New York Mag saying young women should marry older men

[Anonymous]

I think the reality of life with a much older, successful man is going to be very different from what these young women imagine. They really think it's going to be a credit card with no limit, endless shopping sprees, vacationing in Gstaad lifestyle, when most of these rich dudes who want super young women are 1) creepy and off (most people want someone their own age, if only so they can attend functions with their partner and not get stared at/ostracized by their friends and friends' wives) 2) smart and calculating. They didnt earn their money by being a sweet gullible angel. They will likely build themselves an iron clad prenup and count every penny the young woman spends. She's not going to be awash in Chanel bags, she's going to be applying preparation H and warming up pizza rolls while hubby gets drunk with his golf buddies. They may have slightly more money but things will completely level out once their peers reach their 30s/40s, and when their older hubby retires things will go in the opposite direction financially. Very stupid logic on her part

[Anonymous]

My aunt's husband is ten years older than she is. 72 and 82. He was never physically fit and it's caught up to him with numerous issues the past five years. She has a ton of energy and it's sad to see.

[Anonymous]

Wowwe what a narcissistic piece of writing! Just … wow. Either that or there is something really wrong with the relationship and she’s doing some major reaction formation.

[Anonymous]

How do the old husbands age their wives?

[Anonymous]

Considering my husband of 18 years is 9 years my junior, I would have to disagree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Considering my husband of 18 years is 9 years my junior, I would have to disagree.

Love this. How did you meet?

[Anonymous]

This is only a good strategy if the woman grew up poor and all she has going for her is her looks or the ability to take care of an older man.

I knew older women who did this when they were younger to basically have a place.to live and three meals a day.

[Anonymous]

I don't get it. The advantage of marrying this particular guy comes down to money, not his age. She went to Harvard - she could've easily become financially independent. Now she's dependent on maintaining his attention, for what?

[Anonymous]

Plenty of data show that the marriages that last the longest are when men and women are close in age. 10 years up and you have a much higher divorce rate.

Have several aunts who married men 15-20 years older and I would never consider it based on their experience. it seems great when you're 25 or 30 and he's at the peak of his career. The situation gets ugly when the woman is 45, doing really well, married to someone in his 60s. And then they're widowed in their 50s. Most women who do this privately regret it but don't talk about it.

[Anonymous]

I disagree with the premise of the article and think it's most often a losing proposition to Mary an old man for money.
I agree with the author that men are takers. I learned this from my dad, fortunately, and have firm boundaries in my relationships with men (husband, colleagues, son). And I made my own financial security like I'm sure she could have done if she attended to Harvard Business School rather than just hunted at Harvard Business school.

[Anonymous]

I mean:

I don’t fool myself. My marriage has its cons. There are only so many times one can say “thank you” — for splendid scenes, fine dinners — before the phrase starts to grate. I live in an apartment whose rent he pays and that shapes the freedom with which I can ever be angry with him. He doesn’t have to hold it over my head. It just floats there, complicating usual shorthands to explain dissatisfaction like, You aren’t being supportive lately.

She's a kept woman with a wedding ring. Good for her if that's what she decided she wanted.

She's a weird writer but also obviously a compelling one who knows how to hit a nerve when writing about women. Sort of reminds me of - what was that blog, a hundred years ago, about the Congressional staffer having those affairs? I'd probably read this woman's novel.

It's sort of icky, though?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean:

I don’t fool myself. My marriage has its cons. There are only so many times one can say “thank you” — for splendid scenes, fine dinners — before the phrase starts to grate. I live in an apartment whose rent he pays and that shapes the freedom with which I can ever be angry with him. He doesn’t have to hold it over my head. It just floats there, complicating usual shorthands to explain dissatisfaction like, You aren’t being supportive lately.

She's a kept woman with a wedding ring. Good for her if that's what she decided she wanted.

She's a weird writer but also obviously a compelling one who knows how to hit a nerve when writing about women. Sort of reminds me of - what was that blog, a hundred years ago, about the Congressional staffer having those affairs? I'd probably read this woman's novel.

It's sort of icky, though?

Also lol:

When I return to work after maternal upheaval, he will aid me, as he’s always had, with his ability to put himself aside, as younger men are rarely able.

I think it's really funny that she is writing this as if he is absolutely ANCIENT and not merely the regular age at which people in DC have kids. I'm sure she'll be totally spared the trials and stresses that, like, everyone else in the world has because he was practically a corpse when they met and married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it. The advantage of marrying this particular guy comes down to money, not his age. She went to Harvard - she could've easily become financially independent. Now she's dependent on maintaining his attention, for what?

Her argument is basically that it would have taken her a good long while to earn the kind of money she gets to enjoy now as the wife of someone a whole decade older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is 27 and doesn't have kids yet, so I found it hilarious. He was born in 1987. He is younger than my teapot.

I’m not going to read this article because I literally could not care less, so by this math they were born in 1987 (him) and 1997 or 1996 (her). That’s about a 10 year age difference which is not that much? What is there to write a hot take about? He’s a Millennial and she’s close to one.

[Anonymous]

If a woman is ready to get married in her early 20s, then older men is where she’d need to look as that’s the pool where she will find more men who are ready for marriage and children rather than men her age. So, in a way, she’s right, IF that’s what she wants.

This changes as a woman gets older. Also, many women, do not want to get married this young though.