Would you date someone of a different race?

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, not to hijack...but it is related. If you are someone who would NOT date outside of your race...would you care if your son/daughter/relative did?

The honest truth?

Yes, if it were an African-American. Call me what you want (I don't think I am). Flame away. But that's how I feel. Sorry.

I appreciate your candor and I am not flaming you. It makes me sad though. This is true of lots of people. Again, it saddens me.

I feel the same way. My parents thought like you did, until they met my husband. Now they could care less that he is African American. So maybe you will change your mind as well if your child happened to find his/her one true love with an African American.

saddens me too. I broke it off with an African American man in college because of parent's racist attitude. None of my friends cared. Nobody at work cared. Only my parents...and I resented them for a long time.

My in-laws did not care for me, for years, because I am white. I learned to cook Korean foods, and learned a little Korean, and over time, they have grown to accept me.

My own parents were very excited, I was in love, and they assumed my children would be as stunning (which they are).

I never ceased to be amazed how the Asian - Caucasian mix consistently turns out stunning children. I'm white. DH is Asian-American. No doubt stunning baby is due in December! Grandparents on both sides are about to explode with anticipation.

my children are half white half asian...one looks 100% white, the other 100% asian.

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My own parents were very excited, I was in love, and they assumed my children would be as stunning (which they are).

I never ceased to be amazed how the Asian - Caucasian mix consistently turns out stunning children. I'm white. DH is Asian-American. No doubt stunning baby is due in December! Grandparents on both sides are about to explode with anticipation.

my children are half white half asian...one looks 100% white, the other 100% asian.

I have to share this tidbit. My cousin is half white & half Asian. Her husband is half Mexican & half Asian. One of their kids has blonde hair and blue eyes. He looks Swedish!

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, not to hijack...but it is related. If you are someone who would NOT date outside of your race...would you care if your son/daughter/relative did?

The honest truth?

Yes, if it were an African-American. Call me what you want (I don't think I am). Flame away. But that's how I feel. Sorry.

I appreciate your candor and I am not flaming you. It makes me sad though. This is true of lots of people. Again, it saddens me.

I feel the same way. My parents thought like you did, until they met my husband. Now they could care less that he is African American. So maybe you will change your mind as well if your child happened to find his/her one true love with an African American.

saddens me too. I broke it off with an African American man in college because of parent's racist attitude. None of my friends cared. Nobody at work cared. Only my parents...and I resented them for a long time.

My in-laws did not care for me, for years, because I am white. I learned to cook Korean foods, and learned a little Korean, and over time, they have grown to accept me.

My own parents were very excited, I was in love, and they assumed my children would be as stunning (which they are).

I never ceased to be amazed how the Asian - Caucasian mix consistently turns out stunning children. I'm white. DH is Asian-American. No doubt stunning baby is due in December! Grandparents on both sides are about to explode with anticipation.

my children are half white half asian...one looks 100% white, the other 100% asian.

One of mine is more white looking, and the other is mostly Asian looking. They both have hazel eyes and brown hair, which I am sure will turn out darker.

My cousin has ten children who are half Asian half White, and each and everyone one of them is just beautiful. At our family reunions, many cousins think my children are hers, which I find to be a great compliment.

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All this talk about half-Asian children. My observation is that Asians are seemingly more and more involved in inter-racial relationships with whites. I find this odd because I think there is generally a strong prejudice held by the "old school" Asian parents against such unions, and the culture differences seem so pronounced, when compared to for example a white-black or white-Latino pairing, that you would think these relationships would simply not work. I just wish the open-ness displayed by both whites and Asians to each other would extend out to other races. I am neither, and have defintely experienced people from both races not want to date me simply on how I look.

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my DH had to really stand his ground to be accepted into my Asian family. Grandbabies changed everything.

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I never ceased to be amazed how the Asian - Caucasian mix consistently turns out stunning children. I'm white. DH is Asian-American. No doubt stunning baby is due in December! Grandparents on both sides are about to explode with anticipation.

My three half-white/half-Asian children are stunning (although I admit to a bit of bias!).

Anonymous wrote:All this talk about half-Asian children. My observation is that Asians are seemingly more and more involved in inter-racial relationships with whites. I find this odd because I think there is generally a strong prejudice held by the "old school" Asian parents against such unions, and the culture differences seem so pronounced, when compared to for example a white-black or white-Latino pairing, that you would think these relationships would simply not work. I just wish the open-ness displayed by both whites and Asians to each other would extend out to other races. I am neither, and have defintely experienced people from both races not want to date me simply on how I look.

There is indeed a strong prejudice held by Asian parents. They got over it, though, especially once grandchildren came along!

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Anonymous wrote:All this talk about half-Asian children. My observation is that Asians are seemingly more and more involved in inter-racial relationships with whites. I find this odd because I think there is generally a strong prejudice held by the "old school" Asian parents against such unions, and the culture differences seem so pronounced, when compared to for example a white-black or white-Latino pairing, that you would think these relationships would simply not work. I just wish the open-ness displayed by both whites and Asians to each other would extend out to other races. I am neither, and have defintely experienced people from both races not want to date me simply on how I look.

I think it goes both ways -- it seems a lot of African Americans are very disdainful of Blacks who date/marry whites.

[Anonymous]

my DH's boss is Indian, and his family won't accept his half Vietnamese/half white girlfriend. They want him to marry a girl from India, period. So what is DH to do...sacrifice the woman he loves for an Indian girl who he might not be "the one" in his heart?

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My three half-white/half-Asian children are stunning (although I admit to a bit of bias!).

My son is half caucasian, half Filipino. He's so adorable! I may be a bit biased too but he's a charmer.

[Anonymous]

sorry full of typos. I meant DH's boss, and d the Indian girl who might not be "the one" in his heart

[Anonymous]

i find all asian (east-asian to be exact)/white girls are just beautiful - like you can see a future model in them beautiful. but not so much of boys - they're different and cute but not 'good-looking' per se.

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Anonymous wrote:i find all asian (east-asian to be exact)/white girls are just beautiful - like you can see a future model in them beautiful. but not so much of boys - they're different and cute but not 'good-looking' per se.

You haven't seen my little charmer.

[Anonymous]

Or mine! His features a so adorable!

[Anonymous]

As a white American married to a Brazilian of European and African descent, I agree with PPs who have said not being attracted to someone of a different race does not necessarily equal racism. One of our best friends (Brazilian) is white and, although he has many black and brown friends, has never been attracted to darker women. He ended up marrying a Japanese woman and fighting for years to win her family's acceptance. Interestingly, my own parents, who were raised in very "white" communities and had not had a lot of exposure to minorities, have always been extremely accepting of my husband. I think on some level they are proud of themselves for accepting him. He certainly is a much kinder son-in-law and husband than my sisters' white husbands have been, and he is of the same religion as my family, so that definitely helped. To the OP: I probably would have mentioned race when you set your friends up--but I agree that it seems strange your friend would be "offended" by it. My husband and I were set up by a friend (blonde-haired, blue-eyed Brazilian) who did not mention race beforehand--but in our circle of friends there was a lot of interracial dating, and she knew that I had dated interracially before. I knew he was Brazilian but did not know his racial background. I was pleasantly surprised at how beautiful he was!

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Anonymous wrote:i find all asian (east-asian to be exact)/white girls are just beautiful - like you can see a future model in them beautiful. but not so much of boys - they're different and cute but not 'good-looking' per se.

You haven't seen my little charmer.

Or my two boys. They are truly gorgeous and have been approached by agents.