Rant: What do you hate most about TTC

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your mention of depression, 17:56 PP, really resonates with me. I am having such a blue day...looks like I'm going to have an anovulatory cycle this round, and while ovulating and trying and failing is hard, not even getting the chance to try for a whole other cycle, watching the days/weeks/months slip by, just seems completely unjust. I know my struggle is less than others', and I know I still have time. I want to relax and enjoy life and see what comes and roll with punches and be glad for others and get some freaking perspective on my small problems....but I feel so blue.

That really sucks. I know we had to not try one month, and it felt like the six weeks between my period and next ovulation took forever. I can't imagine having to constantly deal with that issue. I'm sorry you have to deal with it.

Along those lines, there are days I only think about this for a few minutes and I'm fine, but then there are other days when it just HITS me like a truck and I just can't really snap out of it. It's really tough.

I'm nodding along to all of this, and just offer my support. You're not alone. I am on a 30 day rollercoaster of some ups but mostly low-lows. and every month it starts again. I have been taking zoloft for depression/anxiety for a few years, and am staying on it through TTC. Just something to consider...

[Anonymous]

Headed in to the last week of my cycle now - which means the low point for me, emotionally. Feeling doomed already, and just not looking forward to those anxious last few days where I swing wildly between hope and sadness. Ultimately to land on sadness and cry my eyes out for a few days. I wish I didn't feel so fatalistic about it. DH thinks my pessimism is actually having an effect.

Anyone else out there in a similar position?

[Anonymous]

That my meds make me look pregnant.

[Anonymous]

When sex basically becomes mechanical and simple hydraulics...zero romance.

[Anonymous]

I bought a bottle of 300 prenatal vitamins thinking it would at least get me into a pregnancy...yeah, I'm almost out and not pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Month 7 down the drain. On to month 8. I know plenty of people have journeys much longer than 8 months, but this is still so hard, and I find myself losing hope. when/how will this end? Every month is spot-on. 28-30 day cycles, I O on day 16, we have sex for 4 days before and one day after. We're temping and using OPKs. I know we are doing everything right every. single. month. Why is this not working? I'm just so sad.

I have realized I am living the definition of insanity: Doing the same thing every month and expecting a different result. This is awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Month 7 down the drain. On to month 8. I know plenty of people have journeys much longer than 8 months, but this is still so hard, and I find myself losing hope. when/how will this end? Every month is spot-on. 28-30 day cycles, I O on day 16, we have sex for 4 days before and one day after. We're temping and using OPKs. I know we are doing everything right every. single. month. Why is this not working? I'm just so sad.

I have realized I am living the definition of insanity: Doing the same thing every month and expecting a different result. This is awful.

It's not too early to give your OB a call. You can at least get a round of bloodwork done (It's taken on Day 3 of your cycle) to see if there's anything obviously wrong at this point without waiting a year, assuming you're under 35. Of course, if you're over 35, I'd talk to your OB immediately and also get an RE appointment.

My OB had no problem getting the bloodwork done for me once I was past the six month mark, even though I'm not quite 35.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Month 7 down the drain. On to month 8. I know plenty of people have journeys much longer than 8 months, but this is still so hard, and I find myself losing hope. when/how will this end? Every month is spot-on. 28-30 day cycles, I O on day 16, we have sex for 4 days before and one day after. We're temping and using OPKs. I know we are doing everything right every. single. month. Why is this not working? I'm just so sad.

I have realized I am living the definition of insanity: Doing the same thing every month and expecting a different result. This is awful.

It's not too early to give your OB a call. You can at least get a round of bloodwork done (It's taken on Day 3 of your cycle) to see if there's anything obviously wrong at this point without waiting a year, assuming you're under 35. Of course, if you're over 35, I'd talk to your OB immediately and also get an RE appointment.

My OB had no problem getting the bloodwork done for me once I was past the six month mark, even though I'm not quite 35.

Thanks. PP here. I got my day 3 bloodwork done this morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Month 7 down the drain. On to month 8. I know plenty of people have journeys much longer than 8 months, but this is still so hard, and I find myself losing hope. when/how will this end? Every month is spot-on. 28-30 day cycles, I O on day 16, we have sex for 4 days before and one day after. We're temping and using OPKs. I know we are doing everything right every. single. month. Why is this not working? I'm just so sad.

I have realized I am living the definition of insanity: Doing the same thing every month and expecting a different result. This is awful.

It's not too early to give your OB a call. You can at least get a round of bloodwork done (It's taken on Day 3 of your cycle) to see if there's anything obviously wrong at this point without waiting a year, assuming you're under 35. Of course, if you're over 35, I'd talk to your OB immediately and also get an RE appointment.

My OB had no problem getting the bloodwork done for me once I was past the six month mark, even though I'm not quite 35.

Thanks. PP here. I got my day 3 bloodwork done this morning.

Good luck--this is the PP who responded to you. We're on cycle 10 with fingers crossed. It's a weird place to be, it taking a long time but not yet entering the world of interventions.

[Anonymous]

Thanks all. Took #1 to nursery school today and saw tons of pregnant moms. Starting to realize I am jealous of them. Not a good feeling.

Hopefully this will be the month..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Month 7 down the drain. On to month 8. I know plenty of people have journeys much longer than 8 months, but this is still so hard, and I find myself losing hope. when/how will this end? Every month is spot-on. 28-30 day cycles, I O on day 16, we have sex for 4 days before and one day after. We're temping and using OPKs. I know we are doing everything right every. single. month. Why is this not working? I'm just so sad.

I have realized I am living the definition of insanity: Doing the same thing every month and expecting a different result. This is awful.

It's not too early to give your OB a call. You can at least get a round of bloodwork done (It's taken on Day 3 of your cycle) to see if there's anything obviously wrong at this point without waiting a year, assuming you're under 35. Of course, if you're over 35, I'd talk to your OB immediately and also get an RE appointment.

My OB had no problem getting the bloodwork done for me once I was past the six month mark, even though I'm not quite 35.

Out of curiosity, what are you able to learn from the day 3 bloodwork? I'm new to this...
Thanks. PP here. I got my day 3 bloodwork done this morning.

[Anonymous]

NP here - tried to post comment to a PP but I embedded my question instead. Anywhoooo -

what are you able to learn from day 3 bloodwork? I am new to this and just flunked month 4 (not a big deal but starting to think and will be discussing this at my next regular appt.).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here - tried to post comment to a PP but I embedded my question instead. Anywhoooo -

what are you able to learn from day 3 bloodwork? I am new to this and just flunked month 4 (not a big deal but starting to think and will be discussing this at my next regular appt.).

They usually check to make sure that you don't have cysts and that your uterine lining is down. I think they also measure estrogen and progesterone to make sure there's nothing abnormal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here - tried to post comment to a PP but I embedded my question instead. Anywhoooo -

what are you able to learn from day 3 bloodwork? I am new to this and just flunked month 4 (not a big deal but starting to think and will be discussing this at my next regular appt.).

They usually check to make sure that you don't have cysts and that your uterine lining is down. I think they also measure estrogen and progesterone to make sure there's nothing abnormal.

PP here. They tested estrogen, lutenizing hormone, and one other, i forget the name, that gives some indication on "ovarian reserve" I think. I don't know much about this yet, so someone please correct me if I'm wrong. All my numbers were "good" so they've told me to proceed with an HSG procedure next week. Not looking forward to that.

[Anonymous]

People at work saying "it must be in the water! watch out!" because two other colleagues are pregnant. It's not in the damn water, idiots. If it was, I'd be at the water fountain all damn day.