DH wants me to cheat
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Anonymous
| I wish mine would ask me to do this. Our sex life is so stale and would be nice not to have to sneak around and cheat. |
Anonymous
| OP here. Will give the role play ideas a try cause there's no way I'm having him watch me with another man. I don't think he's looking for an excuse to leave or cheat because he got excited just suggesting I sleep with someone else. I was majorly turned off but didn't want to make him feel judged or not want to share in the future. |
Anonymous
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Whole categories on porn sites with willing c*cks, "breeding" "BBC."
All involving husband watching their wives |
Anonymous
| Op again. Searched "hotwife" as suggested and y'all weren't kidding about this common fetish! Thanks for educating me. |
Anonymous
| Your husband is gay. He is using you as a beard. He wants to have other men inside you as an excuse for him to do the same. |
Anonymous
Really dumb take. |
Anonymous
Start with calling him by a random name. Stay in character throughout the act. Then call him by the name of an acquaintance the next time. All will be good. None of this translates to real life unless you want to enter the deviant category. Role play is very much in the realm of healthy monogamy. Enjoy |
Anonymous
If you have no idea what you are talking about, you shouldn’t say anything at all. |
Anonymous
DH here: fwiw, highly likely your DH likes the fantasy but has no interest in actually acting on it. So don’t get too concerned (or your hopes up too much, as appropriate). |
Anonymous
Too much p^rn &/or time on Fe&life> ever expanding categories of fetishes. OP, I am sorry you are feeling coerced about this. Your DH needs to dial down the p*rn use and focus on his marriage and family. Maybe some hobbies. To get the same thrill the need becomes more and more extreme. He may have an addiction to p&rn. |
Anonymous
Could be possible, we don't know the DH. I have 2 acquaintances who married, had kids, then DH came out. Happens. OP, your DH is off in some way. Only you can decide if you are up for monogamous role play or if that may in fact lead to more deviant demands. |
Anonymous
I'm so sorry, OP. This is so gross and unfair to you. How long until your kids launch? |
Anonymous
I like your willingness to at least consider some options short of actually doing what you'd be very uncomfortable doing. The ability to be GGG(look it up) with your partner is so key to a good relationship. |
Anonymous
Not sure it's all that "common" OP. Maybe plan some date nights, some with other couples and encourage DH to dial back the p*rn usage. It often keeps getting more and more extreme until sometimes they can't get it up for a real, not fantasy woman. That he is noticeably more "excited" in his fantasy and not noticing how uncomfortable YOU were is a real red flag. I'm so sorry. Do you work? Are your kids close to launching? Once men go down this rabbit hole sometimes life goes sideways. |
Anonymous
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DH abstaining from watching the p*rn that is driving his fetish is more healthy and likely to preserve your marriage than indulging it, OP, especially as it makes you uncomfortable. I'd find such a fetish and his "visible excitement" even talking about it dehumanizing, you are not alone.
Therapy to build a real life connection and deal with any past trauma he may have could also be beneficial. https://www.centerforintegrativechange.com/blog/how-porn-induces-sexual-fetishes-and-what-you-can-do-about-your-fetish |