Vent from a very pregnant lady on the Metro

[Anonymous]

Good lesson. As a mom you have to speak up for yourself. Might as well start now.

[Anonymous]

Why would you the metro while pregnant? Call an Uber.

[Anonymous]

OP here - and as I mentioned earlier, lesson learned, will speak up next time or just avoid metro for the next couple of months.

Also - just noting that there's a broader conversation about whether people should or shouldn't give up their seats for certain sets of people whether pregnant, disabled, elderly etc. but that's above and beyond the issue at hand.

Not asking anyone to get up. My bone to pick was with people who leave their stuff (or legs) on seats in a crowded car and fail to make room for others (which I think is rude in general, not just towards a pregnant woman). And thought making all seats available was common practice?

[Anonymous]

The hard truth is you’re not entitled to a seat just because you’re pregnant. Those passengers pay the same fare as you do, and have the right to refuse to move or offer you a seat. While I think it’s considerate to offer my seat, many don’t care. I think most don’t like the entitlement factor that you’re owed a seat because you’re pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FFS: ask them to move. I kicked out an anti abortion kid who wouldn't give a seat to me when I was 9mo. along. I looked her in the eye and said, get out. She did. I also asked various metro riders too but was nice to them. Nobody objected ever.

I love this. Well done!

This is so incredibly rude. You’re not entitled to a seat. That girl paid the same fare as you did. You sound like a bully.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think everyone is tuned into pregnant women and how uncomfortable it can be. So, while of course it was rude to not open up seats used for legs or bags, they may not have registered you were pregnant or even if they did, not thought that meant you might need a seat. I just think all people aren’t tuned into the challenges pregnancy brings. I found my three pregnancies to be so incredibly uncomfortable and tiring but know I looked liked a youngish, healthy and fit person with a relatively small belly. People just tend to mind their own business (and have their faces in their phones).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The hard truth is you’re not entitled to a seat just because you’re pregnant. Those passengers pay the same fare as you do, and have the right to refuse to move or offer you a seat. While I think it’s considerate to offer my seat, many don’t care. I think most don’t like the entitlement factor that you’re owed a seat because you’re pregnant.

Right, but they’re also not entitled for two seats with one train fare — which is what people are doing when they use an empty seat next to them for their crap. This isn’t about people giving up their own seats, it’s about them taking up empty seats with things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think everyone is tuned into pregnant women and how uncomfortable it can be. So, while of course it was rude to not open up seats used for legs or bags, they may not have registered you were pregnant or even if they did, not thought that meant you might need a seat. I just think all people aren’t tuned into the challenges pregnancy brings. I found my three pregnancies to be so incredibly uncomfortable and tiring but know I looked liked a youngish, healthy and fit person with a relatively small belly. People just tend to mind their own business (and have their faces in their phones).

OP again, very similar situation and yeah I think at the end of the day this is what’s going on. Wish people were more aware and polite but oh well

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The hard truth is you’re not entitled to a seat just because you’re pregnant. Those passengers pay the same fare as you do, and have the right to refuse to move or offer you a seat. While I think it’s considerate to offer my seat, many don’t care. I think most don’t like the entitlement factor that you’re owed a seat because you’re pregnant.

Reading comprehension isn’t your strong suit, is it? Or do you just have a thing about pregnant women? OP just wanted people to move their crap of the seats.

[Anonymous]

Yes, chivalry is dead. I had a 60ish year old man literally not hold a a door for me the other day. Not step as hide and hold it, but didn’t even keep his hand on it as I approached two steps behind him so it almost slammed in my face.
Next time, op, ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, think of it this way: how many months in your life you are going to be 7 months pregnant? Not many at all. So maybe instead of taking a crowded metro you can take an Uber for now. Think of it as on investment in your and your baby’s wellbeing.

What? Taking metro is not bad for your health. It’s good for the planet and therefore everyone’s health.

[Anonymous]

I’m not pregnant but I’ve had a similar experience lately, more and more people take up a second seat for a bag these days. I gave someone the stink eye yesterday and they didn’t do anything. Maybe l will start using my words…it’s just disappointing that people are so inconsiderate.

[Anonymous]

STFU your mouth is not broken. “Would you be so kind as to move your bag so I could sit down?” Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Why are people being so rude to OP? She is more entitled to a seat than someone’s legs or bag. And there’s a section of the train by the doors with signs stating it’s for handicapped people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very similar experience when I was hugely pregnant with twins in 2008. The only people ever to offer seats were Black and Latino men and Black women. White men were the absolute worst and actually refused at times to give up their seats when I asked (I’m also white so it was assh0lery not racism).

PP with the physical disability and I have to second this - if anyone gets up for me it's usually a person of color, no joke.

+1 same experience. Women regardless of race offered me their seat most often, followed by Black and Latino men. Next came working class white men (like construction workers). One a young guy carrying a skateboard. Almost never by white professional men in suits and Asian men (I say this as an Asian-American).