Yowza! You have a strong stomach! |
This is how most men are that I've dated. I prefer to shower daily but if I ever miss a day that's usually when my boyfriends have been all over me |
The thing that irritates me most about this post is the entitlement and unspoken expectation that OP's spouse be constantly fsckable without any sort of conversation at all from OP, who isn't strong enough in their own opinions/preferences to ask for what they want.
That alone makes you pretty unfsckable, OP. If you can't have a conversation w/ your so-called partner about what you like and don't, you're probably a terrible lay. Beyond that, listen: bodies are kinda gross, regardless of configuration. There are gonna be times when you both have unpleasant smells, sounds, etc. I agree with the PPs who suggested your standards might be somewhat ridiculous (perhaps a latex friend would be a better bet?). But, really, it's the lack of ability to figure this one out for yourself. If you need to crowdsource "how do I say I don't like things", your relationship has bigger troubles. And yeah, maybe your spouse is willfully engaging in some anti-fsck behaviors to passive-aggressively thwart and reject you, knowing you can't/won't communicate your request(s) directly. |
bravo for getting that off your chest....6 years after the OP started the thread |
The last comment was yesterday, but go off. |
If you shower at 8am on Tuesday morning, have a bowel movement that afternoon, and then your partner wants to perform oral that evening or the following morning, you don't need to wash off the residue from the BM with soap and water first? Can't you get sick from ingesting trace amounts of the E Coli? Even if the partner isn't performing oral, won't they smell that BM residue as well as the mustiness of your private zone having been wrapped in clothing all day and sweating? I recently saw an add for a deodorant to use for under boob and private zones. Are you saying that's a useless and unnecessary product for people who want to avoid showering before intimacy? There is more going on down there that creates an odor besides the V itself.
I'm also wonder whether OP's wife always this casual about hygiene or is this something that changed over the years? The best thing I ever did was get a bidet to replace our regular toilet seat. It has warm water and even a drying function. You can clean thoroughly after a BM with it, so no second shower that day is needed before intimacy. |
My man! |
Women have to be careful with bidets. They can flow excrement to the labia and into the vaginal opening area. |
Why did you revive a 6 year old thread? |
My bidet has two options, one for flow to the front and one for the back.
"Women have to be careful with bidets. They can flow excrement to the labia and into the vaginal opening area." Has anyone ever heard of an excess of infections among women in Japan or other countries where bidets are very popular? I have not. |
mm if there's one thing the screams "gay" it's not a wanting sex. |
Not for me. I’m a woman and I usually shower twice a day. I do workout in during the day, so I guess that makes sense. Waxing is also a must. I got a wax 6 weeks postpartum after each of my three kids. And I work full time. I’m not a SAHM. Your wife may be depressed or she may not be that into you right now or she may have serviceable but not great hygiene. Broach this gently with her but broach it. |
https://www.healthline.com/health/are-bidets-sanitary#research-findings
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Eating @ss and then moving to other parts can give her a UTI whibk |
Bad breathe and not showering every day are legitimate complaints.
Keeping things trim and clean? Gross. Don't police her pubic hair. It exists in its natural state for a reason. it helps trap bacteria dn other things before they get to the vagina. |