For the poster who said to wait and let the son decide, I brought that up and DH was not for it, saying it would cause more pain when DS is older. We haven't come to a solution as we both feel strongly. Whatever decision we make, I hope we do so respectfully and neither one feels resentful.
For those mentioning STD, infection and other health rates in other countries compared to the U.S., can you post links to support these claims? |
I'm the pp you quoted. What a calm and rational response, thanks -- makes sense to me. It is certainly possible to find practitioners who don't leap to circumcision, however, its somewhat ridiculous that there are many pediatricians who do still retract uncirced boys, or advise retraction and cleaning, etc. Its unfortunate that its something one has to accept as a possibility should they make that choice. |
ALL HAIL GREAT FORESKIN. I value you! WTF please... |
And yet your sarcastic comment implies that you yourself have no understanding of the physiological purpose and function of the foreskin.
It dramatically affects both the physiology of intercourse and of masturbation. Significant sensitivity is also lost: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17378847 (you can read the full study if you google the title) |
Typical case of American ignorant arrogance. |
For all those touting the alleged health benefits, read this:
http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2013/03/12/peds.2012-2896.full.pdf+html Should be required reading for anyone considering circumcising their newborn. |
Although I think there are (sometimes) notable differences between female and male circumcision, the cultural and psychological forces can be quite similar. Men instantly feel as if something is wrong with their own body if they do not carry this tradition on with their son. However, from my experience with new families, quite often if the mother refuses and the son is left whole, the father very quickly gets past his ego-issues, and comes to recognize that his son is perfectly fine being left intact. To you mothers, you are your sons protectors. You have the power to ensure that your son stays whole, regardless of how angry your DH seems to be in the moment. It is very simple - don't sign the consent form. After wards, make a mental note, and if at one year your DH is still upset about it and/or can make some clear rational arguments about why it is still necessary, than you could revisit the possibility. My guess though is that by one year your DH would be horrified (as you will be) at the thought of changing your son's penis for "cultural" reasons. In fact, I have never met a family where the father remained resentful that his son was intact; while I have met several mothers who deeply regret being "bullied" into having their sons circumcised. Remember, if you leave your son intact then he can always be cut. If you cut him at birth, there is never any other option. If DH is worried that the son would not want it done later in life, then perhaps that is an excellent reason to leave the child intact for now. The boy himself can decide later in life if the reasons become compelling enough to him. |
Thanks for posting this, I agree it should be required reading. People like to hide behind "health issues" as a reason they are choosing to cut; yet if you were to ask them if they would still have their son cut even if no other boy in the country was cut, they would not want it done. Really, behind any alleged health issue is a deep desire to "fit in" from a cultural standpoint. The more boys left intact, the more it will shift this cultural norm and we will see in future generations the end of routine genital mutilation of our boys. Also, it is always interesting to me that the people who tout the health issues, never are able to articulate the benefits and functions of the foreskin. In the case of medical professionals, they have never been taught that there is any benefit at all of having a foreskin, so they only see it as an unnecessary and potentially harmful body part. Why not get rid of it? I believe that any conversation about circumcision must always include the purpose, benefits and anatomy of the foreskin as well as a deeper understanding of the risks of circumcision and how to properly care for the foreskin so the man doesn't wind up with an unnecessary circumcision later in life. |
+1000. this post should be compulsory reading for anyone considering circumcision. |
There are pros and cons to it but ultimately its your and your husbands decision. If you choose not to get your son circumcised, please be sure to have a good cleaning routine. If it is not cleaned properly, it can cause infection/ fusion of foreskin which happened to our nephew and he had to be circumcised at 10 years old. |
Most likely your nephews circumcision was unnecessary. Over cleaning and forced retraction actually cause a lot of problems in young boys, and leads to the very conditions which later require surgery to fix. The penis in its natural state is very similar to the vagina in its natural state; ie it is "self cleaning." No need for manipulation, heavy scrubbing or strong soaps. Gentle rinsing in the bathtub suffices. Yes, you are correct that proper cleaning results in a healthy body. In this case, proper cleaning means "leave it alone and wipe the outside like you would a finger." Remember that men all throughout the world, including places who wash far less than Americans do, have healthy penises. American doctors also tend to be woefully misinformed about a natural penis. They think that things like smegma, ballooning, or adhesions indicate a problem (they don't). They don't seem to recognize that some boys won't be fully retractable until their mid-teens. Even then, if there is a true problem, it can often be treated without amputation. In countries where circumcision is not standard, full amputation is almost never necessary. |
There are PLENTY of Jewish communities that will accept him, especially reform synagogues. Check with the rabbis at Temple Micah in DC. |
This is true. He may run into problems outside of reform Judiasm though. But if your family is reform and you are comfortable with your decision then it's made. |
I had a friend who wasn't circumcised as a baby and wanted to get circumcised at 20; I don't think he enjoyed it (and I'm sure neither do babies) but it was his choice to do and it is done if your son chooses at a later point to do, he can do. Sharing this anecdote in case it provides more support for the letting him chooser argument. |
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