Wife's bad breath, doesn't shower enough

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How often DOES she shower? It's very rare for non-depressed professional women to not shower daily.

OP here. She probably showers first thing in the morning MOST days. Thing is, she never makes any effort to clean up before potential relations occur. The other day we went to bed early, which usually portends intimacy. When I get close she forewarns against anything getting to intense, as she hasn't showered that day. If this were only occasionally, it wouldn't be a big deal, but is it too much to rinse off in the shower before heading to bed every now and then. I certainly do...

First the problem was she showers every other day, and now it's that she doesn't shower twice a day? It sounds like you have some squeamishness around natural body odors if she showered in the morning but you'd like her to "freshen up" again before sex, and you do the same. That's overkill.

It’s absolutley not overkill to freshen up before expecting your partner to “go downstairs” on you, especially if it’s been 12+ hours since you’ve showered and you’ve gone #1 and #2 that day.

Its courtesy. I would never expect or ask my husband to go downstairs if I wasn’t clean. I am shocked if other people don’t take care of their basic hygiene before receiving.

[Anonymous]

Is she a bigger gal, OP?

I've been with some bigger women who definitely aren't as fresh down there at the end of the day even though they showered that morning. Especially if there's any kind of 'rolls' or 'folds' going on in the area. Sweat accumulates. It then stinks. Just a fact of nature.

I like PP suggestion of a shower together to get things started.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do I broach the subject of my wife's frequently bad breath and every-other-day shower habits affecting our intimacy? Honestly, sometimes I simply have to turn my head lying in bed. Also, keeping it clean and trim downstairs would be nice for other activities...

Bad breath: does she have periodontal disease? Does she visit the dentist for regular cleanings? She needs to care about her teeth and breath, for starters.

Shower: you said she showers in the AM most days. Then you say ever-other-day showers. Even with every-other-day, you still need to turn away from her because she stinks? Either one of three things are going on here: 1. She stinks and needs to address why she stinks so much, or 2. You're crazy. 3. You're not into her pheromones anymore.

Clean and trim downstairs: Tell her you prefer a Brazilian wax and schedule it together. Or whatever kind of designer muff she wants. Ask her if she prefers you manscaping or hairy? Ask if she likes any particular cologne or just plain shower fresh clean. Shop with her for bathing products. Take a bath together.

Are you attracted to her, it's just her pheromones are off-putting? Or does she truly smell so bad you have to turn away?

[Anonymous]

I am not American and do no shower everyday unless I sweat. I do wash my private parts, armpits and neck at least twice a day. I also wax every 3-4 weeks. My DH and I both wash down there before being intimate.

[Anonymous]

I don't like it too fresh... it's like licking a glade plug in. It should taste/smell like what you are eating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Halitosis is a treatable disorder. Showering every other day is better for your skin in the winter. The answer to your question is: with empathy and an open mind.

WTF...please don't excuse this woman's poor hygiene.

It is not poor hygiene to shower every other day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't like it too fresh... it's like licking a glade plug in. It should taste/smell like what you are eating.

You like the smell of pee?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Halitosis is a treatable disorder. Showering every other day is better for your skin in the winter. The answer to your question is: with empathy and an open mind.

WTF...please don't excuse this woman's poor hygiene.

It is not poor hygiene to shower every other day.

It may be, depending on someone’s body chemistry. Like someone else said, it’s unfair to expect someone to go down on you if it’s been 12+ hours since you showered! Regular sex, probably fine unless you went to the gym and didn’t shower or something. At a minimum, mouthwash and brush teeth. I don’t think OP is unreasonable. Sure, it’s embarassing to accept the truth when you’re the stinky one, but you just have to accept it and make adjustments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Halitosis is a treatable disorder. Showering every other day is better for your skin in the winter. The answer to your question is: with empathy and an open mind.

WTF...please don't excuse this woman's poor hygiene.

It is not poor hygiene to shower every other day.

It may be, depending on someone’s body chemistry. Like someone else said, it’s unfair to expect someone to go down on you if it’s been 12+ hours since you showered! Regular sex, probably fine unless you went to the gym and didn’t shower or something. At a minimum, mouthwash and brush teeth. I don’t think OP is unreasonable. Sure, it’s embarassing to accept the truth when you’re the stinky one, but you just have to accept it and make adjustments. [/quote

DP. But does OP's spouse even want that? I don't see anything in their post to indicate she's demanding or expecting OP to go down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't like it too fresh... it's like licking a glade plug in. It should taste/smell like what you are eating.

I never use soaps / scented products. Water works to clean and is scent free!

Fresh and clean is good for most people. Sweaty and musty and unfresh isn't most people's preference.

[Anonymous]

Take a shower with her. How do you not know how to approach your own wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not American and do no shower everyday unless I sweat. I do wash my private parts, armpits and neck at least twice a day. I also wax every 3-4 weeks. My DH and I both wash down there before being intimate.

Now this is the voice of reason regarding washing, though the waxing is optional. Some people have keen senses of smell and taste, while others have less. And some people are stronger smelling than others.

Hygiene 101: Even if you don't take a shower, you need to rinse off your genitals, butt, neck, and often armpits. You can also stand to wash around your mouth/nose, (and facial hair, if you have it), because of the old food smells and grease. It's common courtesy to rinse off your sexy bits if you're going to have sex, unless you're having a minimal-contact quickie or you're married to a Napoleon type.

If OP is not a troll, when your wife gets in bed and warns you off because she hasn't showered, smile and say, "I really want you, so please hurry and rinse off and get back here!" My husband and I do that all the time. He doesn't seem to care so much, but I have a nose like a bloodhound, and like the smell of plain skin, clean--his AND mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous[b wrote:]I am not American and do no shower everyday unless I sweat.[/b] I do wash my private parts, armpits and neck at least twice a day. I also wax every 3-4 weeks. My DH and I both wash down there before being intimate.

This is disgusting and bird baths are gross. You need to soak. OP, does your wide have this outlook? Is she foreign and has not adopted American customs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How often DOES she shower? It's very rare for non-depressed professional women to not shower daily.

OP here. She probably showers first thing in the morning MOST days. Thing is, she never makes any effort to clean up before potential relations occur. The other day we went to bed early, which usually portends intimacy. When I get close she forewarns against anything getting to intense, as she hasn't showered that day. If this were only occasionally, it wouldn't be a big deal, but is it too much to rinse off in the shower before heading to bed every now and then. I certainly do...

First the problem was she showers every other day, and now it's that she doesn't shower twice a day? It sounds like you have some squeamishness around natural body odors if she showered in the morning but you'd like her to "freshen up" again before sex, and you do the same. That's overkill.

It’s absolutley not overkill to freshen up before expecting your partner to “go downstairs” on you, especially if it’s been 12+ hours since you’ve showered and you’ve gone #1 and #2 that day.

Its courtesy. I would never expect or ask my husband to go downstairs if I wasn’t clean. I am shocked if other people don’t take care of their basic hygiene before receiving.

+THIS +100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like it too fresh... it's like licking a glade plug in. It should taste/smell like what you are eating.

I never use soaps / scented products. Water works to clean and is scent free!

Fresh and clean is good for most people. Sweaty and musty and unfresh isn't most people's preference.

I am appalled at posters such as yourself.
Like what kind of habits did your parents raise you with? Nevermind what your parents taught you, you are an adult. How disgusting is this? You should be showering/bathing EVERY.SINGLE.DAMN>DAY, irrespective of whether you broke out into a sweat. You pee and poop everyday multiple times a day, so why would you not wash your ass everyday?