The only sensible person in the thread says....
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We're Jewish and it was VERY important to DH we do it to DS. I insisted it be done in the hospital before we were discharged, that he not be strapped down, that he be given topical anesthetic. I also decided to be present for it, so down the road when DS asked how I could do that to him, I could explain what I saw or something (not quite exactly sure what I was thinking, but felt it was important I be willing to be there).
I was so convinced he would scream and carry on for hours. It turned out that the mohel was well aware of my worries (Thanks, DH!) and he promised to go quickly, and suggested I nurse immediately afterwards. He made sure to get me a comfortable chair, and a blanket, etc. Once he started, he moved quickly. The truth is, DS cried for less than 30 seconds. Possibly less than 20, but I'll round up. |
If you are opposed and your husband insists, the only sensible compromise is to wait for your child to voice his preference when he is a teen.
That would be my compromise under those circumstances. |
Fascinating, considering that the vast majority of the US adult male population already IS circumcised, yet we have one of the highest rates of HIV and other STDs in the developed world. Where oh where has this supposed protective benefit of circumcision gotten us? Compared to Europe, which is mostly intact, and has much lower rates of STDs and HIV. These studies are extremely biased and used only to support the practice of more circumcision. |
"Chop off his penis" was hyperbole, you dolts, but "The penis is left intact" is another idiocy for http://www.circumstitions.com/Absurd.html The circumcised penis is missing its best part. |
A circumcision on any but the eighth day is not in accord with halacha. (An Israeli court would demand that it be done again, at least tokenisticaly.) Topical anaesthetic is not very effective, especially when they don't wait long enough for it to take effect. He stops crying so quickly because he goes into shock. (Nelson Mandela compared the sensation with molten lead in his veins.) |
.... a piece of skin that unfolds to 15 sq in from a man, containing arteries and veins, a thin layer of involuntary muscle, and tens of thousands of specialised nerves, like those of the fingertips and lips. Is there any argument that the lips add to the pleasures of kissing? |
I don't know why you would jump to the assumption we would allow them to cut before waiting for anesthetic to take effect. Also, it hurts adults much more than babies, so of course an adult would describe it as being very painful. But thanks for your attempt to contribute. |
Um, anyone who thinks that a procedure requiring general anesthesia is "medically" easier than one that doesn't is not sensible. They're dangerously uninformed. There are plenty of arguments against circumcision, sure, but that's not one of them. |
+1. Looks like circumcision somehow also cuts the part of the brain involved in critical thinking. |
It's amazing how otherwise intelligent people can so easily accept that a surgery which requires general anesthesia for an adult, magically "doesn't hurt that much" for a baby. Since, as you correctly point out, general anesthesia brings certain (albeit quite rare) medical risks, wouldn't the safest thing by far be to just give an adult the same simple numbing cream we give babies? If it works for the pain, it works for the pain! (yes, I'm being sarcastic here.) At any rate, aside from the potential risk of the anesthesia, the surgery itself is easier in an adult for the reasons I stated. There is far less of a chance of an accident of the glans, far less of a chance of taking off too much or too little of the skin, and no damage due to the forced separation of foreskin (as an adult it is already retractable). Additionally, an adult can properly medicate afterwards as well as provide feedback regarding any developing infection. Last but not least, an adult would already know if they have a blood clotting disorder. Unfortunately for some babies, their circumcision is the first time they've been cut, and at one or two days old, even loosing an ounce of blood equals a life-threatening hemorrhage. Babies can and do die every year in our country as a result of their non-medically indicated circumcision. But hey, what's a little death-risk in order to make sure his penis looks pretty?! |
I circ'd my first son and decided not to do my 2nd, but I got a lot of pressure from my OB to do it. He said I would regret it and that most boys were circumcised. I felt very unsure but agreed to it. FWIW, I felt bad at the time, but I am glad we did it. We live in a Jewish area and nearly all boys are circ'd, and for my sons as teens and young adults, I think they will be glad. (They are in elem now). I have a friend with uncirc'd boys and she brings it up pretty often - I think she does feel some uneasiness about the decision.
If you are absolutely opposed, I would not go against your gut, but in my case with milder objections, I feel ok about it. |
I work in adult urology. 90% of my day is spent diagnosing, treating, and instrumenting penises.
I only have daughters, but if I had a son, he'd be circumcised, no hesitation. |
I never said it "doesn't hurt that much" for a baby. When our son was circumcised, it was under local anesthesia, and we gave him Tylenol afterwards. Pain-free, no. But did we manage his pain? Yes, we did. The risks of complications from circumcision are incredibly rare. And death? I looked up the stats: it's something like 100 babies die each year from related complications, out of one *million* who have the procedure annually in the US. So I'd say that speaks to the overwhelming safety of the procedure, especially when done by an experienced pediatric surgeon, as we did. You don't want to circumcise your son? Then don't. No one's forcing you to. The amount of energy you're expending over other people's legitimate choices is mind-boggling. |