DH wants me to cheat
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Anonymous
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DH gets turned on by the idea of me sleeping with other men. I've never cheated and not planning to but DH has hinted at it recently and then gets turned on instead of getting mad/upset.
Makes me uncomfortable but is this normal? Do some spouses enjoy watching or thinking of their SO with someone else? |
Anonymous
| Yes, some men are turned on by this. My husband is one of them. I do not plan on sleeping with anyone other than my husband. I guess if he wants you to do it, it’s not exactly cheating? But don’t do anything you are uncomfortable with. He’ll live. |
Anonymous
| He either watches too much porn or he's looking for a way to divorce you. |
Anonymous
| Not everyone likes this but there are definitely people who find the idea if they’re partner with someone else hot. Instead of going that direction (clearly not something you’re into!) can you talk to him about roleplay? Like him pretending to be someone else he can later be jealous of or you getting yourself off with toys so he can watch/pretend to himself there’s another guy there? |
Anonymous
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Is he very liberal and adventurous sexually
A friend of mine is into this and he just loves sex and typically has a lover. He also wants his wife to have an AP and have some fun. |
Anonymous
| Gross. |
Anonymous
| It’s a thing. Your husband wants you to be a hotwife. Google it if you don’t know the term (but not at work!). |
Anonymous
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Issues
Ff 10 years “I swear there were no red flags” |
Anonymous
| It’s a thing. But you don’t have to do anything you’re uncomfortable with. Look for other ways to spice up your sex life. |
Anonymous
| Sometimes it is a cue for role play. Very healthy for monogamous couples. |
Anonymous
| It revitalized our romance if he is serious whats not to like? We have never been closer Just be discreet it feels like we have started a whole new chapter and it is wonderful. Be sure to make sure he is serious and not looking to divorce as a pp said. |
Anonymous
Thanks, DH. |
Anonymous
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If the duration of your relationship has been monogamous up until now and not involved sex play with others, I would take it as a red flag.
If you 2 have always been swingers, then that is different. |
Anonymous
| Doesn't seem normal to me. I would never want my wife to do that. |
Anonymous
| Does he want to be there to watch? If not, when you are being intimate with him, you could just tell him stories to turn him on. |