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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't get it. [b]The advantage of marrying this particular guy comes down to money, not his age.[/b] She went to Harvard - she could've easily become financially independent. Now she's dependent on maintaining his attention, for what?[/quote] This stood out to me too. I wonder what he does? He was in school when she met him and apparently they have few responsibilities, it's giving me trust fund vibes more than 10 years older being the sole factor. I say that as someone married to a husband 10 years older. We also have a partnership and not a "mentor/dependent" relationship like she describes. The whole article is pretty smug but also reads like a cope to intellectualize her decision to be a gold digger who I guess was happy to marry and not have a career? The part about only being able to get so angry or have so many needs because he pays all the bills seemed pretty toxic. Same with him providing the life roadmap she needs to get onboard with. IDK, I met my husband older (28/38) and had a decently established career myself and the age difference didn't seem like a huge deal at that point. Through the years, we have successfully switched back and forth on who has been the higher earner, so it's not a money thing for us. Their dynamic makes me cringe slightly, but if she's happy, ok? But the big thing was the money and she may have had that same dynamic with a similarly aged partner from a different social class. Curious about her background. I googled her and she wrote some other yuck article about being not cute and basically making it a goal to be hot and catch a man. Our age gaps may be similar but I didn't relate to this at all. [/quote]
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