There are some homeless people that were raised with manners. |
It’s because everyone is looking down at their phones. They don’t notice you. |
only one quibble! my children had to give up their seats for the elderly, the pregnant, disabled. |
Fair enough! I was picturing a younger kid who is too big for a parent to hold easily but not big enough to be smart about holding on. Bigger kids or teens? I would also encourage mine to give up their seats to others. |
It is not hard to just get up and move to another spot. I actually have a freaking disability myself that results in horrible balance, but would always move if I saw someone elderly/with small kids/a cane, whatever. It's not hard. |
OP here. Yeah, next time I'll suck it up and ask someone to move their bags. I just thought that was standard practice to do so without someone have to go out of their way to ask - I know I do once trains get crowded and I'll try to avoid taking the metro the rest of the pregnancy - not worth the stress and crowds.
Also, I'm a small person everywhere else apart from what I think is a giant belly but in the age of smart phone attachment realize some people could have not noticed, but I doubt that's true of the people close to me. |
OP, I took Metro a good bit when pregnant. By far the first people to jump up and offer me a seat were young African American teens. (I am not AA). They wouldn't ask, they would just very politely hop up and usher me right into their seats. I loved each and every one of them and blessed the parents and grandparents who taught them beautiful manners.
One time a lady almost pushed her husband out of his seat so I could sit. But if it wasn't school dismissal time or tourist season with a lot of southerners, then I either stood or had to ask. |
Just say “excuse me, could I sit there?”
I don’t get the problem |
I would never put my bag on a seat during rush hour, but you stewing over this when you could have just asked is really silly.
Use your words! |
No bags on seats if there are people standing. That's just clueless.
The kid who has slouched over the seats and has feet up, I might not want to tangle with because that clearly is being aggressive, almost hoping someone will say something. And I often ask people if I can sit down if there is a smidge of room. |
I think tourists are nervous and don't really know the rules, and frequently subways (I'm in NYC) are intimidating. I've only ridden the Metro once, while I ride the subway all the time, all over, I found myself a little intimidated on the DMV Metro because I really didn't have a good idea of where I was. Same in Paris on the Metro. |
+1 my friend broke his leg when he was in his 20s. White guy, otherwise healthy looking, but was on crutches with a broken leg. He took the subway (nyc) to work and no one ever offered him a seat. Not once. People are the worst |
It’s always been this way. At some point an older woman usually offers. It’s rarely the men who literally don’t see you (or anyone).
Welcome to noticing what it’s like to be in need on public transportation. |
They just thought you were fat and didn't want to offend you. |
Oh I forgot to add. Ask someone. It’s one of the rare times you can really gain some leverage with the spreaders. Always use your voice instead of waiting for someone else to notice. |