take her kid to starbucks was about what to do with a child who had been diagnosed with a respiratory illness that was supposed to last 12 days. Thanks for exposing us to that 12 days of sickness so you could find something to do w/your kid who was too sick for day care or school. |
Anonymous
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If your going to take your sick kid out I think you should at least watch them to make sure they avoid other kids. I recently went to babies R us with my DS who is 1 month old. as I was waiting in line a 2-3 year old child walked up to him and said "ohh look at the baby" and leaned over and SNEEZED. I was soo angry and I could not find this childs parent anywhere.
Anyways, a few days later he developed a cold turns out it was RSV and we were in the hospital for 4 days. I had been pretty careful about who was around him and holding him so I am pretty sure he got it from this kid. |
Anonymous
| how about: don't take your one month old (prone to RSV) to probably the germiest place on earth. Leave the newborn home if you need to shop in a well known petri dish....you will find chiuldren with colds at huge toy stores....employees with colds mainly because they are around germy kids.... |
Anonymous
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Why on earth did you take a one month old child out to a public place?
Why weren't you at least holding him, or carrying in a sling? I would NEVER have had a baby that young in a public place; if not the doctor's. If I absolutely HAD to go out I would have had him in a sling or been carrying him or at least kept my eyes on him. I would have called the store, ordered what I needed, and driven by to pick it up. Under 2 months of age is a completely different issue, from over 2 months. IMO You CANNOT expect the rest of the world to follow rules of protection for the nenefit of newborns and those with compromised immune systems. |