New York Mag saying young women should marry older men

[Anonymous]

This city is full of women in their 20s (with new ones arriving every year) who don’t want to marry older men, but will happily date and sleep with them for a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it. The advantage of marrying this particular guy comes down to money, not his age. She went to Harvard - she could've easily become financially independent. Now she's dependent on maintaining his attention, for what?

This stood out to me too. I wonder what he does? He was in school when she met him and apparently they have few responsibilities, it's giving me trust fund vibes more than 10 years older being the sole factor. I say that as someone married to a husband 10 years older. We also have a partnership and not a "mentor/dependent" relationship like she describes. The whole article is pretty smug but also reads like a cope to intellectualize her decision to be a gold digger who I guess was happy to marry and not have a career? The part about only being able to get so angry or have so many needs because he pays all the bills seemed pretty toxic. Same with him providing the life roadmap she needs to get onboard with. IDK, I met my husband older (28/38) and had a decently established career myself and the age difference didn't seem like a huge deal at that point. Through the years, we have successfully switched back and forth on who has been the higher earner, so it's not a money thing for us. Their dynamic makes me cringe slightly, but if she's happy, ok? But the big thing was the money and she may have had that same dynamic with a similarly aged partner from a different social class. Curious about her background.

I googled her and she wrote some other yuck article about being not cute and basically making it a goal to be hot and catch a man. Our age gaps may be similar but I didn't relate to this at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a woman is ready to get married in her early 20s, then older men is where she’d need to look as that’s the pool where she will find more men who are ready for marriage and children rather than men her age. So, in a way, she’s right, IF that’s what she wants.

This changes as a woman gets older. Also, many women, do not want to get married this young though.

She is right about this. If the goal is to be married by 22/23 and you don't live in an area where this is normal (Boston, Harvard, etc. this would be a BIG outlier situation for her peers) than yeah, going older makes sense to accomplish that "goal." Most women (including myself) didn't want that. 27-32 was the ideal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://www.thecut.com/article/age-gap-relationships-marriage-younger-women-older-man.html

I am very interested to see the responses to this article. She says that since men are born "takers" women should demand a man that provides, aka an older man. Is this a good strategy?

I date a lot of much younger women but I would never think of marrying any of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it. The advantage of marrying this particular guy comes down to money, not his age. She went to Harvard - she could've easily become financially independent. Now she's dependent on maintaining his attention, for what?

I know a lot of people who didn’t go to Harvard who are financially independent. In fact they have Harvard graduates working for them.

[Anonymous]

Lol at all the old-woman cope on this subject. It’s a no-brainer that older men and younger women are a great match—that’s why it’s been done that way since the beginning of time.

But of course, the 40-something millionaire is the only man deemed acceptable as a partner for the divorced, 40-something woman. So, of course, she shames younger women for dating older men. After all, left to his own devices, of course the 40-something millionaire prefers the hot and easygoing 20-something over the bitter and “empowered” divorcée.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol at all the old-woman cope on this subject. It’s a no-brainer that older men and younger women are a great match—that’s why it’s been done that way since the beginning of time.

But of course, the 40-something millionaire is the only man deemed acceptable as a partner for the divorced, 40-something woman. So, of course, she shames younger women for dating older men. After all, left to his own devices, of course the 40-something millionaire prefers the hot and easygoing 20-something over the bitter and “empowered” divorcée.

Literally no one is saying that. You're derailing the conversation with your weird BS. Crawl back to your hole.

[Anonymous]

Both her parents seem to be hardcore Catholics and rabidly anti abortion activists. They are also both radiologists and parents to five children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol at all the old-woman cope on this subject. It’s a no-brainer that older men and younger women are a great match—that’s why it’s been done that way since the beginning of time.

But of course, the 40-something millionaire is the only man deemed acceptable as a partner for the divorced, 40-something woman. So, of course, she shames younger women for dating older men. After all, left to his own devices, of course the 40-something millionaire prefers the hot and easygoing 20-something over the bitter and “empowered” divorcée.

I prefer men at any age to have basic reading comprehension, a skill you evidently lack.

The author was 23 and her husband ten years older when they married four years ago. No one is over 40.

[Anonymous]

Too good not to share this spoof:

https://www.mcsweeneys.net/articles/the-case-for-marrying-a-prince-who-was-turned-into-a-beast-by-a-witch-and-then-transformed-back-again

[Anonymous]

Her article was just word salad. I hope her brother’s GF tells her to GTFO. What an insufferable person. But she knows that - she is trying to make a name for herself, and it worked (though I don’t intend to remember it, nor will I read more of her drivel).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It will be interesting to check in in 10 years and see how she feels about her choices. Whether she'll still be so pleased with herself

Yep. I too was deliriously happy married to my same age husband before kids. Kids are a tough transition for any relationship.

[Anonymous]

I beleive women should definitely marry providers closer to their own age or younger unless: the older man is rich enough that you can hire a nurse to care for him while you galavant around. Also women can get divorced (except poor Charlene) if they decode the relationship isn't working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol at all the old-woman cope on this subject. It’s a no-brainer that older men and younger women are a great match—that’s why it’s been done that way since the beginning of time.

But of course, the 40-something millionaire is the only man deemed acceptable as a partner for the divorced, 40-something woman. So, of course, she shames younger women for dating older men. After all, left to his own devices, of course the 40-something millionaire prefers the hot and easygoing 20-something over the bitter and “empowered” divorcée.

I prefer men at any age to have basic reading comprehension, a skill you evidently lack.

The author was 23 and her husband ten years older when they married four years ago. No one is over 40.

Funniest comment here PP is hilarious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol at all the old-woman cope on this subject. It’s a no-brainer that older men and younger women are a great match—that’s why it’s been done that way since the beginning of time.

But of course, the 40-something millionaire is the only man deemed acceptable as a partner for the divorced, 40-something woman. So, of course, she shames younger women for dating older men. After all, left to his own devices, of course the 40-something millionaire prefers the hot and easygoing 20-something over the bitter and “empowered” divorcée.

Except it’s not really normal, and the vast majority of men marry someone around their same age. Why? Because young women are largely not interested in dating older, especially when they have any other options. The only exception is when someone essentially goes the “mail order bride” route, which most men, successful or not, don’t want to do. The vast, vast majority of men, rich and otherwise, marry women their same age. https://twitter.com/datepsych/status/1773480865684713776