I've dated folks from a range of races, ethnicities, and creeds. I probably would end up mentioning it to someone because I would probably go into some detail in talking about the two folks in question before the set up. For example, "she is short, likes triathalons as well as the library, and locks her hair." Or "he is tall, hits the gym at least threes times per week, and has short blond hair." I would send a few signals through the description and give them the opportunity to drill down. Or not. |
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Nope, not interested. Caucasian woman here. Not enough in common with AA men and totally turned off by Asian men. |
I would and have, much to the chagrin of my parents. How boring to limit yourself to one race or ethnicity! |
I would and I have, though not very often. I went to a VERY white high school and a very white college, so it hasn't really been an issue. Typically white guys are the ones asking me out, so they're typically the guys I date. A couple years ago, a nice, cute, smart black guy asked me out. I went. Nice date, nice guy,but I wasn't bowled over enough to date him again - I wasn't feeling much chemistry. We're still friends, though.
I recently asked a new-ish friend about what she was looking for in a guy. One of the first questions I asked was, "do you care what race he is?" (she's black.) She said, "nope." I said, "that opens things up." I asked her more questions - religion, political views, etc. but did hope afterward that she didn't think I was a flaming racist for asking that as one of the first questions. I just figure that one question does narrow things down. OP- it's too bad your friends weren't more open to dating someone of a different race, but oh well. It could be racism, or it could be that some people are just attracted to a narrower range of people. His use of "offended" bugs me, though. |
I'm married to someone of a different race.
Race has never caused any issues for us. Problems have arisen over being from different cultures, though, but nothing too serious. If we were of different religions, I don't think I could handle it. |
I am caucasian, blonde and blue-eyed. My DH is too. However, while I thought he was cute when we first met, it was honestly his persoanlity that made me fall in love. Frankly, I find many AA men extremely good-looking and would have been open to marrying any man from any race, as long as I loved his persoanlity and character. I will admit, I would have a much harder time marrying someone who did not grow up with the same religious traditions that I did, solely because I want to have the same types of holidays and traditions with my children. I would find it difficult to marry someone who did not beleive the same things about God etc... because it is so twined in to how I view life. All that said, the oen thing I worried about in re dating an AA man was AA women who would be angered by it. I have always had AA women friends and they often express frustration with successful AA men who date and marry caucasian women and I have to admit, I get it. That would be the only deterent to me.
For a person to be "offended" that you would set him/her up with someone with a different skin color/tone, culture, religion, ethnicity, etc... in this day and age has a serious problem. That is just ridiculous. |
I don't think this is true any longer. It used to be very true around ten or fifteen years ago. Black newborn babies available for adoption are not difficult to place in a forever family. Older and disabled children are the hard to place children. Outside the Black community, Germans and Canadians are primarily adopting American Black children. Also, with the closures of many IA adoptions, White American women in Iowa and Wisconsin are waiting for extended months to adopt African children. Now that I have deviated from the original topic, I will go back on track. I have dated multiple times outside my race. No big deal. Funny thing, when I finally settled down to marry, many friends asked, what color (race) was my soon to be husband. I do remember going on an initial date with a very handsome white fellow once, but we did not click. As we talked, I thought he would be a perfect candidate for a particular girlfriend of mine. I arranged a date for the two to meet. The white guy was upset that I introduced him to a white woman. Go figure. I stay out of match making. |
If you want your DC to get into Beauvoir, YES! |
I am a White woman and at certain times in my life I would not have been open to dating someone of another race for various reasons.
I do think it was wrong that you did not tell your friends that the person was another race unless they at had outright said to you at some point they would date someone of another race. |
Strange blanket statement. You know you have nothing in common with black men based on what? You do realize that they aren't all the same, right? That Bill Cosby and LebronJames probably don't have much in common beyond race, any more than Larry theCable Guy and Tony Blair. |
To quote you: "Seriously???". Yeah, your Mom is racist. Does't mean she wasn't a great Mom, as most people are many things, and she is clearly this, among other attributes. |
are you one of those who ended up marrying a cousin? |
why should we assume people are not OK with diversity? |
If I'm Chinese and DH is from India, are we of a different race? |