Rant: What do you hate most about TTC
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Anonymous
So much THIS. The 2ww is excrutiating, especially as you get towards the end. "Is that cramping implantation? AF? Plain old pregnancy cramps?" Over analyzing EVERY symptom as a sign (or not) of a BFP. Looking at my charts and dreading the drop at the end of the LP, hoping that maybe it's part of a triphasic thing only to get AF. I'm 11 DPO. My LP are usually 9 days. So I'm hopeful at 6 DPO i had a drop to my coverline then a spike back up, so of course I'm hoping this is an implantation dip. But I'm now on day 2 of a temp drop (not to coverline yet) and am feeling slightly crampy, so I assume AF is just a little late and will be here soon. It's the worst. |
Anonymous
PP poster here. And AF showed up this morning. Silver lining? Looks like my LPs are getting longer. Maybe that b6 is working. I'll think of that thru my tears. |
Anonymous
| I hate how selfish and sensitive I have become to others' good news. I used to be happy for friends with pregnancy and baby announcements. Now i'm just jealous and sad and don't even want to see them. Makes me feel like such a superficial and shallow person. I have been off FB for 3+ months, which is great. but Still my inbox and phone calls are filled with constant announcements. It just makes me so sad. |
Anonymous
| My temps just dropped today, so pretty positive getting period shortly. I just really hate this shit. |
Anonymous
The temping is great for the knowledge you get, but excruciating in terms of the stress it brings (to my life, anyhow). Every morning I feel anxious and nauseous waiting for the thermometer to do its thing. I also don't feel super confident that I'm able to distinguish between the quirks of temping and small signs that maybe something isn't quite right. |
Anonymous
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I actually prefer temping at the end of my cycle to peeing on a stick. It's disheartening for sure to see the temp crash on the thermometer, but somehow less lonesome and depressing than peeing on a test and watching it for a few anxious minutes, alone in the bathroom, trying to talk yourself in or out of a particular result. At least with temping I feel like it's a natural, daily occurance. not a special event with heaps of extra anxiety like testing.
The downside is that i do tend to start waking up earlier at the end of my cycle, eager to see if my temp with stay high or crash that day. and waking up too early and lying in bed wondering "do i temp now?" doesn't help. There aren't great options. Disappointment is disappointment. I'm 6 DPO on our 6th month of TTC. I wish I could feel more optimistic and hopeful, but I don't. Already have an appt pending at Columbia Fertility for May, as I assume this cycle and the next will not work out. |
Anonymous
I have been TTC for five months and this is the first month I temped so I could confirm ovulation. I thought it would be crazy stressful and analyze every temp, but they were actually pretty stable so it wasn't very stressful. If I decide to temp again next month, I might just stop a few days after confirming ovulation so I don't have to see this temp drop and be miserable from the time of temp dropping until I get my period. I think I would rather just get my period and have the misery in one fell swoop rather than delayed like this.... Actually, next month, I might not even OPK or temp. The OPKs have always been positive, so why feel the stress of "will I see the smiley today!?!".... |
Anonymous
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I've been off coffee and alcohol for over a year. The coffee is what I miss the most.
But also hate everything else mentioned here. |
Anonymous
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I hate the scheduled/timed sex. Sometimes we're both just so tired from work and life but we HAVE to do it that day because the OPK was positive. Nothing worse than forcing yourself to do it when you just plain aren't in the mood.
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Anonymous
PP, try the Softcup method. We've been feeling this stress of having to do it at the exact moment - it is easy enough to force yourself as the woman (just lie back and think of England) but it is so much pressure for my spouse. We use the Softcup when no one feels like getting it on. |
Anonymous
| What did I hate most? It not working. |
Anonymous
It is many years later for me, and yes I did finally have the baby. But so much time had passed. Looking back, other than having the baby so late what I feel the worst was: the process robbed me of choice. I had the choice to stop. I had the choice to choose child free. Supposedly I had the choice not to feel so bad about it -- but between the hormones, the medications, and the miscarriages, all I could think of was -- succeed, succeed, succeed. Not the best frame of mind. Good luck to all who are trying. |
Anonymous
Baby Dance is a euphemism for sex? Good lord, remind me never to go to Babycenter. Like you said, thank god for DCUM! |
Anonymous
22:08 here...I've asked multiple times if he could just make the deposit in the softcup but he refuses each and every time. The last time I asked, he said "well, we'll just do it tomorrow then"...totally missing the point. 
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"22:08 here...I've asked multiple times if he could just make the deposit in the softcup but he refuses each and every time. The last time I asked, he said "well, we'll just do it tomorrow then"...totally missing the point. "
I'm sorry. This must be really frustrating. I think some DHs just really don't get how this works. When I think of how ignorant I was before reading TCOYF - and I have all the equipment! - the guys must be twice as ignorant. My DH thinks that temping is some new wave hippie dippy wives tale trick that I'm trying. No, it's science. Ugh. Went to dinner last night with 3 friends - it turned in to 2 pregnancy announcements. Hits like a punch in the gut. 
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