Her desk was at a terrible angle for video calls. (I agree he should have mentioned it before offering to move, but you asked for a justification). At this point, we're on page 7, and OP didn't return and she claims she is starting a new job this week (mid-week?). So I am guessing troll. |
He will never make a similar gesture like the note again is one possible outcome. The details of the stuff seem so trifling to change. OP were you working out of the house before this? Do you have misgivings about WAH? |
There is room for a dedicated space for both. Husband has claimed his office space because he already works from home and now OP needs hers for a new WFH job. No need for projection. |
That sounds like a positive outcome and you sound obtuse. |
Where did she say that? Now you're making things up. |
He did a lot more than that. Reread the OP. |
Who screws around with someone's office the day before they start a new job? |
You think the note was a bad thing? How so? |
I am making things up. The PP said she couldn't think of a justification, so I helped her see one. OP made everything up because this is a troll. |
He put a trash can and printer and hung some hooks on the wall. He also left what she acknowledges was a very sweet note. Re-orienting the desk and swapping out a trash can don't seem to warrant tears. People are caught on the room details and missing ALL of the emotional subtext of OP's post and also that it is a transition. She sounds like she is not in a good place emotionally, perhaps re: that and also re: her "space in the family." Many on here would be over the moon to get a note like that from a DH but it barely rated with OP. More is going on that re-orienting the desk. There is anxiety in the mix and maybe more. |
It's a way of shutting down her objections without addressing what he did. |
You don't think she knows how to orient the desk for video call? You are infantilizing her. |
She is crying over her office space. I do not think OP is a strong emotional space, no. |
You should divorce him. |
I guess I should have said I can’t think of a reasonable justification. To substitute his judgment for hers on the video background or the lighting or whatever seems pretty unreasonable. |