DH wants me to cheat
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Anonymous
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You don't have to participate in his fetish, OP. I wouldn't.
Does he want to watch? How long have you been married? If this is new and sudden I'd wonder if a) he's cheating and/or b) the amount of porn he's consuming. Is he on f&tlife a lot? |
Anonymous
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This is one of the most common sexual fantasies out there. Some men just like the fantasy/role play; a much smaller percentage actually want to do it.
As others have said, you shouldn’t feel obligated to do anything you don’t feel comfortable with sexually. But if your concern isn’t whether DH’s kink is somehow outside the bounds of normalcy, definitely not. It’s pretty vanilla honestly. |
Anonymous
| He’s been watching too much porn and he’s either teasing you or testing you. I’m not sure what I’d do if my husband really wanted me to do this as the idea of having sex with some random guy is not very appealing. Maybe let him watch you with a new toy as an option. |
Anonymous
Most men do not have c&ck fetishes, come on! |
Anonymous
| An idea can be all fun and games until it becomes a reality. Don't do it, something else is going on with him. |
Anonymous
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Sometimes doing something your husband is into gets you some more buy-in from him on working on other parts of the marriage.
My husband has this same fantasy. We hired someone to fulfill this role who has a lot of experience with couples. We only do it once every year or two. I have always found it a fun and joyful experience. You will be filled with so much joy, like twice as much as you usually are 
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Anonymous
Sounds like a trap and a trick. To get you or to get you to allow him the same. |
Anonymous
Are you nuts? Maybe she doesn't want to F*ck another dude. Men, I swear. |
Anonymous
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Come up with a fantasy of meeting a handsome stranger somewhere, start from the first meeting all the way through to finally having sex with this person, flesh out every detail and once you’ve got it together tell your husband about your day once you are both in bed about to go to sleep.
He will interrupt you but tell him he has to hold his questions until the end. Once you’ve got the story out he will either have an iron rod or his face will be white as a ghost; if it’s the latter well then you know this really isn’t for him, if it’s the former you could have so much fun telling him these tales without risking your relationship, safety or health. He will ask over and over if this is real, be coy and it may drive him insane with desire. There’s a whole lot you can do with this and it can be incredibly fun. |
Anonymous
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It’s a kink for some. I also understand why it would be hurtful to hear and it is very possible that it’s something that he is into sexually but doesn’t actually want want irl.
If you are open to role playing or bringing this into the bedroom with dirty talk maybe explore this. But also have a heart to heart with him and let him know you can explore this fantasy in these ways (if your comfortable) but that you are not open to actually cheating and that pushing this in any way is hurtful |
Anonymous
| I’d never do this but role playing can be fun. A few times we’ve stay at a very nice hotel and my husband would head to the bar and then I’d show up pretty glammed up and pretend I’d hit on him. I barely drink but I’d have two and start rubbing his leg and we’d soon head to the elevator and up to our room where the sex would be fantastic. I guess it was our way of having a ONS while remaining monogamous. We’re too old now to pull that off but it was fun pretending to be someone we’re not. |
Anonymous
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Why when anyone mentions anything different do people jump to “…too much porn.”
My DH rarely if ever watches porn and is very kinky. Friends would be shocked. This isn’t a kink of ours as our agreement is we don’t involve others in any form of intimacy or our marriage. But there are plenty of people into this. Some people are just adults and discuss their needs and desires openly. They establish rules, boundaries and comfort levels. All of this can be done outside of the influence of porn. |
Anonymous
A can of RediWhip can definitely liven things up. I’m not sure if that is kinky but it’s fun. |
Anonymous
Depends on the expected result or how much that places into the end result. Small things can be big kink. Kink is more of mental even thought the reaction is physical. I have certain kinks with my wife that wouldn’t have been anything/work with other partners and vice versa. |
Anonymous
How do you know that was the DH posting? I think that is DW |